Bridesmaids...Decisions, decisions, decisions...
I'm sure many of you can relate to this. Here is my situation:
I am choosing my really good friend of 8 yrs as my MOH. We have always been close, but have been super duper close the past 4 yrs.
I am also choosing another friend of 10 yrs to be my BM.
My other BMs will be my cousin, and my FH's 2 sisters.
In addition, one of my really close friends of the past 5 years will be my BM & koumbara (kind of like a Greek MOH).
Here is my dilemma: All through HS, I was BFF with this girl. When college came we were still very, very close. Over the past 3 years, our friendship has dwindled. At this point, we pretty much just have a phone relationship (and we live 5 min away from one another). I don't want to get into specifics, but we are just at diff points in our lives and we don't have much in common anymore. She feels differently though. She still sees me as a sister and bff. I don't agree with a lot of the things she says and does so that is why I have distanced myself. But she wants to be very involved in my wedding. She has mentioned being my MOH when in reality I didn't even intend to have her as a BM. She trash talks all of my friends bc she is jealous of them. I know it will KILL her if she is not in my wedding party. I am afraid to see what would happen if I don't ask her. It is not my intention to hurt feelings, but this is my day. Additionally, she has immense financial problems and is in bad shape health-wise so I don't even know how she would be able to handle the responsibility of being a BM.
Sorry for the long rant. What do I do??????
I am choosing my really good friend of 8 yrs as my MOH. We have always been close, but have been super duper close the past 4 yrs.
I am also choosing another friend of 10 yrs to be my BM.
My other BMs will be my cousin, and my FH's 2 sisters.
In addition, one of my really close friends of the past 5 years will be my BM & koumbara (kind of like a Greek MOH).
Here is my dilemma: All through HS, I was BFF with this girl. When college came we were still very, very close. Over the past 3 years, our friendship has dwindled. At this point, we pretty much just have a phone relationship (and we live 5 min away from one another). I don't want to get into specifics, but we are just at diff points in our lives and we don't have much in common anymore. She feels differently though. She still sees me as a sister and bff. I don't agree with a lot of the things she says and does so that is why I have distanced myself. But she wants to be very involved in my wedding. She has mentioned being my MOH when in reality I didn't even intend to have her as a BM. She trash talks all of my friends bc she is jealous of them. I know it will KILL her if she is not in my wedding party. I am afraid to see what would happen if I don't ask her. It is not my intention to hurt feelings, but this is my day. Additionally, she has immense financial problems and is in bad shape health-wise so I don't even know how she would be able to handle the responsibility of being a BM.
Sorry for the long rant. What do I do??????
