Cancel hall 3 months before the wedding

gabandcarl Posted: Mar 26, 2009 07:38 AM

Cancel hall 3 months before the wedding

So my dad who is paying for the entire wedding got laid off yesterday. This happened a few months ago but he found a job pretty quickly. Now Im not so sure that he will find something as quickly and the wedding is in 3 months. I feel like i should cancel but ill lose all the deposits so far. I cant afford the wedding and i cant ask my parents to help based on their situation. Any suggestions? I really dont want to cancel but i dont have any other choice.

KRISTIND Posted: Mar 26, 2009 07:40 AM

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try to move it....there may be less of a penalty for that

italgal Posted: Mar 26, 2009 08:15 AM

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Don't cancel, just push the date ahead. In this economy I'm sure any vendor should understand the situation.

ladycapricorn Posted: Mar 26, 2009 08:26 AM

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20mrsc10 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 08:31 AM

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i'm so sorry about this..but ita about trying to move it up im sure some halls wouldn't even charge a penalty for it in this type of economy

tgrlily339 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 09:02 AM

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When I was thinking about moving mine.. TC were VERY considerate of what was going on and gave me a bunch of options... Try talking to them about moving it up, doesnt hurt to ask! So sorry your going through this! I really know the feeling...It *****, but you will get through it !

michelle1024 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 09:05 AM

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I would def contact RH and explain your situation, maybe you can change the date or maybe they can work something out with you.
So sorry you are going through this!

Lsorrent Posted: Mar 26, 2009 09:32 AM

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I would also ask about moving the date instead of canceling all together. I would think they'd rather just postpone it than lose the business all together.

christine2010 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 09:41 AM

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in my opinion, you should call your RH & see what they can do for you. maybe they will offer you an extended payment plan or maybe you can pay the rest off with credit card in advance.

sorry you are dealing with this.

stinenandy2010 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 09:44 AM

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first hugs!

i agree with the other girls, call the RH and explain the situation....there are alot of people out there in the same boat and i am sure they will understand.

nraboni Posted: Mar 26, 2009 10:29 AM

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I would talk to the RH about different forms of payment and if they say they can only take cash then try taking a loan out. Obviously that is not something you want to do but it may be something you have to do. You should also look into borrowing against your 401K. You can borrow up to half and pay yourself back with interest. The payment comes out of your paycheck and is considered pre-taxed money.

AdriandSteve Posted: Mar 26, 2009 10:31 AM

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i agree with everyone else and say move the date instead of canceling. Most halls are ok with this esp under your circumstances. If this isn't possible at all then i'd honestly look into a loan for the remainder if it's not a crazy amount.

Just make sure you pay it off with everything you get back from the wedding. It ***** but it's better then losing all the $ you laid out already.

MnM182008 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 10:59 AM

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We moved our date 4 months out from our original wedding date because DH mom was diagnosed with cancer and had to go through chemo and radiations, and my dad had to have a major surgery. We did pay a slightly higher fee per person but it wasn't bad. Call the rh and talk to the, be honest.

futureMrsJSL Posted: Mar 26, 2009 11:31 AM

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Sorry that happened. I'd try to move my date back because your situation might change by then and you might not have to worry about loosing any money.

Or I'd see if I could shorten my guest list with the RH, switch to a less expensive photo/video/dj package with the vendors that I booked already and cut out any extra stuff. Good luck.

emc282rjm Posted: Mar 26, 2009 12:32 PM

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Posted by AdriandSteve

i agree with everyone else and say move the date instead of canceling. Most halls are ok with this esp under your circumstances. If this isn't possible at all then i'd honestly look into a loan for the remainder if it's not a crazy amount.

Just make sure you pay it off with everything you get back from the wedding. It ***** but it's better then losing all the $ you laid out already.

I'm so sorry that's happened! I agree with Adriana...if you don't have THAT much left, consider taking a loan out if you can't work with your RH. It's better than losing all of the money you've already paid for all of your vendors...that's a LOT!

bride2b57 Posted: Mar 26, 2009 03:24 PM

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This is a tough spot to be in. I am sorry to hear about your Dad. My Dad was laid off as well and FH and I are footing most of the bill. If the payment is not major, try getting a PT job. It can be done! Or cut back in some areas. Otherwise, take the advice of others and push the date forward.

grkbarbie Posted: Mar 26, 2009 04:41 PM

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if u feel bad about taking $ from ur parents..how about BORROWING the money and paying them back with with gift $ u get from your wedding.. its only fair, right?

gabandcarl Posted: Mar 26, 2009 05:05 PM

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Thanks girls! This just really *****. I think i have over 20k left on the rh and all of the vendors are booked and paid for. I really dont want to move the dat. I would rather just cancel the rh and do a desination wedding if need be. Then, have a big party or something on the day that should have been our wedding day. I dont know anymore. I called the rh 4 months ago bc this already happened and their suggestion was to move the date as well. Ive just waited so long already to get married that i dont want to wait any more.