But SHE'S not invited!!!!!

stacey&paul Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:28 PM

But SHE'S not invited!!!!!

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

Jen2999 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:30 PM

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Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

stacey&paul Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:33 PM

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oooh...classy

babybug631 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:34 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

PERFECTLY said.

prinses777 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:38 PM

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Yeah, what she said... OR... if you want to see if more responses come in... then maybe you might need this person to hit your minimum.

stacey&paul Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:43 PM

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well there's more to the story....He is 30 and she is 19 and still lives with her parents and the last time she was invited to an event she preceded to get drunk and vomit in a broken sink then his response was 'we were all young once'....If she comes to the wedding, she will be the only underage drinker there and he will be feeding her drinks and my mom and I aren't very comfortable with that........

ML110 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:51 PM

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in that case, i would definitely just call and say 'the whole unforunately we're keeping the wedding small and can't nvite everyone with a guest thing
we had this happen, too- only in our case, it was my moms friend from HS- she never married and wasn't dating anyone seriously at the time we sent out the invites, so i just sent it to her- she sent it back with ' 2 will attend'... i was PISSED at first, but then i realized that we were only inviting 150 people to begin with, and a lot of DHs family couldn't make it cause they live out in PA.... so we just didnt' say anything.... it was just annoyng though cause she really is clueless abot how much this thing was costing us! they just had their HS reunion the other night and she didn't go cause it cost $75 a person.... if she only KNEW how much it cost us to have her at our wedding! LOL

stacey&paul Posted: Apr 07, 2006 05:56 PM

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thanks...this s**t is seriously stressing me out!!!!

pigs222seal Posted: Apr 07, 2006 06:12 PM

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This is what I am afraid of...thats why we invited everyone with a guest......sorry you have to deal with this and good luck

SeptBride70 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 06:32 PM

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Posted by babybug631

Posted by Jen2999

Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

PERFECTLY said.

totally agree!!!

suven Posted: Apr 07, 2006 07:04 PM

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I would call and say that unfortunately, you can't accomodate this special request.

tiffandmatt Posted: Apr 07, 2006 08:01 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

Perfect answer!!

Don't go into the reason about her being immature and could possibly cause a sceen, he might get defensive. But make sure he understands he was invited alone, not with a guest. If you had intended him to bring a guest it would have said 'So and So and Guest'.

It's your wedding, you get to set the standards! Good Luck! Don't stress over it.

shellyru Posted: Apr 07, 2006 08:01 PM

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Yikes! That really is pretty rude! I agree with the ladies. It's not fair for you to have to worry about a repeat of past events the whole time at your reception. Who needs that BS!

Bigbroad555 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 09:33 PM

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I would be straight out, explain to him he is responsible for her not you.... Yuo would like that in writting as well..... The hall or you could be held accounted if anything happens to her.

Also that the invite was addresed to him only not him & guest !

Sorry

CLMon7906 Posted: Apr 07, 2006 09:36 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

oooh yes, i like this....simply point out that you have a limit and that you invited him as 1 and you can't budge..but say it nicer than i did.

smara Posted: Apr 07, 2006 10:17 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

Like they say on 'Family Feud' - 'Good Answer, Good Answer'

stacey&paul Posted: Apr 18, 2006 06:02 PM

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Thanks everyone!!

BellaEyes Posted: Apr 18, 2006 06:03 PM

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Posted by Jen2999

Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help

I would call and say , 'sorry, but unfortunately we cant accommodate everyone with guests as we are having an intimate affair'

Oh I will definitely be using that one.. when I have an issue.. soo classy!

Meaghan729 Posted: Apr 18, 2006 06:15 PM

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people su*k

bride2b24 Posted: Apr 18, 2006 06:20 PM

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Posted by stacey&paul

How do you handle a response for 2 that was intended for only 1? Do we call them up and tell them? DO we let it go? I don't really want to let it go because from what I've heard this person knew only he was invited.......

I'm pissed...please help [/QUOTE

wow if he knew then that is truly balsy!!!! but i would def mention it.....chances are he might not come as a result! but do what you gotta do girl !]