Bridezilla strikes AGAIN

So, a few of you read my post a few weeks ago about my friend who had the crazy meltdown on her wedding night and decided to curse out her entire BP (including me, her MOH) in front of all of her guests because we didn't ride the shuttle with her.

Anyway, I haven't really talked to her since the wedding but today is her bday. and since I am a forgibing person and she is my BM. (we've been friends for 15 years so it's hard because we've known each other so long) I decided to call her for her bday.

Anyway, on the phone with her for about 15 minutes and I ask her what she's up to etc. She tells me she's going to be traveling alot etc. I was like 'oh, where are you going?'
And she goes 'IN JUNE WE'RE DOING SOMETHING FOR YOU.'

That stupid girl RUINED my shower surprise. I had no idea when it was. I actually thought it would be in August closer to our wedding date.

I'm totally deflated and upset. For once, I was looking forward to a surprise and within 15 minutes of talking to this girl she managed to ruin a surprise that my MOH has been planning for months.

oh no i am so sorry, did you say to her why the H*LL she ruined the surprise

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Posted by Espo22

oh no i am so sorry, did you say to her why the H*LL she ruined the surprise

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I was like 'DUDE, IT'S A SURPRISE!!! DONT TELL ME ANYTHING' and she's like 'ohh, sorry'

She knows its a surprise.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by Espo22

oh no i am so sorry, did you say to her why the H*LL she ruined the surprise

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I was like 'DUDE, IT'S A SURPRISE!!! DONT TELL ME ANYTHING' and she's like 'ohh, sorry'

She knows its a surprise.

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is she happy with her own life? lol i dont know why somebody would do things like that. Only thing i can think about is if she wanted to know for her own shower when it was and not being a surprise so maybe she assumes you would be the same

Do you think she ruined the surprise on purpose? From your post, it almost sounds like she said it in a mean way like it is a bother to go to your shower or something. That is soo rude! I am sorry she ruined your surprise!

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by Espo22

oh no i am so sorry, did you say to her why the H*LL she ruined the surprise

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I was like 'DUDE, IT'S A SURPRISE!!! DONT TELL ME ANYTHING' and she's like 'ohh, sorry'

She knows its a surprise.

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is she happy with her own life? lol i dont know why somebody would do things like that. Only thing i can think about is if she wanted to know for her own shower when it was and not being a surprise so maybe she assumes you would be the same

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She lives in California so her shower was not surprise. We planned her bachelorette and shower for the same weekend so that she can go to NY once.
She knows mine is surprise because my MOH and Matron of Honor specifically made it clear to everyone it's a surprise.

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Posted by beachprincess

Do you think she ruined the surprise on purpose? From your post, it almost sounds like she said it in a mean way like it is a bother to go to your shower or something. That is soo rude! I am sorry she ruined your surprise!

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honestly, I have no clue at this point. She is so clueless. It was so rude and wrong. I am so pissed.
Thank you for your encouraging words.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

So, a few of you read my post a few weeks ago about my friend who had the crazy meltdown on her wedding night and decided to curse out her entire BP (including me, her MOH) in front of all of her guests because we didn't ride the shuttle with her.

Anyway, I haven't really talked to her since the wedding but today is her bday. and since I am a forgibing person and she is my BM. (we've been friends for 15 years so it's hard because we've known each other so long) I decided to call her for her bday.

Anyway, on the phone with her for about 15 minutes and I ask her what she's up to etc. She tells me she's going to be traveling alot etc. I was like 'oh, where are you going?'
And she goes 'IN JUNE WE'RE DOING SOMETHING FOR YOU.'

That stupid girl RUINED my shower surprise. I had no idea when it was. I actually thought it would be in August closer to our wedding date.

I'm totally deflated and upset. For once, I was looking forward to a surprise and within 15 minutes of talking to this girl she managed to ruin a surprise that my MOH has been planning for months.

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omg --I would be pissed

I lost a friendship over some disgusting behavior. It was a long time coming and I was letting a lot of things slide. She treated me so poorly on the day of her wedding that I knew I didn't want to be friends with her anymore. We were friends for 29 years which is really freakin sad but I think I am better off. I still think about her though.

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Posted by FutureMrsCarrieri

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

So, a few of you read my post a few weeks ago about my friend who had the crazy meltdown on her wedding night and decided to curse out her entire BP (including me, her MOH) in front of all of her guests because we didn't ride the shuttle with her.

Anyway, I haven't really talked to her since the wedding but today is her bday. and since I am a forgibing person and she is my BM. (we've been friends for 15 years so it's hard because we've known each other so long) I decided to call her for her bday.

Anyway, on the phone with her for about 15 minutes and I ask her what she's up to etc. She tells me she's going to be traveling alot etc. I was like 'oh, where are you going?'
And she goes 'IN JUNE WE'RE DOING SOMETHING FOR YOU.'

That stupid girl RUINED my shower surprise. I had no idea when it was. I actually thought it would be in August closer to our wedding date.

I'm totally deflated and upset. For once, I was looking forward to a surprise and within 15 minutes of talking to this girl she managed to ruin a surprise that my MOH has been planning for months.

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omg --I would be pissed

I lost a friendship over some disgusting behavior. It was a long time coming and I was letting a lot of things slide. She treated me so poorly on the day of her wedding that I knew I didn't want to be friends with her anymore. We were friends for 29 years which is really freakin sad but I think I am better off. I still think about her though.

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I know.... It's really tough. I'm such a loyal person and I like to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I'm just too nice.
Thank you for listening....

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by FutureMrsCarrieri

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

So, a few of you read my post a few weeks ago about my friend who had the crazy meltdown on her wedding night and decided to curse out her entire BP (including me, her MOH) in front of all of her guests because we didn't ride the shuttle with her.

Anyway, I haven't really talked to her since the wedding but today is her bday. and since I am a forgibing person and she is my BM. (we've been friends for 15 years so it's hard because we've known each other so long) I decided to call her for her bday.

Anyway, on the phone with her for about 15 minutes and I ask her what she's up to etc. She tells me she's going to be traveling alot etc. I was like 'oh, where are you going?'
And she goes 'IN JUNE WE'RE DOING SOMETHING FOR YOU.'

That stupid girl RUINED my shower surprise. I had no idea when it was. I actually thought it would be in August closer to our wedding date.

I'm totally deflated and upset. For once, I was looking forward to a surprise and within 15 minutes of talking to this girl she managed to ruin a surprise that my MOH has been planning for months.

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omg --I would be pissed

I lost a friendship over some disgusting behavior. It was a long time coming and I was letting a lot of things slide. She treated me so poorly on the day of her wedding that I knew I didn't want to be friends with her anymore. We were friends for 29 years which is really freakin sad but I think I am better off. I still think about her though.

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I know.... It's really tough. I'm such a loyal person and I like to give the person the benefit of the doubt. Maybe I'm just too nice.
Thank you for listening....

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I don't want to get into all the things this person said and did to me but I will say that you can be the nicest, most forgiving person in the world but there is only so much a person can take. I think it is actually harder to end a friendship than a relationship.
Good luck with your friend

what a bummer! sounds like she was doing it to be spiteful....your shower isnt ruined - im sure you will still be surprised - just because you know its jin une you dont know exactly when it will be...

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Posted by Future Mulligan

what a bummer! sounds like she was doing it to be spiteful....your shower isnt ruined - im sure you will still be surprised - just because you know its jin une you dont know exactly when it will be...

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Thanks Nicole. I'm just going to go along and just try my best to forget it.
I'm sure it will be a surprise despite me knowing the month that it's taking place.

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Posted by Future Mulligan

what a bummer! sounds like she was doing it to be spiteful....your shower isnt ruined - im sure you will still be surprised - just because you know its jin une you dont know exactly when it will be...

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ITA

Didn't you send her an email explaining how you felt about her little 'episode'? Did she ever respond or mention it?

im so sorry at least she didnt tell u the exact date tho!

I am so sorry I know she is borderline intolerable but maybe she said that to throw you off of your true shower date. I am trying to think positive for you

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Posted by Sharron70

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Posted by Future Mulligan

what a bummer! sounds like she was doing it to be spiteful....your shower isnt ruined - im sure you will still be surprised - just because you know its jin une you dont know exactly when it will be...

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ITA

Didn't you send her an email explaining how you felt about her little 'episode'? Did she ever respond or mention it?

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Yes, I did. her response to my email was pretty clueless. She said I had 'no idea' what it's like to be a bride and that she was only 'venting' to us. She also said that people said her behavior was 'normal.'
I said you weren't 'venting' you cursed us out.
The people that said your behavior was 'normal' is not giving you the real story.

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Posted by mRm2008

I am so sorry I know she is borderline intolerable but maybe she said that to throw you off of your true shower date. I am trying to think positive for you

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aww, thank you for thinking positive though I do not think she has the depth to 'throw me off' my shower date!! LOL.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by Sharron70

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Posted by Future Mulligan

what a bummer! sounds like she was doing it to be spiteful....your shower isnt ruined - im sure you will still be surprised - just because you know its jin une you dont know exactly when it will be...

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ITA

Didn't you send her an email explaining how you felt about her little 'episode'? Did she ever respond or mention it?

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Yes, I did. her response to my email was pretty clueless. She said I had 'no idea' what it's like to be a bride and that she was only 'venting' to us. She also said that people said her behavior was 'normal.'
I said you weren't 'venting' you cursed us out.
The people that said your behavior was 'normal' is not giving you the real story.

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Then I am absolutely positive she is completely wrapped up in herself. Definitely not BM material IMHO.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this t.w.a.t.