bridesmaid hair and makeup

I have a question. I can't afford to pay for the bridesmaid hair or make up, and I am not sure what to do. I am getting married early in the morning therefore the makeup artist and hair women said i should start getting ready at 5am. So, if my bridesmaids wanted to get there hair or makeup done somewhere else no where will be open. I asked two of the bridesmaids yesterday if they wanted to get their hair or makeup done and they said it was up to me. I can tell that they don't want to pay for either. I want my pictures to look really nice and everyone to look nice in. I was thinking of telling them they should get one or the other done but I feel like its not my place to say that since I can't pay for either. But then I started thinking and since my ceremony is in the morning and the reception is an early afternoon reception, do they really have to get all dolled up? Ah, i just don't know what to tell them. They told me to think it over and let them know!

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I'm not paying for my bridesmaids, I'm letting them do whatever. My MOH is using my hair and make-up girl, one bridesmaid is having her friend do both for cheap, and then I'm not sure what the others are doing. They're all paying for their own stuff. If they have a friend that does a good job have them check and see if they'll come and do it for cheap. I don't think you should worry though b/c if they do it themselves they're not going to look bad they just might not look really done up but nothing stand outish.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I am giving my girls $50 towards their hair, which is part of my bridesmaid gift to them along with earrings and a silk robe.I figured with all the money they have been spending, the 50 may help a little. None of them wanted to get their makeup done which im fine with because it's super expensive

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I'm not paying for my bridesmaids hair or make up either. I offered to them that if they wanted to use who I'm using it would be x amount of dollars & left it up to them. Some are using my hair & make up girls and a couple of my girls are just doing it themselves which I'm totally fine with. Either way I'm sure everyone will look beautiful.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

i'm not paying, but I told them I wanted them to at least do hair with me- makeup is optional. So, the girls will all come to the hair salon and hangout all together which is really what I wanted (got them cute outfits to get ready in and stuff like that), and we can have breakfast together and spend time with just the girls before the wedding

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I am not paying for anyone's makeup or hair but they are all getting it done. I think we all understand that it's just a day to look nicer and get dolled up and we all do it for each other's weddings.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

Any time I've been in a wedding, I was always given the option to have hair and makeup done, but it was never required. If you're going to insist that they have their hair and/or makeup done, I would imagine you would have to pay for it. I'm having my hair and makeup done and told all of my girls, if you want to have yours done this is what it costs, but you don't HAVE to.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I'm not paying for anyone either, but did express that I'd like them to get their hair done, but ultimately left the choice up to them. Also, for the girls who haven't decided if they wanted to get their makeup done, my mom purchased an airbrush machine along with a few different shades of foundations for them to use. I had most of the girls over, and we tried it out at my house. Some of the girls loved it and decided that they were gonna use it the day of. The other girls opted to have their makeup professionally done after a few unsuccessful attempts lol

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I'm not paying for any of my girls. My MOH doesn't want her makeup done, and I think at this point she doesn't want to pay for hair. I was going to give her a pretty clip or something to add to her hair. My FSILs (other BMs) are going to their own hair person, and I know they want their makeup done, but I'm not sure if they want to use my person or not because the times I think will be way off if they are going somewhere else Sunday morning. I'm sure with it being your wedding they will all be on their game and make sure they look their best.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I'm paying and I probably can't afford it but I want the pictures to look nice and I also want the experience of getting ready together. I was going to ask them to give me $50 each for both but I haven't decided yet. I just know that if I left it up to them, they would opt out which is fine because it definitely isn't cheap and it is possible to do on your own. I totally get your confusion.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

This is where my OCD comes out...

With the 2 weddings I've been in, hair & makeup was always optional at the BMs expense. However, I personally never thought of it as optional. I think when you sign up as a BM you're kinda obligated to it. Although I truly believe that all the Brides thought differently - that was MY feelings.

I hate the look of everyone having their hair done, and 1 girl just having it down. To me that just looks weird. So because of my issues, I'm making my girls (I have 9 girls too) get their hair done. I'm paying for all their hair (it's part of their BM gift). I personally would never make it a requirement unless paying or contributing towards it. But that's my 2 cents.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I have hair and makeup coming to our bridal suite at the hotel, but they are not obligated to get it done since i'm not paying for it.. regardless, 7 out of 8 of them are getting everything done anyway.

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I would maybe ask them to get their hair done at least and then make makeup optional. Make up isn't as big of a deal, and I don't think it'll make that big of a difference in pictures if girls do their own make up (most are probably in their 20s or 30s and probably know a thing of two about applying their own makeup). Hair however is a different story and your wedding is an elegant affair. For your pictures to look cohesive, I would ask them to get their hair done.

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Posted by Alimm729

Any time I've been in a wedding, I was always given the option to have hair and makeup done, but it was never required. If you're going to insist that they have their hair and/or makeup done, I would imagine you would have to pay for it. I'm having my hair and makeup done and told all of my girls, if you want to have yours done this is what it costs, but you don't HAVE to.

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bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

I feel your pain. My girls are not from LI and they are not in a financial position to do either or both. I did my best to find the best quality for the best price. I let them in on it and said they are welcome to get their hair done with my girl, or they can bring whoever or whatever is necessary to get theirs done if they don't want her. I had to drop the expectation that everyone will do what I would have done. If I can't pay, I can't say!

bridesmaid hair and makeup - Long Island Weddings

Hi Everyone.

Thank you so much! I told them that I would prefer if they could get their hair and make up done, but it is optional and i understand if they can't. I won't be mad. I had a trial for makeup yesterday with a friend and she actually gave me a really awesome quote for the bridesmaids make up--under $50 so I am hoping they chose at least one option!