So FH and I have been talking and we think it's best to push our wedding from 2013 to Jan 2014. I'm really bummed about it b/c I really just wanna go through with it already :-\ . I picked up my wedding dress tonight! so in love with it! i can't wait to wear it..........20 months feels like such a long time though. I know realistically it's probably best to wait but. 20 months. we got engaged Aug of 2012..... it is what it is, right?
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Aw. I totally understand. When FH and I were setting a date I was upset that we'd have to wait so long. Our engagement is 19 months and we're already halfway there. Time flies! And we're paying for the wedding ourselves, so it has given us time to save up money and look at different options cost-wise. This website is helpful when I start getting wedding fever and wishing everything was happening right now.
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Well I guess it depends on the reasons why. I would be really bummed too... we got engaged November 2011 and I didn't even want to wait until 2013! Now I see that it HAD to be 2013 otherwise I'd be totally stressed. If it's about that or the money then maybe it makes sense. It's totally personal and you do what you can and what you want!!
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Our engagement is 16 months, it felt really long but it gave us an advantage to save up and really work on our budget. Having time to plan and save really reduces the stress of wedding planning and I'm glad we didn't rush it. And trust me time does fly fast!
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That is a long time to wait. I'm sorry that you're bummed! The only way my FH and I could handle planning a wedding was if it was a short engagement - we started planning in February and are getting married in July. It didn't seem worth it to wait so long when you already know who you want to spend your life with! Good luck! You'll get through it!
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That is a long time to wait. I'm sorry that you're bummed! The only way my FH and I could handle planning a wedding was if it was a short engagement - we started planning in February and are getting married in July. It didn't seem worth it to wait so long when you already know who you want to spend your life with! Good luck! You'll get through it!
This!!! We got engaged in September and are getting married next month!!!
But everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do and the most important thing in the end is that you are marrying your love!
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But everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do and the most important thing in the end is that you are marrying your love!
This exactly!!!
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aw it will go by quick! we got engaged in december,2011 and we arent getting married untill november, 2013 and im still scared that not enough time!
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That is a long time to wait. I'm sorry that you're bummed! The only way my FH and I could handle planning a wedding was if it was a short engagement - we started planning in February and are getting married in July. It didn't seem worth it to wait so long when you already know who you want to spend your life with! Good luck! You'll get through it!
sometimes its not a matter of knowing who you want to spend your life with, its timing..
we were engaged dec 2011 and wanted to get married Sept 2012 but my brother is getting married in sept and i didnt want to put that extra burden on my family with two weddings so close, and I didnt want to get married in the winter so we are waiting until may...
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I feel the same everyday i get more n more impatient have 11 more months to go, and 20 months may feel like forever but it is true it does go fast and it does give u the advantage of more saving and planning thats why me and FH planned it for when we did or else it wOulda been in 2012
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Posted by pauladanielle
That is a long time to wait. I'm sorry that you're bummed! The only way my FH and I could handle planning a wedding was if it was a short engagement - we started planning in February and are getting married in July. It didn't seem worth it to wait so long when you already know who you want to spend your life with! Good luck! You'll get through it!
sometimes its not a matter of knowing who you want to spend your life with, its timing..
we were engaged dec 2011 and wanted to get married Sept 2012 but my brother is getting married in sept and i didnt want to put that extra burden on my family with two weddings so close, and I didnt want to get married in the winter so we are waiting until may... [/
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Everyone has their own ideas for their wedding. I wish I could tell you to just scale it down and have it now. When it all comes down to it, it's about being married. Having your husband. The day is special but it flies by. Again, depends on how much you've hyped up this day in your head over the years but for us we didn't wanna wait any longer. We kept things within means as best as possible. Now we are on to saving and looking for a home. Everything will work out best for you and your circumstances. Sometimes is just hard to take a step back from 'wedding-ness' and really put what it's all about into perspective, especially living in NY. There's not a better feeling than being husband and wife though and I'm very grateful our planning didn't get in the way of that.
Good luck!
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Time will fly! FH and I got engaged 4/5/2010 and we are getting married 7/19/2012. That's 2 years, 3 months, and 2 weeks. So, about 27 1/2 months. In the mean time, we have planned for both the wedding and the house. We sat down to make our budgets and are excited to have our big wedding. You'll just have time to relax and enjoy the process, so have a great time planning and good luck!
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I got engaged on 10/24/2009 and we are getting married on 09/07/2012 almost 3 years I felt like my day would never get here now I only have 121 more days left
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Posted by Shanti12
Well I guess it depends on the reasons why. I would be really bummed too... we got engaged November 2011 and I didn't even want to wait until 2013! Now I see that it HAD to be 2013 otherwise I'd be totally stressed. If it's about that or the money then maybe it makes sense. It's totally personal and you do what you can and what you want!!
THIS! We were engaged Dec 2011 and I wanted Nov 2012 bc I couldn't BEAR waiting another moment. FH wanted March 2013. It turned out for the best to wait until March bc FH was in the hosp for about a month this past Jan, which would have made planning a Nov wedding stressful.
It will happen and the wait will fly!
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We had the same issue. FH was out of work for a bit so for financial reasons we could not do March/April of 2013, so then I wanted the fall but my FH brother and fiancé set their date for October and then I was told by my future mother in law that I needed to make it at least 3 months before or after theirs, which I was upset about because 3 months earlier is the summer and I would love June but FH hates the heat and the hall I wanted was just too expensive so instead we just bit the bullet and pushed it 3 months after theirs to January 19, 2014 exactly 3 months after his brothers wedding on Oct 19 and I got the Sunday before MLK day so we saved a lot of money doing off season and a sunday. It wasn't ideal but time has been going by so fast and it has allowed me to get more of my first choice because we aren't rushing and have more time to save and make payments. I got the photographer I wanted, I am going to get the invites I want, and we are having a photo booth. At first I was a little crushed at having to wait but now I am very happy with how everything is progressing.
Good Luck!
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it will go sooo fast! FH and I have been engaged for over 17 months and only have 9 left-- that scares me! On our 1 year mark I had a freak out and asked if we could push back our wedding 1 more year
Financially and stress wise this has been working amazingly! My brother did his wedding in exactly 1 year and my other brother has less than 2 months to plan his and I don't envy either of them!
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Posted by KristyANDMatt224
it will go sooo fast! FH and I have been engaged for over 17 months and only have 9 left-- that scares me! On our 1 year mark I had a freak out and asked if we could push back our wedding 1 more year
Financially and stress wise this has been working amazingly! My brother did his wedding in exactly 1 year and my other brother has less than 2 months to plan his and I don't envy either of them!
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It goes soo fast! Especially the year of....nothing wrong with waiting!!
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Think about it this way. By the time that FH and I get married we will have an almost 4 year engagement. He lost his job right before we got engaged and wasnt able to find one until recently. We just booked our venue on wednesday. I would say 20 months isnt bad at all! I wish that mine was only 20 months In the end it will all work out the way its supposed to and you and your FH will be married and thats all that matters
