Bridesmaid Dilemma

I need some advice on how to approach a situation. I have already asked two of my three bridesmaids, but because of scheduling conflicts, I have not asked the third. I was supposed to see her on Monday, but she cancelled last minute. Recently, she has been having marital problems (she has only been married 2 1/2 years, really sad). She is horribly confused and she is a nervous type of person to begin with. I really want her to be a bridesmaid but I am unsure of how she will feel about it considering her present situation.

Two things I need advice with:

1) Do I try again to get together and see her and ask her or do it over the phone?

2) What do I do if she says she doesn't know? Do I say I would like to know by a certain time?

Please advise ladies! I am confused

I think you should call her and explain you tried to ask her in person but, her friendship means a lot to you and you would very much like to know if you would be in your bridal party.

When is your wedding? Unless you need/want a certain # in your bridal party or need to order the dresses, give her time, it shouldn't really be an issue. I think it's an honor to be asked to stand up for you on your special day.

GOOD LUCK!