so me & FH have been house hunting on & off for awhile.. no luck so far. houses AND taxes are still a bit expensive on LI..
we are undecided if we should just wait until after the wedding and just continue to casually still look. Just worried that if we do find something it will be too stressful to plan and pay for the wedding and a new house..
any advice??
ILOVEBRIAN2008
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i dont think we'll ever be able to afford one!!! lol we are just hoping for a condo or something
but i would still look casually, case if u find something at a really good price that u love, u def dont want to miss out on it...just make sure you are able to afford it with the wedding expenses
Rayjenn317
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I would wait until after the wedding and if you want just look around in the mean time. I live in a condo that FH and I bought a year and a half ago and let me tell you, it is sooooooooo stressful!!
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i would look casually but this is definitely something you dont want to rush in to!
we are waiting for two years after the wedding so we have a big down payment - i didnt want to rush into anything and feel added stress during the planning
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I couldn't handle a house a wedding at the same time, financially or emotionally. I think we will be in a house by our 1 yr. anniversary. FH is a mortgage broker so he has lots of hookups when we're ready
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thanks girls... i own a small one bedroom co-op, but its really cramped because he has alot of stuff and he is the type to hold on to everything !!
i don't think we can manage the stress of a wedding & moving into a new home..also, i don't feel like wasting alot of time looking if we aren't ready... i rather have been at the beach today than house hunting !!
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We have been looking on and off as well. If we find soemthing now that is a good price and we love then we will get it other wise we don't want to really stress about it to much
AmandaLynn04
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We are waiting until after the wedding. I think we'll probably start looking in the Spring, a few months after the wedding.
Jasonsgirl
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We are buying fh parents house before the wedding
Mrs.D08
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Posted by ant n tilde
i would look casually but this is definitely something you dont want to rush in to!
we are waiting for two years after the wedding so we have a big down payment - i didnt want to rush into anything and feel added stress during the planning
Us too. We want to save enough money. We are also waiting for me to be done with nursing school.
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FH and I were actually having this conversation today!! we have a apartment together now, but we want a house after we get married, the wedding is in april and our lease is up that nov. we decided that we werent gonna look until after the wedding and that we would renew our lease for 1 year because it takes 6 months to close on a house which wouldnt leave us much time. and we need to save money becuase this wedding is gonna drain everything we have!!!
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My fiance and I are planning our wedding and looking for a house at the same time. Our situation is a little different as I still live at home, and so does he. So we would like to go HOME after the wedding.
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Do you and Fh live together currently? If not, if you do not get a house, what are the other options? (Apartment, condo, parents)
FH and I are going to begin looking next month. THis month we are focusing on getting his current house appraised. *Fh and his brother own a home and his brother is going to buy him out and we are going to put the money down on a new home.
I don't think it will be too bad to do house hunting now...I mean so many people go through this and they surrived.
Start now and don't rush. Take your time because you don't want to be pressured into anything when you arent ready either. If your planning for the wedding is going well..I say go for it! Good Luck!
chrispar
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Honestly we bought a house in September before we got engaged and if I was doing it all at the same time as planning our wedding I don't think I would have any hair left but I know people that do it. It was very stressful because our house was newly built and just setting it uo took forever. But I love the fact that we already have a house and I do not regret our decisions. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
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FH and i have been going through the same thing. we started looking 2 months ago, and then weren't sure so we continued looking casually but agreed that it might be best to wait until after the wedding.
but over the past 2 weeks it just seems like now is the time, and so we are back to seriously looking...more seriously than before. i think we are going to buy a house soon, and we now agreed that we are going to do it at the very latest by the end of the year.
i think you should continue to look casually, which will take the pressure off of it. and if you begin seeing things you like and feel more comfortable about it, then you might find you're in the position to do it now!! and if not, at least you're still looking and by the time you're ready you'll know what's out there and what you can get for the price, in different areas.
good luck!!
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We just went to two open houses and loved one of them but I don't thinkwe will be able to afford one right away. But it never hurts to look especially open houses to get an idea of what is out there and prices. you also learn a lot of what you want, need and can live without.
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FH made the mistake of 'looking' for a house before our wedding...and honestly we have never fought so much! The problem is he liked one house I liked another and then....we both found one that we LOVE and it is perfect for us...and now we are going to look at it even though we don't think we can afford it right this minute....so I suppose to each his own!
jennandrolo
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not for a loooong time lol. gotta finish school and make more $$ besides we might wanna move outta state first.
Bridey Bride
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We just bought a house...and I'm really glad we did it far enough before the wedding cuz doing them both at once would have ben more stress then I could handle. On the othe hand it's good to wait cuz you'll have wedding present money to help you pay for stuff...
AmorPeruano
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Honestly.....we purposefully did things backwards....we bought a house first last year, one year BEFORE we started planning the wedding.
We did this b/c for us, a home was our priority....the actual wedding reception and party itself came second. It would be nearly impossible to do both at the same time. We needed a year apart from the 2 major events......
