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bridesmaid dresses: conflict question

Original post by Rebecca B

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Hi everyone...I have a question to ask about bridesmaids and thier opinions about the dresses I like...I have had several girls who are in the party openly make requests about style...I was a little put off about it because I have been a bridesmaid before and never said a thing. Do you think it is unreasonable to not ask what thet would want?

Backinneyork Thread views: 1,638

Re: bridesmaid dresses: conflict question

You definitely have enough time to go dress shopping. Why don't you try to set up another date with your MOH?

I picked the color and designer and the girls all picked a different dress. You want everyone to be comfortable.

You may not want to do what I did, but you may want to take their suggestions into consideration a little bit. They are spending a lot of money on a dress they'll probably never wear again.

If you were short on time this may be a differeny story, but you have at least 6-7 months to figure it out. You may even want to wait until the new dresses some out in the fall.

edsprincess Thread views: 1,638

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I am pretty flexible about what the girls wear. I had picked out a dress and both my bridesmaid's didn't like the way the one piece fit, so they found the same thing in a 2 piece. As long as they match and in my color I want I could care less. And my moh wanted a strappless dress so I allowed it but in the same color as the other girls. They have to be comfortable in it too. And i wanted them to be able to wear it again.

suven Thread views: 1,638

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I brought 1 (the biggest) with me when I picked out gowns. She loved it.

A line. V-neck. Shawl.

So, the rest were much smaller girls, between sizes 2 and 12, so I just told them what to get.

My MOH was a little huffy, but I was paying for her gown anyway, so I wasn't about to listen to any crap. But, she actually went out and picked out another dress. That became an issue and was QUICKLY resolved.

Pmpkn087 Thread views: 1,638

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My MOH chose the dress. I kept into consideration how it would look on every body type (all girls are basically thin). Then we picked 2 different dresses and the rest of the girls chose.

orchid24 Thread views: 1,638

Re: bridesmaid dresses: conflict question

get the dress you want. there are too many opinions to be able to agree esp. if your bridesmaids are diff. sizes. i bought all my bridesmaids gowns b/c they're mostly out of town and then they just reimbursed me for the cost of the gown. it was much easier this way.

amazon_gracie Thread views: 1,638

Re: bridesmaid dresses: conflict question

Most of my bms are not too financially stable so I wanted them to have a bigger say in their dress choice. I didn't want to burden them too much financially and wanted them to get a dress that they would wear again so it's a bit more cost effective. Basically, I'm giving suggestions and letting them pick out the dress... with my final approval, of course.

When I was a BM though, I never once said anything. But then again, it was my sister's wedding, I was the youngest BM, and our mom paid for my dress.