Can I vent

Sorry it's long..
I've been holding it in for the past few weeks and I'm ready to bust. I tried talking to FI about it, but he's not telling me what I want/need to hear. Here is the long story short: I had two very good friends growing up. It was the 3 of us. Well, we ended up getting into a stupid argument a few years ago that ended our friendship. I still hear about them through other friends, and lately I really miss their friendship. One of them is married, and we were all in the wedding party. The other I just recently heard got engaged. I'm upset that I'm not apart of it, and that they are not part of my planning. The past was the past and it was so silly when I think about how we let being young and stupid come between our great times. It's been bothering me for weeks since I've heard the news. I'm torn on what to do. I don't know what would come out of me emailing/calling them. Not s ure if i'm just feeling the stress of the planning and feeling the blues.

If these are your friends for so long and you miss them, call them/e-mail them etc! They may be feeling the same way. You may an answer you don't like, but they may be missing you too!

Good Luck!

i understand where you are coming from... honestly, what do you have to lose? as of right now you aren't speaking to them so it can't get any worse... i say call them. be honest with them and tell them how you are feeling! if you are afraid to call b/c they may reject you, send an email. at least you can say that you tried to reach out to them and made every effort possible and it's not your fault you don't speak to them... hope this helps...

Call them....it is never to late to try to mend it. You know I am sure they are feeling it also, someone has to be the one to give in.

I am sure they will be so happy to hear from you, and if not then at least you tried,,,Good luck

I'm not going to lie. I'm very nervous to make the first move. I feel like since it's the two of them, they would make it first. I know that seems childish. What makes it worse-my FI can't stand the one who just got engaged FI. They got into it when we had a falling out. So of course my married friends hubby took the other guys said. I don't know how to make any of it better

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Posted by Jessiegrl

I'm not going to lie. I'm very nervous to make the first move. I feel like since it's the two of them, they would make it first. I know that seems childish. What makes it worse-my FI can't stand the one who just got engaged FI. They got into it when we had a falling out. So of course my married friends hubby took the other guys said. I don't know how to make any of it better

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i think u should call..u dont want to wonder what if..fh does not have to be bff with her..everyone can be civil around each other..if u r feeling this way..ur heart is not ready to say goodbye..good luck

oh wow this is so weird that you posted this because that sounds exactly like what i have been also going thru, the stories are very similar. thats soo weird! in my childhood years i had these 3 girls (all us 4) were very very close. we were like the group and always together and we were since about middle school all thru our high school years. one of the girls i have actually known since diaper years and basically grew up together since we were in diapers! but anyway.. shyt happend where we all got into this stupid fight also (really pathetic stuff as i think about it today) and its pretty sad because we all than went our seperate ways and basically never spoke or saw each other after senior year because of the drama that happend. i was torn but got over it and used to it. now that i am planning my wedding all the memories came back and hit me as well and it tears me up and upsets me cause i wish they were part of the planning as we always said we would be when we were younger! its so sad cause when i think about it it was such stupid immature stuff that happend when we were so young, now we are older and wise and mature and can get passed our past and just forget about it. but still it hurts to know i wish i can have them as my bridesmaids and of course i dont cause we havent been friends in years now! :( and these are the girls i have the most memories with, grew up with and are my childhood friends. the friends that will always be in my heart and i will love and care about and will never forget them or their memories thru our childhood and h.s for as long as i live.. i miss them and us together terribly but what are you going to do?? things are actually a little better cause i have ran into them and we do talk and keep in touch now on facebook and e-mail each other and they will be invited to my wedding and everything! :) but i just wish it was exactly how it was years ago.. i am actually planning on a day for us all to go to dinner soon and they are excited and willing to do this, soo happy! :)

PS: sorry for my long post.. hehe! but i think you should email them first and tell them how your feeling and i am sure if they are mature enough and understand they will feel the same way about forgetting everything and moving on as if nothing happend.. life is short, there is no time for this as i said to those 3 friends of mine! :) good luck with that hun, keep us posted on what happend!

I'm afraid of the 'i told you, you would come running back' remark. Isn't that horrible? How lame am i!? I'm always worried about what others would think. I don't want them to think I'm begging for them to come back. It's not like that. I just miss what we had. Can a friendship ever go back to the way it was? I've never experienced that. Would I always be the odd man out since it's the 3 of us, and they remained friends?

my situation is just a little different in one area where you said the 2 of them are still friends! the other 3 girls in on my side arent close with each other either and 2 of them dont even talk to each other at all so i guess it made it easier for us to just forget about everything since we were all in the same boat.. but now with the 2 of them being friends still can make the situation a little harder, but i doubt they will be immature enough to not hear you out and understand you.. and if they dont hear you out guess what?? that means they arent worth even trying to be friends with them and at least you tried and you look like the mature and better person in the end.. go for it, dont be scared, you have absolutely nothing to lose at this point.. either your going to gain something out of this or itll be left the same so nothing to lose! :) id go for it if your heart still misses them! trust me, i was in the same boat.. i am sure it will be a positive thing that will come out of this and you will be happy you were the better person and went and contacted them!

and to be honest with you, i dont know if a friendship can go back to exactly the same way it was before the break up, but anything is possible and depending on the people and situation it has happend and can happen! :) so you never know!

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Posted by Jessiegrl

I'm afraid of the 'i told you, you would come running back' remark. Isn't that horrible? How lame am i!? I'm always worried about what others would think. I don't want them to think I'm begging for them to come back. It's not like that. I just miss what we had. Can a friendship ever go back to the way it was? I've never experienced that. Would I always be the odd man out since it's the 3 of us, and they remained friends?

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I understand more than you can ever know what you are going through. In my experience, no it can never go back and you may get even more hurt by trying. But with that said I don't think you will ever feel okay unless you do try. I hope everything works out but you just wont know unless you take the step and reach out. If it doesn't work then the truth you have to realize is even though you had great times, they weren't really your true friends because if they were, they would accept an apology and 'take you back'. Good luck with everything

Definitely call them. You have absolutely nothing to lose, and lifetime friends to gain back.

If it doesn't work out, then you won't have to wonder about it anymore- it just wasn't in the cards.

Best of luck- let us know what you decide!