Can't manage to talk to BM

Have to SHARe..sorrykind of long...SO.. I've posted b4 about my ongoing problem where one of my BMs out right told me that she wanted to be my MOH and would like to be considered as a 2nd choice.. since then I have chosen a 2nd one and want to let her know and explain..... HOWEVER, i wanted to do it in person or on the phone when she would be able to talk to me.. but now I haven't seen her in 3 months we talk very briefly over the phone and I'm not sure what to do?? At this point, I'm kind of amazed that I have to explain it bc although she is a dear and old friend the fact that we can't seem to sit down and have a conversation in 3 months kind of speaks for itself as to why i did not choose her as a MOH.. but i still do foresee this being a problem (bc recently i saw a friend who spoke to her and asked her who i chose as a MOH and she said I hadn't chosen yet which she knows isnt true.. I believe she still thinks im going to have her) I'm so not use to this kind of drama.. Im really a drama-free person and usually say whats on my mind.. but for some reason this is something that has been hanging over my head for months!! I don't know what to do at this point?? Should i just call her up and just lay it out there even if she tells me she doesnt have time to talk? And as time is going by I find myself less and less valueing the friendship we have/had

I think the best thing to do is to call her and tell her what's up! I think it's kind of strange that she would assume you would choose her when she doesnt even keep in touch with you on a regular basis. Be honest with her, if she doesn't like it or gets offended then that's really her problem, you can't have everyone as your MOH and by her saying that to you, she is putting you in a very awkward position.

Be straightforward and dont worry about the rest, if she doesnt want to be a BM either then that's her loss.

Thanks girls! I've tried to set up times to meet with her and plans keep getting changed! Plus I called her and even told her that most of my BP has already gone for the dresses and she still has too and she said sure i'll just go with the other girls that have to go whenever. Now i didn't call her after that because plans were up in the air with the other girls but she didn't call me either to follow up. So I mean its very strange.. I think the best thing is to let her know on the phone. I just needed to share bc i've already exhausted my Mom and best friend about this situation enough. Thanks for listening