I haven't picked out my bridal party yet. Wel except my MOH but we decided that years ago! Anyway, I hear about bridesmaids duties all the time and dissappointing BMs. What exactly are they supposed to be responsible for?
eperlman
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Mine aren't really responsible for anything besides being there for me. My mother and FMIL put together the Shower. They just met me for dresses and we're going out together for the Bachlorette party this weekend. I've paid for the Shower when I was in a friend's wedding or helped set up. Also, they come to you early the day of the wedding for pictures and probably for your sanity to have your closest friends by me.
cindyandkevin
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The BMs duties really are up to you. How much do you want them to be responsible for? How involved do you want them to be?
I loved planning my wedding and had a lot of help from my mom. My MOH also helped out a little when I needed her. My BMs did what they had to do as far as their attire, shower, and b-party. And I was happy with that, but some brides want their BMs to be more involved.
The only fair thing to do is to sit down with them, or send them a newletter-type thing, to discuss what's expected on both ends. Keeping the lines of communication open to make sure everyone is on the same page will lead to a happy bride AND happy BMs.
rkl1130
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It is really up to you what they are responsible for and how much of a hand they have in everything.
My BMs didn't have a hard time since I have done everything. They are planning the shower and the bachelorette party and got dresses. Other than that, I haven't asked much from them other than to be there to help me when needed and for the support.
It might be a good idea to sit them down and talk over wedding stuff and let them know what your expectations are in the beginning so that they are aware.
Nlynn
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My bridesmaids are helping me out alot. One of my bridesmaids helped me create wine labels for my party favors. She is going to help me set them all up. My other bridesmaid is going to help me with the invitations. I am so lucky!!!!
drpepper318
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I don't really expect them to do anything other than show up on time for the wedding in their dresses Anything else they've done is icing on the cake. I want them to enjoy the experience and not have a ton of responsibilities. I know they'll be there to laugh with me and they'll calm me down when I'm freaking out. They're all great (I chose wisely!)
