Do you think ALL the Bridesmaids in the Bridal Party should contribute to the Bride's Bridal Shower?? Or Do you think it's the MOH's responsibility?
Maybride519
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I honestly would not expect neither to be financially responsible. My parents are paying. IMO
I edited to add that if the BP is throwing the shower than naturally I would think they would contribute but it didn't appear to me that, this is what the question was.
JanuaryBride06
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I think that if it's established that the BP is throwing it that they should all contribute.
eta - if the MOB and/or MOG or anyone else is throwing it, they should offer help as far as picking things up, compiling guest list - something.
angnick
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I agree. My parents are paying as well. However, if parents do not pay, then yes i think BM's should contribute.
Nali
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I think they should all help out...
pebbles78
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Thats a good question...my mother needed the contact info for all the girls, right-so this week my MOH calls me and my mother refuses to speak with her. Once I get off the phone, she comes running in and says she can't stand my MOH-b/c she wants nothing to do with the bridal shower-shes too tired after work...I'm thinking what is up with that..and also I was annoyed at my mother for sharing this info with me...I mean I can't believe should would be so rude about it---so she said that she was going to contact the other girls and get there help- I told her that she should--they would love to be a part of it. So I agree with you, that the other bridesmaids should take part in the preparation and ideas for the shower.
MrsFelix
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Well I think the bridal shower should be organized and contributed to by the bridal party with the MOH being the main organizer. The Bachelorette party should be the responsibility of the MOH, she should pay for Bride and herself. All others should be paid for by themselves, including bridal party.
reenielady
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All of bm's should contribute. The MOH should be the had organizer.
MattsBride
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In my family the MOB hosts the shower, but I think if the BP is hosting everyone should contribute, not just the MOH.
tracy2246
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I think that it is unfair to expect anything from anyone and peple should contribute what they can
mgrote
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Everyone is suppose to contribute or else they shouldn't be in your wedding
ewickens
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My aunts are throwing me my shower but my MOH is helping them organize it and sending the invites out. My bridesmaids are attending, but I don't think my MOH has asked them to do anything.
SuzBride
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Posted by reenielady
All of bm's should contribute. The MOH should be the head organizer.
I agree.
shellnroc
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Thanks for your feedback ladies. I appreciate your opinions.
I wanted to see what others thought about this.
I just want to say that I do not expect anything from anyone.
I just honestly always thought, it was the MOH who set it up and the BMS help out.
When I was in my friends wedding we all chipped in and gave her a bridal party. I just thought it was a given if you are part of a Bridal Party.
BJandDan
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It shouldn't be a matter of responsibility. They are spending a lot of money on their dress, shoes, possibly makeup and hair. If they can afford it, then that is great. If not, I wouldn't be upset.
suzybilly819
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I would not expect the BP to be financially responsible for the party. My mom is paying for it.
However, if the BP is doing it, it should be shared it is not fair to burden the MOH like that. JMO
sarahthegreat
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for me, the mob and mog are paying for the shower.
but, i think that if the bp is paying, the moh should be included.
dbleplay17
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my mom is paying for the bridal shower
my BMs are helping out. My MOH is the coordinator though...I believe she is the one with the say. But my mom talks to my MOH
So they are all a joint effort
for my friends (I was a BM) her mom paid for the place and we did like all the other stuff. she got the place we did favors, wishing wells, invites...etc
SweetCin704
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My mom had paid for my first shower (first time around) & was kinda against the idea of any 2nd shower...well, FH is an only child & his mom felt her son should be entitled to all the benefits....it seems my bp is paying for the shower w/ my MOH in charge of it all. (FMIL paid for our eparty & the RD)
ellengrisal
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I think the brides parents or someone related should pay for the shower. However, I also don't think brides should automatically assume they are having a shower. It seems these days lots of brides expectations are very high. I would feel awful having my friends contribute money towards a party for me. They are my friends and BM's because I love them, but I certainly don't want them to spend money on a party for me. I'm sure I am in the minority here but I just wanted to express my feelings.
