can we start a thread.....FMIL

Previous comment about the FMIL that gave you 2 garters when you don't want any. Personally, I can't stand the garter toss either and we will NOT be doing it at our wedding.

I think the overall concept here is simple, although it may sound mean. I understand parents are just as excited about this day, some cases maybe more so. And I understand in many cases they have helped with the money. And they are you parents. But, it's the B&G's wedding - they already had theirs. So while we listen to what they like, their suggestions, recommendations, etc. - we are making all final decisions to what WE want, what we like, what we envision. We will try to accomodate them obviously but if your mom absolutely loves daisies for your bouquet and you love calla's - you're crazy if you go with the daisies. Nip it in the but early.

I hate all my FIL's. Okay, I don't hate all of them, they just drive me mad. They're insane about the guest list, they want us to invite everyone when 1) we're poor, they're not contributing and 2) I wanted to have an intimate wedding.

And I'm Catholic and FH is Jewish, so everyone's making all kinds of demands about the ceremony, and if they're not met, they won't come to the wedding, etc. Like, i decided the most equitable thing to do would be to have 2 ceremonies. One in church, then one afterward at a synagogue, or at the reception site. His mom said it was ok, until his grandma started screaming that a rabbi wouldn;t maryr us after we'd already been married, etc, etc. And we should ask an orthodox rabbi, etc. But..umm...an orthodox rabbi wouldn't even marry us in the first place. She's off her rocker. They all are. I can't deal with it anymore, I really can't.

Oh, and FMIL weaseled her way into coming to the fortunoff event, she said she'd go shopping in the mall, but then came in with us anyway...This guy form woodlands was there and I was talking to him about the hall, and they had pastries and stuff there, and FMIL is like 'Well, you can levae the scones out of the wedding, they're terrible'..and the pastry chef was right there! I wanted to sink into the floor.


Then, when I was looking at crystal, I had it basically picked and then FMIL came over and the lady wanted to know if I wanted to look at th less expensive Marquis..and I was like 'no, I want real waterford' and FMIL made one of her usual comments about me being a princess... *UGH*

Can we put them all on one boat................... and sink it.

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Posted by eogara

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Posted by BriBri529

My FH's father's wife is cute . . . she even goes on LIWEDDINGS to lurk sometimes!!!

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And this is the reason that I have not contributed...never know who's 'lurking'!

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I so agree...i've already gotten caught on here by somebody...Be careful girls!

I don't get along with my FMIl at all...
Let's just say that the RSVP date for our engagement party(thrown by my parents) was last week and she still hasnt called me with her answer yet so........
She has been the worst part of my wedding planning-she drives me nuts

I just have to laugh at this thread.

I love my FMIL. She gives her opinion but is never pushy about anything. I've had moments where I have gotten emotional over things said but, she has done so much for the wedding that she is entitled to a few off hand comments(as I have had my own comments as well). I am blessed !!!

Umm, where should I start...

She talks down to her own son... ie, she told him, HE doesn't deserve ME?? huh?? who tells their child this..

She puts her two cents in whenever she can, ie, I orginally wanted Westbury Manor, and she told us not to have it there because the room is toooo dark, I was like umm hello our reception is at night, the lights will be on..

She's pushy, all her wedding advice starts with..'It's not my wedding BUT....

She buys things for the wedding, without asking us...and then gets upset when we tell her to take it back..

She called my parents cheap because they won't pay for a bigger reception, so she can invite all HER friends from work.. and family she hasn't seen in YEARS!!!!!
I cut my boss and some very very good friends from my OWN wedding, but she wants a bigger one, just so she can show off..urgh!!!

She drives me NUTS!!!!

I LOVE my FMIL! She's great. She has her funky moods when she's mad at FH's dad, but who doesn't have funky moods sometimes? She is SOO sweet to me and really happy about us getting married!

I think I have more problems with my own mother, than I have with her.

my gripes are: 1)she seems to think everything we want to do costs too much money...2)she seems to think that maybe we shouldn't be inviting a lot of people because they might think we are only inviting them to get gifts...seriously, who thinks that?...but yet we can't invite one family without inviting the other...i don't understand the thought process here...

but since it is fh and i paying for the wedding, we make all the decisions...

FH's family and my family are so totally different polar oppostes. I hate the fact that it makes me cry and ig et upset and he agrees with me but he defends them and says 'it's justa different cultrue' it makes me so mad. Why can't they just be WRONG?

Ugh..and I looked at our list and the people we think will actually come (and this was a modest estimate) and it's 200 people! AHHHHH......I was like 'cut the list! cut the list!' But..his family is gonna give us heck for that. It's like, cough up some damn money!

Don't get me wrong i do love my FMIL but lately i feel like i can not do a damb thing right when it comes to her. I think she is mad at me for taking care of her son when his sister was in a accident. Everything i do now she looks down at as if i have no idea what i am doing.
For example i called her the other night to go over the guest list and get a few addresses and everytime i asked her to spell out a name for me she would get mad. The reason i asked her a few times is because i couldn't hear her. Any way she goes and says ' Why don't you call me when you haven't had anything to drink.' I get so mad i hang up the phone and turn to my BP who was helping make my invites and say 'She told me to call her when i am sober.' My BP was laughing because i rarely ever drink. SO with that i ran to the shelf and grabbed a bottle of wine poured a glass for all of my girls and said 'let us drink because we are allready being accused of it.'

FMIL is so burnt out because of family stress I understand that but there is no reason to rain on my parade. Any time i bring up the wedding she brings up something depressing about life.. I can't do this anymore. My FH and i are getting married to have some thing finally happy to look foward to because both fam.s have been through a lot of hard times.. I would much rather run away and get married then have to deal with all of this..

SORRY SO LONG HAD TO VENT>

Wow, I'm starting to appreciate my FIL's sorry you guys are having so many problems

Hmmm where do i start...I HAVE 2 FMIL's...HOW ABOUT THAT!

My FH mother..pretty much could careless about the wedding and at first i was thankful. I like doing things my way and don't need anyone else's opinions except the ones i have already (mom, dad and FH). But now i am a little offended that she literally has no interest...oh except for who she wants to invite. MY parents are paying for the majority of this wedding. My FMIL is buying her dress and pretty much showing up. BUT she can buy her lazy youngest, no job 21 year old son a brand new computer. WHATEVER... Lately she is really bothering me.

Well my FMIL with her big A** mouth has not uttered a word since we announced our engagement and wedding but hey the broad can type she managed to go on our online wedding website and rsvp online so maybe I don't have to waste a stamp on an invitation after all!

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Posted by sassy2611

Don't get me wrong i do love my FMIL but lately i feel like i can not do a damb thing right when it comes to her. I think she is mad at me for taking care of her son when his sister was in a accident. Everything i do now she looks down at as if i have no idea what i am doing.
For example i called her the other night to go over the guest list and get a few addresses and everytime i asked her to spell out a name for me she would get mad. The reason i asked her a few times is because i couldn't hear her. Any way she goes and says ' Why don't you call me when you haven't had anything to drink.' I get so mad i hang up the phone and turn to my BP who was helping make my invites and say 'She told me to call her when i am sober.' My BP was laughing because i rarely ever drink. SO with that i ran to the shelf and grabbed a bottle of wine poured a glass for all of my girls and said 'let us drink because we are allready being accused of it.'

FMIL is so burnt out because of family stress I understand that but there is no reason to rain on my parade. Any time i bring up the wedding she brings up something depressing about life.. I can't do this anymore. My FH and i are getting married to have some thing finally happy to look foward to because both fam.s have been through a lot of hard times.. I would much rather run away and get married then have to deal with all of this..

SORRY SO LONG HAD TO VENT>

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THAT is SOOOOO rude!!!! KILL! KILL! She amkes my FMIL look like an angel!

Two Words regarding this subject:

OY VEY.

And that's all I can write in a public forum.