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Hi everyone...I have a question to ask about bridesmaids and thier opinions about the dresses I like...I have had several girls who are in the party openly make requests about style...I was a little put off about it because I have been a bridesmaid before and never said a thing. Do you think it is unreasonable to not ask what thet would want?
are you taking anyone with you to pick it out (like the MOH)? You could take into consideration what they like, but ultimately it's up to you, and somewhat, the maid of honor gets a say.....JMO.....
Sad to say I've asked my matrom to go with me 2 times but for reasons she gives me she has not been able to go...at this point if I find something I love I would get it...am I wrong?
nope, if she can't get it together, then go yourself and pick it out, and tell them that you factored in thier opinions, and budgets, and styles, and you hope that they will respect your choice. Don't stress about it....I'm sure you'll pick something lovely, and there are a lot of really cute dresses out now.
Be sure to take into account that not all girls will look & feel good in a particular dress style...Usually an A Line dress will make most people happy.
My girls had a say in the dress, but basically it was up to me. I have a friend who is getting married in Nov. and she e-mailed us a picture of a BM dress she liked. Three of her 7 BM complained about it, that they didn't like it, and she got very upset, I also really didn't care for the dress either, but I kept my mouth shut, because I would be upset if someone said that to me.
I considered the fact that one of my attendants is a borderline plus size. She is also self conscious of certain parts of her body. I asked her what she preferred as far as style goes and she requested sleeves. I have combed every website anad magazine for dresses and just about every dress either had spaghetti straps or was strapless. Anything with sleeves IMO, looked dowdy and matronly. She said she would wear a wrap which is all well and good but to be honest, I know I wouldn't want to wear a wrap all night. I can't imagine thaat she would either. We are all going dress shopping tomorrow. She may have to compromise a bit because I will not have my BP look dowdy and frumpy.
Posted by Goldi1021
I considered the fact that one of my attendants is a borderline plus size. She is also self conscious of certain parts of her body. I asked her what she preferred as far as style goes and she requested sleeves. I have combed every website anad magazine for dresses and just about every dress either had spaghetti straps or was strapless. Anything with sleeves IMO, looked dowdy and matronly. She said she would wear a wrap which is all well and good but to be honest, I know I wouldn't want to wear a wrap all night. I can't imagine thaat she would either. We are all going dress shopping tomorrow. She may have to compromise a bit because I will not have my BP look dowdy and frumpy.
I found a few dresses that I liked first but them took my BMs to try them on and see how they liked them. They are the ones who will be wearing the dress, I did not want them to be stuck wearing a dress that they hated or was uncomfortable. We ended up deciding on one that everyone liked.
Posted by Rebecca B
Hi everyone...I have a question to ask about bridesmaids and thier opinions about the dresses I like...I have had several girls who are in the party openly make requests about style...I was a little put off about it because I have been a bridesmaid before and never said a thing. Do you think it is unreasonable to not ask what thet would want?
I have sent pictures to my BM's and they all gave me opinions but have said what you decide is the final call except for one who says I can't where this dress cuz I have big boobs and I need to wear a bra with straps meanwhile I have another friend who i s also very busty and I had asked her if she would have a problem with certain dresses like low back or spaghetti straps and she said no n ot at all she can find a bra that has a low back or a strapless bra. OR even have cups put into the dress. So I said to myself if she can do this so can the other busty Bridesmaid. Also I have one that insists on strapless dress and most of the other girls don't want strapless cuz they don't want to be picking up the top of the dress the entire nite and I agree with them. The only one that will be different is the MOH and thats it. I am taking my MOH and two of the BM's with me the two that I am taking with me I have been friends with the longest and we all have similar taste so I won't have problems with them. After we pick out like two or three dresses I will ahve the others go and see which ones they like out of the dresses and which ever dress gets the most votes that the dress we go with
Thanks to all who responded...I am going to do my best to make everyone involved feel good about what I will pick.. It's impossible to please everyone and I think for my one day there should be a compromise on their part.
I sent out an email the other day asking if and what preferances they have ONLY because I CANNOT pick and some restrictions will help to narrow the search. So far everyone has written 'whatever you want' and I need some limitataions!!! LOL
I asked and they were honest. Some didn't like it. and that hurt and it sucked. but I love looking at dresses so I went back again and looked to see them again and what else there was. Now... I found another dress that I love even more and they all like it. And it's cheaper!! so you never know.
Posted by Donna
Why don't you look at separates then? Your friend can choose a top w/sleeves, another girl can choose strapless, etc. I think David's and alfred Angelo have these options. There are probably other dress lines that offer it too.
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