So, most of you know of the situation with one of my bridesmaids. She is the one that went bridezilla on me when I was her MOH because I did not ride the shuttle back to the hotel with her...
I helped throw her shower, purchased favors and organized her NYC bachelorette party that included private room dinner, burlesque club, NYC hotel stay at The Roosevelt Hotel and then had all the girls stay at my parents on LI so we could attend her shower the next day. We hosted a breakfast as well.
This bm (aka bridezilla who went ape shiiit on me on her wedding day)
1. Didn't come to my shower this past weekend. 2. is not coming to my bachelorette 3. did not send a shower gift or a card 4. did not help in anyway except for sending a 'mix cd' that had weird songs like Whitesnake's 'Here I go again...'
She lives in California and claims to be broke.... I flew out to her wedding in California gave her a very generous gift etc.
My question is, my bm's with my mother threw me the most amazing shower. She contributed nothing....
Do I not give her the same BM that I am giving all the other girls? and if I don't, how do I go about doing that?
TIA!!!
snwb08
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She doesn't sound like a friend at all, certainly not the friend you deserve, especially after you went above and beyond for her!
I don't want to give you more to stress about, but at this point, the way she is handling this, are you sure she will even be at the RD, not to mention the wedding?
At this point, I don't think you should think twice about her stepping down. See you said you have knots in your stomach? You don't need to feel that way...she clearly isn't thinking twice about how you're feeling about all of this. And, chances are, if she can't make the effort for you now for your wedding, more than likely she won't after the wedding. So, do what is going to put yourself at ease! You deserve better than that.
absoloodle! ITA!
I hate to hear something like that...people are amazing.
Not to hijack the thread, but congratulations, Silvana! Did I miss a thread when you returned from your HM?
nah, i didn't post! i haven't posted many pics either - I just posted a couple in helen's thread. I'm trying to motivate to write a review... I got all my pro pics back and now I feel like it's too late to post, three weeks later my wedding is old news.
but thanks for asking! I need to upload the HM pics off DH's camera; that's my next task.
Gigi08
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Posted by Gigi08
She doesn't sound like a friend at all, certainly not the friend you deserve, especially after you went above and beyond for her!
I don't want to give you more to stress about, but at this point, the way she is handling this, are you sure she will even be at the RD, not to mention the wedding?
At this point, I don't think you should think twice about her stepping down. See you said you have knots in your stomach? You don't need to feel that way...she clearly isn't thinking twice about how you're feeling about all of this. And, chances are, if she can't make the effort for you now for your wedding, more than likely she won't after the wedding. So, do what is going to put yourself at ease! You deserve better than that.
absoloodle! ITA!
I hate to hear something like that...people are amazing.
Not to hijack the thread, but congratulations, Silvana! Did I miss a thread when you returned from your HM?
nah, i didn't post! i haven't posted many pics either - I just posted a couple in helen's thread. I'm trying to motivate to write a review... I got all my pro pics back and now I feel like it's too late to post, three weeks later my wedding is old news.
but thanks for asking! I need to upload the HM pics off DH's camera; that's my next task.
Gotcha. I meant to FM you...just wanted to make sure I didn't miss them.
NapaValleyGirl
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nah, i didn't post! i haven't posted many pics either - I just posted a couple in helen's thread. I'm trying to motivate to write a review... I got all my pro pics back and now I feel like it's too late to post, three weeks later my wedding is old news.
but thanks for asking! I need to upload the HM pics off DH's camera; that's my next task.
Silvana!!! Post the review!!! 3 weeks is NOT a long time!!
snwb08
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nah, i didn't post! i haven't posted many pics either - I just posted a couple in helen's thread. I'm trying to motivate to write a review... I got all my pro pics back and now I feel like it's too late to post, three weeks later my wedding is old news.
but thanks for asking! I need to upload the HM pics off DH's camera; that's my next task.
Silvana!!! Post the review!!! 3 weeks is NOT a long time!!
no i know, i meant posting pictures at all... i posted a few in florezpeeps thread! just a few...
NapaValleyGirl
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nah, i didn't post! i haven't posted many pics either - I just posted a couple in helen's thread. I'm trying to motivate to write a review... I got all my pro pics back and now I feel like it's too late to post, three weeks later my wedding is old news.
but thanks for asking! I need to upload the HM pics off DH's camera; that's my next task.
Silvana!!! Post the review!!! 3 weeks is NOT a long time!!
no i know, i meant posting pictures at all... i posted a few in florezpeeps thread! just a few...
Going to look now!
Gigi08
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nah, i didn't post! i haven't posted many pics either - I just posted a couple in helen's thread. I'm trying to motivate to write a review... I got all my pro pics back and now I feel like it's too late to post, three weeks later my wedding is old news.
but thanks for asking! I need to upload the HM pics off DH's camera; that's my next task.
Silvana!!! Post the review!!! 3 weeks is NOT a long time!!
no i know, i meant posting pictures at all... i posted a few in florezpeeps thread! just a few...
Going to look now!
They weren't showing both times I checked, Sil.
dazies1011
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I would have kicked her but...I say give her less then the other gilrs.
