Bridesmaid troubles...any advice would help!
I hope this doesn't get too long, but i do need some advice.
One of my (supposed) best friends is a bridesmaid. She and I have always been close, but ever since I told her I was engaged almost 6 months ago, she has completey distanced herself from me. Of course I asked her to be a bridesmaid, and she said yes, but quite honestly, in 6 months we have maybe talked about the wedding 3 times.
She shows no interest in anything I have to say - when it came to choosing which BM dress I wanted, I asked her opinion to involve her but she basically ignored me. She rarely calls me and when we talk she never really asks anything about the wedding.
We did talk about this situation once - she told me that I was distancing myself (which honestly I don't see since I've been try more than ever to be in contact with her), I thought we resolved everything but now it's worse.
To make matters worse, she keeps complaining about how much it will cost her to be in my wedding. I'm getting married in Ireland - I know that flights are expensive and I told her as soon as I knew so that she (and the other girls) could get as good a deal as possible. The thing is, she can afford it - she lives at home with NO expenses and makes more than I do! If it were someone who really couldn't afford it I don't think I'd be so bothered but I KNOW she can, and if she couldn't I know for a fact that her parents would pay for it for her.
I told all the girls that if they cannot come because of expense I completely understand, but the other girls haven't backed out, complained, in fact they couldn't be more excited. What do I do? I can't take her constant complaining - it's making me feel horrible and guilty for something I can't control and I totally feel as though she is trying to ease her way out of the wedding. She hasn't even asked about hotels there or anything which really makes me think she's not planning on coming. At this point I wish I'd never asked her. If she's not going to come, I just want her to tell me now so that I don't have to stress out over it - but how do I ask her and make her give me an honest answer?
Sorry this is so long - I hope it's clear. If anyone can give any advice I'd appreciate it.
One of my (supposed) best friends is a bridesmaid. She and I have always been close, but ever since I told her I was engaged almost 6 months ago, she has completey distanced herself from me. Of course I asked her to be a bridesmaid, and she said yes, but quite honestly, in 6 months we have maybe talked about the wedding 3 times.
She shows no interest in anything I have to say - when it came to choosing which BM dress I wanted, I asked her opinion to involve her but she basically ignored me. She rarely calls me and when we talk she never really asks anything about the wedding.
We did talk about this situation once - she told me that I was distancing myself (which honestly I don't see since I've been try more than ever to be in contact with her), I thought we resolved everything but now it's worse.
To make matters worse, she keeps complaining about how much it will cost her to be in my wedding. I'm getting married in Ireland - I know that flights are expensive and I told her as soon as I knew so that she (and the other girls) could get as good a deal as possible. The thing is, she can afford it - she lives at home with NO expenses and makes more than I do! If it were someone who really couldn't afford it I don't think I'd be so bothered but I KNOW she can, and if she couldn't I know for a fact that her parents would pay for it for her.
I told all the girls that if they cannot come because of expense I completely understand, but the other girls haven't backed out, complained, in fact they couldn't be more excited. What do I do? I can't take her constant complaining - it's making me feel horrible and guilty for something I can't control and I totally feel as though she is trying to ease her way out of the wedding. She hasn't even asked about hotels there or anything which really makes me think she's not planning on coming. At this point I wish I'd never asked her. If she's not going to come, I just want her to tell me now so that I don't have to stress out over it - but how do I ask her and make her give me an honest answer?
Sorry this is so long - I hope it's clear. If anyone can give any advice I'd appreciate it.
