Sooo,..... what exactly are you asking from your BM & MOH to do? I understand paying for their dresses. But some brides want other things, maybe help with vendors appt, or help with DIY projects.....what do you ask from your BM& MOH???????
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I havent asked anything yet but i would say overall to support you. If I am going to a bridal show or a vendor appointment and I ask one of the girls that will be my BM I would expect them to help or go. The reason they are our BM is b/c they are friends and family who we can rely on to be there when we need them. If not they don't deserve to stand up there with us! : )
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I haven't really asked for anything so far and don't plan to ask for much either. Right now they are really there to just listen and for their support on my ideals and stuff. I keep them updated and they are always asking me how things are going. They will of course be responsible for their attire and hair and makeup if they choose to do it professionally. The main thing I will ask of them is to plan the bridal shower with my mom. But I will make it known I want something very simple. I don't want them to spend a lot of money. I'm sure as it gets closer there will be things I need help with and I know my girls will do what they can to help out. Most of all I just want my girls standing next to me on my special day.
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hmmmm.....sounds good. So with my BM boxes I'm making, I will place responsibility cards inside also as well as thank you cards...... I was in a wedding were the BM did nothing but show up. As the MOH, which I was. I felt overwhelmed cause no one initiated anything.
jassy119
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That sucks. Its def best to let all your girls know what you expect and that all your girls are on the same page.
I plan to have a lil G2G with my girls sometime soon and I want to discuss things with them and also have them all trade contact info and stuff so everyone can be in touch if needed and everyone knows what is going on and what is expected.
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That sucks. Its def best to let all your girls know what you expect and that all your girls are on the same page.
I plan to have a lil G2G with my girls sometime soon and I want to discuss things with them and also have them all trade contact info and stuff so everyone can be in touch if needed and everyone knows what is going on and what is expected.
yep, and the bride got upset at me because a bachelorette party wasn't thrown after we surprised her with a tent shower. I was sooo upset. Her bachelorette party never happened cause all the BM did not want to initiate a thing. She didn't either. Yep Im doing the same. A lil G2G at my house where I will officially ask them to be my BM.
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I feel like I can't ask my MOH and BMs to do much because they are out of state or from upstate NY.
My MOH asked if she gets to plan a bachlorette. It won't be until the night before the wedding, so it will probably be a lowkey, time for the girls just to chill and that's okay by me.
My one BM is a graphic designer. We've already chatted -she is creating a pattern/design for my invites, RSVP cards, etc. We've spoken about it briefly and she's free to have the time to do it from March to June, and volunteers her services. I've got a really simple concept in mind.. so hopefully she can just lay it out so I can print it.
The third - I'm just hoping she shows and is there
I think that's my thing - I want them to be there, be happy and be with me. I'm asking them to buy their dresses but will be looking to keep it cheap (under $150 if possible) and shoes of their choice.
I just purchased things to sent out stuff to the girls by early March.
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I don't want mine to do a damn thing except plan a cute bacholerette party. And I don't even really want to do much with that. I am not a bachelorette party kind of girl..surprising right?
I want them to buy the dresses, show up and just look at wedding magazines with me. I rather do things myself. My mom will most likely throw a surprise shower so they dont have to do that either except again, just show up and have lots of fun!
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I don't want mine to do a damn thing except plan a cute bacholerette party. And I don't even really want to do much with that. I am not a bachelorette party kind of girl..surprising right?
I want them to buy the dresses, show up and just look at wedding magazines with me. I rather do things myself. My mom will most likely throw a surprise shower so they dont have to do that either except again, just show up and have lots of fun!
I'm on the same page with you about my MOH!
I'm just having a MOH.... so it's been pretty easy so far! She went dress shopping with my Parents & I and she is going with us to the Bridal Extravaganza in April!
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So far I haven't asked much of them. One of my BM went with me when I was looking for a RH. My MOHs have been with me to a few bridal shows and to my florists appointments.
I do not really want much from them. I want them to be available when we start looking for dresses and for any G2G we have. I also want them help out if I need them to but it won't be anything difficult. They are all my family and they want to help out. Everyone in my family wants to help out and it can be a little annoying. Most importantly I want their support.
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Posted by 2013Bride
Posted by LilinBobby
I don't want mine to do a damn thing except plan a cute bacholerette party. And I don't even really want to do much with that. I am not a bachelorette party kind of girl..surprising right?
I want them to buy the dresses, show up and just look at wedding magazines with me. I rather do things myself. My mom will most likely throw a surprise shower so they dont have to do that either except again, just show up and have lots of fun!
I'm on the same page with you about my MOH!
I'm just having a MOH.... so it's been pretty easy so far! She went dress shopping with my Parents & I and she is going with us to the Bridal Extravaganza in April!
I would love to be on the same boat with you guys but unfortunately my mother passed when I was younger. And she was the only Americanized member of my family.
So far my BM and MOH's have just been my ears to talk to. I've been going to my appointments on my own with FH and it's been great. I know I might need one or two people for invitations and maybe favors. I know it's times like these that a mom or close aunt would be great.
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I'm asking them to pay for their dresses and possibly their hair and makeup - not sure yet bc I may pay for that. Altho I havent told them who is in the bridal party, they pretty much know they are. All of them are very excited and willing to help any way they can, which I am veryy happy about. I thought it would be a nightmare to get everyone on the same page but it seems like everyone is very into doing whatever I need them to do to help.
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I'm asking my girls to be there, feel beautiful, and hold something pretty. Also to make sure Fh's there when I walk down the aisle
Shanti12
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They only really need to go try on dresses, make sure they fit, help my mom with the shower so it's not a mess lol and just be there! And also, their job is to PARTY
