Can we have a serious conversation?

anyone ever have a friend thats getting married, to a guy you totallyyyyy dont approve of?

do you just keep your mouth shut?

ya know when you know its just not right?

anyone else?

... I don't know what I'd do...

I guess u are in this situation?

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Posted by NikkiB0401

No, but I've had guy friends marry girls I didn't approve of. You kinda just have to let time takes its course....

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well yea, i mean -- its one of those, everyone that seems them knows its a total mistake kind of thing--- i guess i just have to sit back and bite my tounge

keep your mouth shut!

if you said something and she did go through with the marriage, you will always be the girl who didnt approve and it will forever affect your friendship

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Posted by bethie853

I think it depends what you don't approve of. If he's cheating, beating and/or being a slime ball, I would say something, but if you just don't like him, I probably wouldn't, because he might be different with her, especially behind closed doors.

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Posted by J79

keep your mouth shut!

if you said something and she did go through with the marriage, you will always be the girl who didnt approve and it will forever affect your friendship

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yea no i kno- i just

ps - i think i know who you're talking abt

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Posted by pjc92980

actually FHs good friend was dating and then moved in with a girl that no one liked...she was antisocial and tried change him to name a few of the problems. A few of his close friends decided they should sit down and tell him what they think and so they did. he appreciated their talk and continued to date/live with her until about 2-3 months later when he decided to end it and move out. He said the talk opened his eyes up and then he spent the next 2 months trying to figure it out and he realized his friends were right.

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yea its a terrible situation all and all

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Posted by pjc92980

actually FHs good friend was dating and then moved in with a girl that no one liked...she was antisocial and tried change him to name a few of the problems. A few of his close friends decided they should sit down and tell him what they think and so they did. he appreciated their talk and continued to date/live with her until about 2-3 months later when he decided to end it and move out. He said the talk opened his eyes up and then he spent the next 2 months trying to figure it out and he realized his friends were right.

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they're lucky they're still friends. I've learned over the years that in most cases you stay quiet and let them work it out. I've seen friendships destroyed over it.

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Posted by allornil

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Posted by pjc92980

actually FHs good friend was dating and then moved in with a girl that no one liked...she was antisocial and tried change him to name a few of the problems. A few of his close friends decided they should sit down and tell him what they think and so they did. he appreciated their talk and continued to date/live with her until about 2-3 months later when he decided to end it and move out. He said the talk opened his eyes up and then he spent the next 2 months trying to figure it out and he realized his friends were right.

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they're lucky they're still friends. I've learned over the years that in most cases you stay quiet and let them work it out. I've seen friendships destroyed over it.

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yea no i know
im stayingh quiet

its just soo frustrating

like open your eyes
you deserve so mcuh better!

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Posted by Melly11

Yes

And

You have to just keep your mouth shut unfortunately

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Ditto

i mean i get this though.

my mom's best friend's daughter married this a hole.

at their wedding...he disappeared w his friends and after the 1st dance we never saw him again. i'm not kidding. somehow you'd think this would be a sign to her.

well, she divorced him eventually...after he told her he never wanted to move out of his parents basement unless she got a 3rd job and bought the house herself. he charged 10k on her ccs for a home theater and quit his crappy job and let her support him.

I have been in this situation, only I was engaged to the A-hole. My friends never said anything to me, I knew they hated him though, but I really didn't care. Even if they did say something to me, I wouldn't have cared.
Thank god I realized on my own what a jerk he was and how miserable I would have been forever and we broke up.