I know others have brought this up...how do you respond to this... A former (female) member I still keep contact with I invited to our e-party (along with a few other former members). She just emailed me saying she got the invite and will definetly be there. Since she is not dating anyone, she might bring a girlfriend, but will let me know before the RSVP date.
who said friend. Don't people know the guest means a date. Not a girlfriend
Does that mean for the wedding send an invitation to just her, and not write & guest???
lovejoy831
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That is a good question. Have does one go with the inviting of 'Guest' with friends and family members?
yabbobay
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is there a difference if she brings a male guest or a female guest? either way you don't know them...what if she is homosexual and is not out of the closet yet? I know its a stretch...but I don't think I would treat it differently from any other guest...its so she can have a good time
jenny2penny
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no, she just broke up with her boyfriend no too long ago. It's not like she won't know the other 'members'. I think to bring a friend to a party like this, is like turning our party into their own party (for themselves). At our expense. I only wrote '& guest', so that if you are dating someone to bring them, I never thought people would turn that and interpret into and guest they want (like it's open house or something).
I always thought you invite 'guest' to be polite to them. I do see a difference in someone you are dating verses a (girl) friend. I guess I have different views.
palebride
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personally - i've gone with someone to a wedding who was invited with a guest but she didn't have a boyfriend. she asked me if i would go because she felt uncomfortable going alone...and she knew plenty of people that were going to be there. some people need a little exrta reinforcement when going to an event such as a wedding. i think with my friend, she felt badly about herself because she didn't have a boyfriend and going to a wedding was a lot of stress....so going alone was even more stress. i understand that we are coming at this from a different perspecitve....becuse we are paying for it and that's a lot tougher!!! but think of it this way - at least your friend will be there to share your day with you!!
eternityawaits
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I think if you were going to take into account, it shouldn't matter who she brings. JMO, though
ChristineC68
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sorry, but a guest is just that, a guest. If you only wanted her to bring someone she is dating vs. a friend for company then you can't leave it open like that.
AtticaQT
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I actually never really thought of this until you brought it up. A friend of mine is invited to a wedding in Spain and her invite says and guest. Although she hasnt decided if she is going, she asked me if I would go with her. I think when the person will really not know a lot of people then it is only fair to allow them to bring the guest they choose. I may feel alittle different if I know that the person will know a lot of poepl at the party. But, on the other side - that person you invited may still feel uncomofortable is she is the only person without another pair - Everyone else will have another person to talk to and she may feel a little like a third wheel - if that makes any sense.
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i was invited to a wedding of a close friend of the family as follows:
i was invited only by myself on the invitation. i was single at the time. a few days after i recieved the invitation, i got a call from the family friend saying'look, we only invited you as a single, but please know that if you are going out with someone who you want to bring , it would be our pleasure.just let us know up until 2 1/2 weeks before the wedding.'
i never really thought about it , but that was a really tactful way of avoiding this whole dilemna.
jenny2penny
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ok, so I guess it's normal for people to bring who ever they want. I never thought of doing something like that, myself. Plus this is an engagment party (a lot less people). I think that too is why it bothered me.
I guess I'll see what she decides.
thanks for filling me in, that this is normal.
JodiBabe
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I think if you don't want them to really bring a guest then the invite should be to them only or if you want them only to bring a certain person then the certain person should be invited by themself. Only people that are serious with someone, engaged, living together or married were invited with their significant others. The only single people invited with guests are family members.
palebride
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for my engagement party - we invited singes only becaue we were tyring to keep it small! and it worked. i felt a little badly becaues one of my friends has a serious boyfriend...but he lives in Pennsylvania anyway!! Good luck with your party!!
butterfly20
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id say if its just that one person than dont worry about it.
Kim921
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I think it is very rude to invite some people with a guest and some without. If the guest in question is 21 years of age or older, I think it is in poor taste to not invite that person with a guest. Regardless of whether they have a steady bf or not, you do not know there current situation, maybe the 'guest' hasn't made it known yet.
On the other hand, I do think it is appropriate for that female guest to bring a female friend, but what if she is gay? She can't bring her gf? A guest is a guest, there is no sex associated with it. It is a touchy subject, but I don't see the difference. If you are going to invite some people with a date, then you should be inviting everyone with a date. If you are tight on money, then only invite husbands and wives.
Before I was dating FH, I was invited to a wedding without a guest. I was seated next to a couple and felt very uncomfortable. I could have easily brought a male friend and had a much better time.
Just my opinion.
julybride444
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I don't see what the diff. is, honestly. When you invite someone 'and guest' there's a reason you don't write 'and date', it's because who their guest is is up to them. What do you care whether she brings a female friend or a 'date (male friend)'.
One of my guests brought her cousin! And another brought her female friend.
I personally wouldn't do it, but if they don't want to come alone and you intended on inviting them with a 'date', what do you care who they bring-it costs the same to you.....
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I've been in a situation where I was invited to a wedding with a guest and I brought a girlfriend. IMO 'guest' is not necessarily a date, it can be anyone. Some people really hate to go to a wedding alone, so they'd rather have someone to sit and chat with during the slow dances than to sit at an empty table alone and watch everyone else during the slow dances. Weddings can be very rough on single people (they were for me when I was single-everyone's mom asked too many stupid questions!) and sometimes its more bearable with a friend.
Kim921
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Exactly julybride! I forgot to emphasise this point!
I still think it is rude to invite people without a guest. But then again, that isn't what this thread is about..lol
jenny2penny
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I see you girls points.
But also this in an engagement party. Not a wedding. no assigned seating. and her co-worker is invited and (the gym is small approx 250 members, so everyone know's eachother and 4 other members she knows are invited.)
It's not so much the money, but I assumed people knew guest means date, not to invite who ever friend you want, beucase the invitation is general 'guest'.
