So after a long thought process chatting with some trusted folks I have had the convo w a very dear friend from 5th grade who was a bridesmaid, and after tonight will not longer be:( my heart hurts in the decision but she last 20 minutes tops at our e party and her husband is an abusive piece of crap and bc of this and his not liking me she didn't tell him she was coming. I can't trust that she will follow thru w things and I can not deal w the stressif the oh I am finally leaving him and then years later they r still together.
It is so very hard bc since 5 th grade I have seen her there w me on my wedding day and I was her maid of honor 9 years ago. I just hope this is the right choice. I did tell her that if they r not together any longer by the time we order the dresses we can reconsider. I hate domestic violence and I hate having her lose herself bc of it too.
Thanks for listening!
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So after a long thought process chatting with some trusted folks I have had the convo w a very dear friend from 5th grade who was a bridesmaid, and after tonight will not longer be:( my heart hurts in the decision but she last 20 minutes tops at our e party and her husband is an abusive piece of crap and bc of this and his not liking me she didn't tell him she was coming. I can't trust that she will follow thru w things and I can not deal w the stressif the oh I am finally leaving him and then years later they r still together.
It is so very hard bc since 5 th grade I have seen her there w me on my wedding day and I was her maid of honor 9 years ago. I just hope this is the right choice. I did tell her that if they r not together any longer by the time we order the dresses we can reconsider. I hate domestic violence and I hate having her lose herself bc of it too.
Thanks for listening!
Aww I think I remember u telling us about her on the train ride home.. I know it was hard for you! Xoxox
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Oh my gosh I am so sorry she is going through that. I am sorry for you too Sometimes you have to let the friend go - hopefully she will make the right decision in the end & leave his stupid a**!
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That's really sad and I feel bad for the both of you. I know how frustrating it is watching your friend go through something like that....one of my oldest friends is in the same boat. I still haven't decided if I'm going to ask her to be a BM cause I get so angry at her for not leaving him and I can't be sure that the drama that comes with her relationship with him won't show up on my wedding day. All you can really do is to try to be there for her when the time comes when she'll really need you....
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Im sorry, that must be very hard to do. Maybe with time she will see that his behavior is wrong. I feel bad when women don't see the wrong in their significant other.
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I am proud of you Kat for being so strong, and I'm very sorry this had to happen. I think you made the right decision for you and your wedding. At this point, all you can do is be there to support her either way.
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I am proud of you Kat for being so strong, and I'm very sorry this had to happen. I think you made the right decision for you and your wedding. At this point, all you can do is be there to support her either way.
Well said Kristy!!!!
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Posted by KristyANDMatt224
I am proud of you Kat for being so strong, and I'm very sorry this had to happen. I think you made the right decision for you and your wedding. At this point, all you can do is be there to support her either way.
Well said Kristy!!!!
Good advice Kristy. I went through something similar and lost a best friend because of it. It's a horrible thing to have to deal with but if you get involved you will only end up being the bad guy. Sometimes you just have to take a step back and hope and pray that your friend realizes and gets out of the relationship. I'm here if you need someone to talk to. Hang in there.
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Wow.... I'm so sorry that is very hard to deal with but u made the right decision as hard as it was she should really open her eyes ..feel better
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Aww I'm sorry you're going through that. But I think you made the right choice and maybe you saying that will help her to see what she is doing to her life with that guy
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Sorry. It hard to watch people make decisions that hurt them. I hope your friend see whats going on and you can be close again. Seems like you made the right decisions for your wedding.
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I am sitting here crying after reading the support from you guys. Thank you for validating what I was feeling. I am sad but feel at peace w the decision which messes w my head too lol. In the end our friendship has been a dollar coaster bc of him and I really do need to let go to safe guard fh and I. This man is vindictive and he will do what he can to hurt us if we get involved and try to help her.
Thanks again ladies, your always here and know exactly what I need to hear!
