I cant take his family with inviting ppl....They want to invite more ppl and I just dont understand how they have the nerve to want to do that when they arent paying that much into it and my dad is paying soooo much more....Everytime I bring it up with FH he throws **** in my face like why you being a ***** my parents relaly want these ppl here. Isnt the girls parents suppose to be paying for the weddding anyways...If my parents had more money they would give the amt they told you was prob the best they can do...
Well then y are they wanting to invite more ppl and I dno how to make them realize that I cant invite anymore....I only ordered 135 invites and already sent out 101 they want like dozen more leaving me with 20 for extras....there are ppl we still dno if if we are going to invite and I dnt want to be left with none plus I also dnt want to give them all out bc what if someone we invited they never received it I want to maybe send them another one of something....
Last night he goesto his parents and told them who are pl deff and we will wait on some other bc of the amt of invites and he comes to me and goes could you order more even if it isnt like the ones we have just something they could give out...
asg450
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Sorry to hear about your guest list issues. I understand where you're coming from. Your FH's family should be more understanding about t he number of people to invite. I hope it all works out.
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I'm sorry to hear that you are having troubles. Just think...very soon it will be the BIG DAY and it will be an awesome celebration!!! Keep your chin up!
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I am so sorry that you are going through this. You want to stand up for youself and at the same time do not want to start thing w the FILS on a bad foot. I am going through something similar and I try to be respectful but at the same time stand by ground. Maybe you could ask them to pick X amount of poeple to send invited to and then anything more tell them u just can not pay for.
ughhh FILS!!!
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the day is almost here and once that day comes it will be all forgotten!!
i hate this brides parents have to pay this is 2009!!! well then the grooms parents provide a house?? ***!!
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My sister had a similar problem at her wedding. Luckily, they offered to pay for the extra guests they wanted to invite. Of course, it was only the plates at the RH they actually wanted to pay for.
Just let them know that the RH can't hold many more people and you would have been happy to add them had they been thought of when the original guest list was put together and though you're sure they're very important, since they slipped their minds in the beginning, it probably wouldn't be a huge deal if they were not invited, but you can allow for up to 10 more guests, to be budgeted by your FILS carefully, for people who had originally slipped their minds.
GOOD LUCK!
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Posted by lolalovesacroat
the day is almost here and once that day comes it will be all forgotten!!
i hate this brides parents have to pay this is 2009!!! well then the grooms parents provide a house?? ***!!
ITA
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love it....lol yea dont we all wish
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I deff agree with everyone but this all ***** I never thought a wedding could be such a headache.... I really dnt want to start anything with my FIL's bc then it will start with FH and I dnt want that when we are suppose to be soo happy right now...I also dnt want to bring up with my parents because I dnt want the headache from them....I just wish FIL could understnd about holding on and only sending the most important I dnt even have a head count bc I dno wh we are inviting like this....
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Ok i would speak with them directly and say im sorry but i cannot invite anymore people however you are more than welcome to invit as many as you like if you can contribute a little more. Im sorry that sounds harsh but it sounds like because they know your dad is paying..... they think they can invite as many people as they like. Just speak up and defend yourself. good luck.
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yuck. I kinda went thru that as well - but with my grandmother. The wedding was paid for entirely by me & DH (neither of our parents could really afford to help). However, my grandmother did give a little bit in the beginning (kind of like an engagement gift). In all honestly, she has a lot of money and could have helped us out a LOT more, but whatever. I appreciated what she gave anyhow (even tho it barely helped). Nobody spits on a gift tho, ya know? But then months later she got this crazy idea that she could start inviting all these people. Excuse you - if you want to PAY for all of them, then go ahead. But since she barely gave us anything at all to work with and WE could not afford the extra guests, it just was not going to happen. And then she had the nerve to throw a hissy fit and talk about some 'money train' that was now leaving. I still don't know. A 'money train' is not a teeny tiny one time gift that wouldn't even be enough to purchase a wedding cake. What a weirdo.
So I hear ya. I think you should stick to your guns tho. If you can't afford these extra people, you just need to be honest and tell them the situation. Simple as that.
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Exactly if they want to pay for the people tell them to load em in.. more gifts for you!!!
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that sux!!!!! my future in laws are doing the same thing!!!!!
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Twin date!!! Sorry you are having trouble with this situation...
I had a little encounter with FH's family over a misunderstanding of invites, But I SOLVE that problem quickly becuase FH, Myself and MY family are the ones paying for EVERYTHING!!
You need to be honest and MAKE it clear that there is no money, you are not working and that the wedding has gone way over your budget!! Maybe like that they will understand.. If they want to invite more ppl they need to give the money for them.. Thats it!! You need to be super STRONG!! Some ppl think its a free club night!!
I hope you resolve this quickly.. It can be a headache..
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Tell your groom's parents that you guys can only afford a certain amount and if they want any extra people, they would need to pay for it because it's not in the budget. You understand that they can't afford to give more money but they have to understand that you can't afford to pay for extra people.
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im sorry to hear about this =T but i had almost the same prob. fh and i are paying the wedding ourselves and we gave a limited amount of invites to our parents and we told them we CAN NOT invite any more of their friends/etc.. it was a huge battle, but its oUR wedding and NOT theirs...i hope it'll work out for u!
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I hear ya, my parents keep inviting people and they aren't paying anything and I feel odd walking around talking to people whom I've never met and some of whom don't speak English (my stepdad is Foreign). I wanted my Engagement party to be REALLY small and intimate and FH's fam keeps inviting family friends and it's growing and growing and stressing and stressing...
In the end, I'd ask them who absolutely must come and then just ask them for a bigger contribution if those people must come.
