Bridesmaid Help...Could use opinion....(LONG)

So, I currently have 7 Bridesmaids...all of whom I'm 100% certain about....
But, over the past two years, I've become close to Fh's best friend's wife. She's the sweetest thing...we get along so well, text each other, discuss family life, etc....and I really enjoy her company.

I consider her one of my close friends, but I didn't ask her to be in my wedding bc I've only known her for a short time.

FH and her husband have been best friends for 10+ years. I feel that, over time, the four of us will only grow closer.

do you think that I should go ahead and ask her to be a part of the wedding (her husband is a groomsman)? Or, do you think it's too soon--and we haven't known each other long enough?

i don't want her to feel like an 'add on.' What would you guys do?

I think if she is in fact one of your close friends why not ask her. I think if you want her to be a part of your special day, then she should be. Who cares if it has been a while since you asked your bridal party.

If you don't want her to be a BM maybe she could be your something blue, or maybe do a reading at your wedding (i don't know what type of ceremony your having). She clearly mean's a lot to you, and FH so i'm sure that you can find a way to include her in your special day! HTH

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Posted by SEB102707

I think if she is in fact one of your close friends why not ask her. I think if you want her to be a part of your special day, then she should be. Who cares if it has been a while since you asked your bridal party.

If you don't want her to be a BM maybe she could be your something blue, or maybe do a reading at your wedding (i don't know what type of ceremony your having). She clearly mean's a lot to you, and FH so i'm sure that you can find a way to include her in your special day! HTH

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I totally agree.

I would absolutely include her as a BM! One of my Bridesmaids is FH's friend and after a few months of dating, we began going on a lot of couple dates with her and her bf, which then turned into weekend vacations etc. Since then, her and I talk about pretty much everything and she has become such a great friend. I thought it was cool to include her not only because she's a friend to me, but also a friend to FH. I've only known her for about 2 and 1/2 years, so I don't think time matters.

I feel, if you hang out and talk with this person on a somewhat normal basis and you feel comfortable to hangout with her without your signifiant others, then do what makes you happy! If not for whatever reason, maybe do like the other girls mentioned and make her feel special in another way

Thanks, girls....I think I'll ask her for Christmas. probably buy her a J. Crew gift certificate (that's where our dresses are from) and put it in a 'wil you be my BM?' card....

I really appreciate your help!