So...on 6/7, I am going bridesmaid dress shopping with 2 of my 5 BMs. I was telling my Mom about it today, annd she said 'Oh, I am so excited, I can't wait to do this shopping with you girls!'. I wasnt planning on having Mom come with me for the initial shopping....so I said something to the effect extremely nicelyy and kindly that I really wanted to spend time with my girls and do the whole dress shopping thing with them to spend some time with them. Well, Mom flipped - like threw a hissy fit that I wasn't including her. I didnt want to include her on this bc I feel as though this is something I should do with 'my girls' and that Mom and I have totally opposites tastes in dresses. I am including Mom on everything else. Ugh. She is really shocked and appalled that i didnt want her to come, and can't understnad why. I tried to be reasonable about it with her and said to her that I wanted to spend time with my girls, but she started to get this mega attitude with me and basically made me feel like sh*t (Dad is on my side about this...and tried to talk to my Mom about it - with no avail). So...did you ladies include your Moms on the initial BM dress shopping with your BMs? Am I looking at this the wrong way?
Thanks guys... I am just upset because something I was so happy about initially now made me so upset...
asg450
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I actually never thought of bringing my mom along to shop for BM dresses. I wanted her there when I went shopping for my dress, but I don't think my mom would even care if she was invited or not for the BM dresses.
I do think your mom is over-reacting; you did explain it to her nicely. Maybe she's having a bad day. At least your dad is on your side; which probably pissed her off even more I bet. I do not think you did or said anything wrong. Hopefully she comes around.
GR2010
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I really only plan on bringing my mom shopping for my dress and going with her for hers... but I have a feeling she is going to be upset when I tell her this. She is so excited about the whole wedding and everything in general and she's so cute about it.... so if she REALLY wants to I'll let her come... but I kind of picture it being a day for me and my BMs.
no, my stepmom only came with us to shop for my dress - bridesmaid dresses I did with just the girls...
MayBride2010
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Ok - thanks girls :) Mom honestly threw me for a loop on this....I have included her on EVERYTHING else and shopping for my dress (of which she had a huge part in the decision making). I guess I was totally taken off guard. It's only going to be me and a few of the BMs for the BM dress shopping...I think Mom is a little hurt - but I have talked to her about it. Dad also talked to her about it and told her I can handle this on my own and to trust me...(not sure how she took that one)
It is just so hard trying to please everyone (especially my mother) with this wedding...and I am trying not to loose sight that this is FH's and my day...
JAAMS
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Yikes, I'm sorry you're having such issues.
And I am not bringing anyone but my girls to look at their dresses.
Lsorrent
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I actually DO plan to bring my mom BM dress shopping and possibly even FMIL. But I'm also only bringing my 2 MOH's (sisters) and one BM (FSIL) to pick out the dresses. I have 4 other girls that will just have to go with the dress we all agree on.
My mother is my biggest critic and is always COMPLETELY honest (sometimes a little too honest) so I know I can trust her opinion on whether or not dresses will look good, appropriate, match, etc. She also has great taste in formal wear, so I want her input in this.
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oh hellls no!!!! lol. no offense but my mom trys sendin me these hideous pics of bridesmaids dresses and we have completely different style. anytime I show her a dress she's like, 'u like that?', Soo I am just goin to take the girls.. Besides honestly I would take my dad shopping for dresses befroe I would take her, he has more fashion sense,, lol.. Don't feel bad.. u should be doin that with the girls, I dont think ur mom needs to go at all unless her opinion is extremely important to you! hope this helps!! :)
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My aunt who is acting in MOB role, actually asked me if she can come BM dress shopping. I told her that initially I am only going with my MOHs, but when I have all the BMs together for the second trip she can come. I think it is just easier with less opinions for the initial shopping trip.
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I'm sorry she bugged out...she shouldn't have. She definitely needs to be more understanding. My mom will probably only come to see the BM dresses when my sisters go.
