Bridezilla strikes AGAIN

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Posted by deb08

why do some people have to be so spiteful- pooh on her- dont let her ruin your day-

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Thank you. I'm trying to be upbeat and positive about it. I am NOT going to let her spitefulness ruin a fun day.

awww Cindy- I am so sorry!

Here is her response from the bridezilla meltdown. You can see the type of person I am dealing with. Remeber, she is mad we didn't ride the Shuttle with her.

Also, at no point did i think it was the responsibility of the Bridal party to arrange my transportation home. That was mine and marks responsibility and we didn't think that far. As a matter of fact, I never held any expectations, in terms of responsibilities for my bridal party.....only that they be there for me on that day and help me get through something that was ESPECIALLY difficult for me. I know that it will be easy for you to be the center of attention, maybe you don't understand how hard it was for me, I thought you would considering how long you've known me. I bottled up A LOT of anxiety and let it all out at once....I felt abandoned and forgoten in that moment... I cant change how I felt or how I acted or how you chose to understand it, but it was an overwhelming moment fueled by emotions and alcohol and thats it.

I was extremely emotional and overwhelmed and was yelling at the people closest to me because frankly you turn to the people closest to you when you have intense feelings....in my case it was abandonment (whether realistic or not , its what i felt) . I yelled at my Mom, my Dad, XXX, and you....All of them understand where my emotional outburst came from and have given me the benefit of the doubt, not taking it personally, that it was a culmination of a HUGE day and for me specifically, extremely anxiety prevoking.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Here is her response from the bridezilla meltdown. You can see the type of person I am dealing with. Remeber, she is mad we didn't ride the Shuttle with her.

Also, at no point did i think it was the responsibility of the Bridal party to arrange my transportation home. That was mine and marks responsibility and we didn't think that far. As a matter of fact, I never held any expectations, in terms of responsibilities for my bridal party.....only that they be there for me on that day and help me get through something that was ESPECIALLY difficult for me. I know that it will be easy for you to be the center of attention, maybe you don't understand how hard it was for me, I thought you would considering how long you've known me. I bottled up A LOT of anxiety and let it all out at once....I felt abandoned and forgoten in that moment... I cant change how I felt or how I acted or how you chose to understand it, but it was an overwhelming moment fueled by emotions and alcohol and thats it.

I was extremely emotional and overwhelmed and was yelling at the people closest to me because frankly you turn to the people closest to you when you have intense feelings....in my case it was abandonment (whether realistic or not , its what i felt) . I yelled at my Mom, my Dad, XXX, and you....All of them understand where my emotional outburst came from and have given me the benefit of the doubt, not taking it personally, that it was a culmination of a HUGE day and for me specifically, extremely anxiety prevoking.

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sorry but she needs to get off it- she was wrong & she needs to apologize

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Posted by futuremrsfab
sorry but she needs to get off it- she was wrong & she needs to apologize

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And you need to kick her a$$ to the curb. Seriously, how forgiving can you be? Enough to risk her ruining your big day???

I'm not putting you down - but someone as sweet as you especially does not deserves this treatment and I wouldn't put up with it if I were you.

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Posted by Sharron70

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Posted by futuremrsfab
sorry but she needs to get off it- she was wrong & she needs to apologize

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And you need to kick her a$$ to the curb. Seriously, how forgiving can you be? Enough to risk her ruining your big day???

I'm not putting you down - but someone as sweet as you especially does not deserves this treatment and I wouldn't put up with it if I were you.

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Aww, I know... I'm really nervous at this point. Thank you for your response. I just don't even know how to go about it. It's almost too late now.... sigh.

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

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Posted by Jenn04

Wow...she has some nerve!

I cannot believe she did that! My mouth just dropped open! How did you guys end the conversation???? Also I cannot remember if she is in your wedding party or not?

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I was ready to kick her out of BP after her meltdown and her freak out at her wedding but I am a forgiving person.
I finally call her to wish her happy bday (i haven't talked to her since march 8th, just corresponded via email) and then she drops the bomb on me....

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i have to say---i know you are being a forgiving person and all---but if you keep this girl in your BP---i'm about 99.999999% sure she will try and ruin your wedding day. do yourself a favor and don't take that risk---boot her!

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Aww, I know... I'm really nervous at this point. Thank you for your response. I just don't even know how to go about it. It's almost too late now.... sigh.

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It's never too late Cindy. I am so frustrated reading this post. Frustrated at her and frustrated at YOU. Why did you call her? You owe her nothing. She's poisonous and you keep going back to her, why?

Kick her out of the BP and twist her words around her. 'I need for you to step down from being a BM. It's something that I don't expect you to understand but for the sake of my sanity, get out. My family understands my reasoning, but you never will.'

Don't worry about aftermath, stop feeling guilty and do something about it. She's not family - you can ditch her.

It will hurt for a while but you'll be MUCH better off. You don't owe her the benfit of the doubt anymore. She is not taking responsibility for her actions - she's blaming it on anxiety. Sickness is NOT an excuse for poor behavior. Seriously. I'm tired of people using mental illness as a crutch. You know right from wrong even if you have anxiety. And she didn't even apologize!!! Wrong, wrong, wrong!!!

Sorry Cindy. Distance yourself. Soon.

ok - #1 - you need to find out what her deal is. If she freaked out at her wedding and made a fool of herself.. that's her business, but if she is still a b i a t c h .. and is trying to sabatoge your surprise or day.. you need to find out why she has her panties in a bunch. (maybe she expected you all to ride in the shuttle with her.. and is really hurt that you didn't, and is waiting for some sort of apology from you??)

#2 - once you determine why her panties are in a bunch... you need to evaluate if she should still be a BM for you... ie.. will she continue to be a bad seed.. or will she get over her issues.

best of luck. let us know what happens.


added: sorry, I didn't read all the way thru.. but anyway.. if she can't handle being in the spotlight.. then she won't be able to handle being a BM, b/c lets face it.. the bridal party is not the center of attention.. but they are definately a 'side' of attention. If you feel the need to nix her from your bridal party.. there is your excuse.. and she gave it to you on a silver platter!! She may just freak out on your day.

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl

Aww, I know... I'm really nervous at this point. Thank you for your response. I just don't even know how to go about it. It's almost too late now.... sigh.

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It's never too late Cindy. I am so frustrated reading this post. Frustrated at her and frustrated at YOU. Why did you call her? You owe her nothing. She's poisonous and you keep going back to her, why?

Kick her out of the BP and twist her words around her. 'I need for you to step down from being a BM. It's something that I don't expect you to understand but for the sake of my sanity, get out. My family understands my reasoning, but you never will.'

Don't worry about aftermath, stop feeling guilty and do something about it. She's not family - you can ditch her.

It will hurt for a while but you'll be MUCH better off. You don't owe her the benfit of the doubt anymore. She is not taking responsibility for her actions - she's blaming it on anxiety. Sickness is NOT an excuse for poor behavior. Seriously. I'm tired of people using mental illness as a crutch. You know right from wrong even if you have anxiety. And she didn't even apologize!!! Wrong, wrong, wrong!!!

Sorry Cindy. Distance yourself. Soon.

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Jenn, you're so right. I'm sitting here with a nervous tummy. On the phone with my friend who is telling me to get rid of her....

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl
Jenn, you're so right. I'm sitting here with a nervous tummy. On the phone with my friend who is telling me to get rid of her....

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I'll give you a cookie if you do

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Posted by Sharron70

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Posted by NapaValleyGirl
Jenn, you're so right. I'm sitting here with a nervous tummy. On the phone with my friend who is telling me to get rid of her....

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I'll give you a cookie if you do

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Thanks doll... I love cookies.