Can you plan your own shower and bachlorette party....
Panamasweet
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Can you plan your own shower and bachlorette party....
My best friend and godmother to my son is my MOH. I've known her since JR high school and I love her dearly but she is not the most dependable person in the world. She was suppose to plan my baby shower along with my sons other godmother and at the last minute she told me she never contacted her becasue she didnt feel right asking her for money to help pay for it. They are not friends to eachother. The entire thing was a disaster. She has the best of intentions sometimes but she really drops the ball. I dont have sisters and i am closer to her than my own female cousins.
Should I make it known to all of the bridesmaids that i want a shower and a party or should I leave it up to her to handle? I have 2 bridesmaids that i'm sure would contribute with no problem.
I cant afford to pay for these other 2 parties in addition to the wedding so if its left up to me to pay for i just wont have one.
TheLadyJ
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I think it is OK for you to have input. Some girls like to be surprised and other's don't.
I would let people know you would like a hand in planning things or at the very least you would like them to consider the things you want to do.
I don't get, though, why you would ask someone to be your MOH if you don't trust them with the responsibility.
Panamasweet
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I had decided that I wanted her to be my MOH becasue she is the closes female to me in my life. Although I cant depend on her for planning things she has been there for me in really horrible times. When i've needed her support during difficult times in my life she has been there for me. I knew that she wasnt dependable and had just decided that I would expect her to do the typical things that a MOH does. I dont need help with anything having to do with the wedding itself. MY FMIL and my mother have been helping me and I have a DOC thats been great. I just wanted her to stand next to me to witness our marriage.
caper24
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I did some planning for myself. If you feel she can be unreliable, by all means plan so that you can have a stress free time! I personally HATE surprises, so that is my opinion. If you love them, maybe you want to call on someone else to help you MOH out who is a little more reliable. Have fun with whatever you do, enjoy!
Panamasweet
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How do I bring it up to the bridesmaids that i want something? Do I be blunt about it or is there a way I can put it in my newsletter? I sent one out when I first got engaged and was planning on sending one out at the end of the summer.
TheLadyJ
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maybe a bridal party lunch. Get all the girls together. Have lunch. Talk about things. Let them know what you want for your shower and bachelorette party. Tell them you will help them plan it because you don't want them to be under too much stress.
MikesBride2B
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Posted by charondita
How do I bring it up to the bridesmaids that i want something? Do I be blunt about it or is there a way I can put it in my newsletter? I sent one out when I first got engaged and was planning on sending one out at the end of the summer.
I straight out sent an email to my MOH saying exactly what I wanted to do for my b-party lol...I figured the only way to get what I want is to let it be known.
jlt2010
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Posted by MikesBride2B
Posted by charondita
How do I bring it up to the bridesmaids that i want something? Do I be blunt about it or is there a way I can put it in my newsletter? I sent one out when I first got engaged and was planning on sending one out at the end of the summer.
I straight out sent an email to my MOH saying exactly what I wanted to do for my b-party lol...I figured the only way to get what I want is to let it be known.
i agree. i send my MOH pictures and not so subtly hint that i want things a certain way.
Panamasweet
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Posted by TheLadyJ
maybe a bridal party lunch. Get all the girls together. Have lunch. Talk about things. Let them know what you want for your shower and bachelorette party. Tell them you will help them plan it because you don't want them to be under too much stress.
I would love to do that but 2 of them live in different states. Its really hard to get them all together. I send out a newsletter to all of my girls maybe I can mention it in there somehow. I plan on sending out my second letter at the end of the summer.
KellymKuehn
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I definately had a say in my B-Party-
The shower was intended to be a surprise but there was a lot of drama so I found out about it. I liked that for once I didn't have to plan something for myself and that someone else had the responsibility of doing it.
MrsCM
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I would definitely tell your girls that you want one and see what they say and take it from there
JAAMS
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Posted by MikesBride2B
Posted by charondita
How do I bring it up to the bridesmaids that i want something? Do I be blunt about it or is there a way I can put it in my newsletter? I sent one out when I first got engaged and was planning on sending one out at the end of the summer.
I straight out sent an email to my MOH saying exactly what I wanted to do for my b-party lol...I figured the only way to get what I want is to let it be known.
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