Can I ***** about a friend??
Anyway, I've been doing my darndest to rid myself of this boat anchor of a friend for quite some time now (she makes outright digs to me, innuendos about her and my husband and rips to shred every real friend she's ever had). I've tried open insults, hastily hanging up or finding excuses not to talk to her; nothing is working.
Last night she wanted to come over and 'visit' and see the baby, blah, blah, blah. Running out of excuses myself, I decided to suck it up and let her come by. What a mistake. Within minutes of her arrival, I was getting that tightening in my stomach as she walked around and made back-handed comments about my house 'Gee, I wish I could have a house like this, it must be nice to have EVERYTHING you want' (in a condescending tone). As she's looking over the baby, she's like 'Well, you're life must be VERY limited now, unlike me who can travel anywhere I want to' (yeah on Mom and Dad's dime since you haven't WORKED in a year and they pay for everything). Comments along these lines continued all night and I just shut down. She acts like a four year old and I was totally embarrassed because we were in a diner and she openly farted, making my husband break out in laughter. Everyone was looking over in disgust, meanwhile she thought she was the greatest thing going. She feeds into his adolescent behavior and that's where she finds her 'connection' with him. Throughout the night, her cell phone kept ringing and she would stop and start all conversations (which were limited to begin with) to catch up with whoever was on the phone. She kept insisting I have a major party because we got a pool and I looked at Bob and shook my head. My 'major party' days are over. I'm not 21 anymore and this isn't a free for all, it's my home. She looked like it was a chore to be around us, since we're so dull now that we're responsible parents and homeowners. She even told one of her friends, she'd catch up with them when she was 'done' here. Please....don't let us hold up your plans. We only see you 2x a year.
She's rude, immature, obnoxious and I have absolutely nothing in common with her anymore. She's also 32 years old.
So someone please tell me, how do I give this girl the kiss of death? I find nothing appealing about maintaining ANY relationship with her. Hubby thinks I'm being unreasonable because she seems to want to hang on. For what purpose, I'm not sure. Maybe to make herself feel better because I don't say anything back when she pulls her crap on me? It's definitely time to move on.
Last night she wanted to come over and 'visit' and see the baby, blah, blah, blah. Running out of excuses myself, I decided to suck it up and let her come by. What a mistake. Within minutes of her arrival, I was getting that tightening in my stomach as she walked around and made back-handed comments about my house 'Gee, I wish I could have a house like this, it must be nice to have EVERYTHING you want' (in a condescending tone). As she's looking over the baby, she's like 'Well, you're life must be VERY limited now, unlike me who can travel anywhere I want to' (yeah on Mom and Dad's dime since you haven't WORKED in a year and they pay for everything). Comments along these lines continued all night and I just shut down. She acts like a four year old and I was totally embarrassed because we were in a diner and she openly farted, making my husband break out in laughter. Everyone was looking over in disgust, meanwhile she thought she was the greatest thing going. She feeds into his adolescent behavior and that's where she finds her 'connection' with him. Throughout the night, her cell phone kept ringing and she would stop and start all conversations (which were limited to begin with) to catch up with whoever was on the phone. She kept insisting I have a major party because we got a pool and I looked at Bob and shook my head. My 'major party' days are over. I'm not 21 anymore and this isn't a free for all, it's my home. She looked like it was a chore to be around us, since we're so dull now that we're responsible parents and homeowners. She even told one of her friends, she'd catch up with them when she was 'done' here. Please....don't let us hold up your plans. We only see you 2x a year.
She's rude, immature, obnoxious and I have absolutely nothing in common with her anymore. She's also 32 years old.
So someone please tell me, how do I give this girl the kiss of death? I find nothing appealing about maintaining ANY relationship with her. Hubby thinks I'm being unreasonable because she seems to want to hang on. For what purpose, I'm not sure. Maybe to make herself feel better because I don't say anything back when she pulls her crap on me? It's definitely time to move on.
