Bridesmaid's New Boyfriend?!

Hmm this is a really tough one... Maybe wait a few weeks and see how things go between them before extending the invite? If it's new love it might be too soon to ask him to something as serious as a wedding. I've never brought a guy as my guest to a wedding unless we were really serious with one another...

When the time does come though I really have to agree with the majority of girls on here that are saying you should extend it as a courtesy since she is a bridesmaid.

At the end of the day though it is YOUR wedding so if it doesn't feel right to you to invite him then you don't have to

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Posted by MrsTarricone2B

I agree. If she wasn't in the BP I would say don't worry about it, but since she is I would extend the invitation.

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ITA

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Posted by JLWSJC

If it's one person... and she's in your BP... I think I'd extend her the courtesy and include him.

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ITA

i have to agree. since she is your BM, i would invite him anyway, i wouldn't even wait for her to ask me.
if she was just a guest i would let her come alone

My friend is in a similar situation.. She is letting her BM bring the new guy... if it is your good friend you can start trouble.. plus Im sure they would give extra money in their gift because they are now bringing a date.

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Posted by justnicethings

Actually, I think the fact that she IS IN the bridal party would make me not extend the invite out to him. I don't know about your day and how it's scheduled, but for mine the BP is together ALL DAY. If they have long serious relationships, they don't even see their significant other's until the reception at night, really. This isn't a date. I expect my girls to be dancing with me and not worried about their new blossoming relationship. That's just me.

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I agree. Being in a BP is like a job that day. You have things to do, you can't sit with your guest at the ceremony, and are gone for pictures a while. It's not like she is going to have tons of time to spend with him. And instead of spending time with you and your BP, she is going to be spending more time with him. It would be one thing if you all were friends with him, but since you don't know him he will feel kind of on the side there. It's also awkward for him during the ceremony and CH (at least it was for my FH when I was a BM and he didn't know anyone at the wedding except for me and the bride and groom).
And my policy in general about weddings is it isn't a date night! A wedding is not a restaurant you take someone to to get to know them. It's a time for celebrating with people who are close to you. Not strangers.

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Posted by Jesebelle

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Posted by justnicethings

Actually, I think the fact that she IS IN the bridal party would make me not extend the invite out to him. I don't know about your day and how it's scheduled, but for mine the BP is together ALL DAY. If they have long serious relationships, they don't even see their significant other's until the reception at night, really. This isn't a date. I expect my girls to be dancing with me and not worried about their new blossoming relationship. That's just me.

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I agree. Being in a BP is like a job that day. You have things to do, you can't sit with your guest at the ceremony, and are gone for pictures a while. It's not like she is going to have tons of time to spend with him. And instead of spending time with you and your BP, she is going to be spending more time with him. It would be one thing if you all were friends with him, but since you don't know him he will feel kind of on the side there. It's also awkward for him during the ceremony and CH (at least it was for my FH when I was a BM and he didn't know anyone at the wedding except for me and the bride and groom).
And my policy in general about weddings is it isn't a date night! A wedding is not a restaurant you take someone to to get to know them. It's a time for celebrating with people who are close to you. Not strangers.

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i totally agree with what is said here.

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Posted by JLWSJC

If it's one person... and she's in your BP... I think I'd extend her the courtesy and include him.

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ITA

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Posted by annnng

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Posted by DWKSwed

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Posted by JLWSJC

If it's one person... and she's in your BP... I think I'd extend her the courtesy and include him.

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ITA.

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Me too

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yup.... what they said!

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Posted by Jesebelle

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Posted by justnicethings

Actually, I think the fact that she IS IN the bridal party would make me not extend the invite out to him. I don't know about your day and how it's scheduled, but for mine the BP is together ALL DAY. If they have long serious relationships, they don't even see their significant other's until the reception at night, really. This isn't a date. I expect my girls to be dancing with me and not worried about their new blossoming relationship. That's just me.

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I agree. Being in a BP is like a job that day. You have things to do, you can't sit with your guest at the ceremony, and are gone for pictures a while. It's not like she is going to have tons of time to spend with him. And instead of spending time with you and your BP, she is going to be spending more time with him. It would be one thing if you all were friends with him, but since you don't know him he will feel kind of on the side there. It's also awkward for him during the ceremony and CH (at least it was for my FH when I was a BM and he didn't know anyone at the wedding except for me and the bride and groom).
And my policy in general about weddings is it isn't a date night! A wedding is not a restaurant you take someone to to get to know them. It's a time for celebrating with people who are close to you. Not strangers.

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I agree with this... you dont realize it but if the bridal party comes with guests (aside from being engaged), their guests are going to have to be alone for the ceremony, cocktail hour, and whenever you are called away for pictures... we are sending invites to them without a guest, and if we end up having room, we will verbally extend the invitation for them to bring a guest but they have to keep in mind that they arent going to see them until about 8 pm that night when the wedding starts at 3... and i know my girls will have more fun just hanging out together than having to worry about a date

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Posted by elisa112101

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Posted by annnng

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Posted by DWKSwed

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Posted by JLWSJC

If it's one person... and she's in your BP... I think I'd extend her the courtesy and include him.

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ITA.

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Me too

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yup.... what they said!

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Add me to the list...ITA!!