Case of the Ex.... should I, should I not? Long...
So my Ex of 5 years and I did not really end off on a good note. My DH basically 'stole' me from him. Anyway, after we broke up he kept calling, emailing, stopping by, and wanting to be 'friends'. Sooner than later I would always find out that he wanted to be more than friends and of course felt betrayed and angry with him. Eventually, DH and I got sick of his games and DH flat out said that obviously I could not even have a casual friendship with this guy because he just did not get that I wanted nothing more to do with him.
So I started to tell him that we should probably wait several months before trying to start up a friendship, to not call me so much, etc etc. I tried to be NICE. He never respected my wishes and that got really frustrating. So apparently I was too nice.
I am not the type of person that can be mean very easily...but my way wasn't working to get the point across to him so DH insisted that I do it 'his' way.... which was basically to get angry and tell him to Fook Off, in no uncertain terms.
Well, I did it, my ex laughed at me and said 'I don't know what's gotten into you but I'll call you in like a month when your not so cranky!'![]()
Turns out he never called again though. Mission accomplished.
Anyway, I was never happy with the way things ended off, with me having to say that to him. It's not really me to be that way and admittedly, I did it mostly for DH because he was fed up with his behavior already. I spent 5 yrs of my life with that guy and I thought our relationship deserved to end off on a more amicable note.
Okay, let me get to the point. I've discussed the possibility of approaching my Ex once final time, via E-mail just to kind of end things differently. I feel guilty about ending things the way I did. So, yes, it's mostly just selfish -- to make MYSELF feel better...but I don't think it's too much to ask. So anyway, now that DH and I are married almost 3 months, my Ex is engaged and set to marry in June, I thought now might be a good time to send off a brief email basically wishing him a good life, the end.
Should I write him? Or just drop it? DH of course is concerned that any contact with him will kick up the drama again. He would probably prefer me to put it off longer.... like til forever...Do you think so? I think maybe he's grown up by now... I don't need or even want a reply. I just want to sorta clear my conscience.
So I started to tell him that we should probably wait several months before trying to start up a friendship, to not call me so much, etc etc. I tried to be NICE. He never respected my wishes and that got really frustrating. So apparently I was too nice.
I am not the type of person that can be mean very easily...but my way wasn't working to get the point across to him so DH insisted that I do it 'his' way.... which was basically to get angry and tell him to Fook Off, in no uncertain terms.
Well, I did it, my ex laughed at me and said 'I don't know what's gotten into you but I'll call you in like a month when your not so cranky!'
Anyway, I was never happy with the way things ended off, with me having to say that to him. It's not really me to be that way and admittedly, I did it mostly for DH because he was fed up with his behavior already. I spent 5 yrs of my life with that guy and I thought our relationship deserved to end off on a more amicable note.
Okay, let me get to the point. I've discussed the possibility of approaching my Ex once final time, via E-mail just to kind of end things differently. I feel guilty about ending things the way I did. So, yes, it's mostly just selfish -- to make MYSELF feel better...but I don't think it's too much to ask. So anyway, now that DH and I are married almost 3 months, my Ex is engaged and set to marry in June, I thought now might be a good time to send off a brief email basically wishing him a good life, the end.
Should I write him? Or just drop it? DH of course is concerned that any contact with him will kick up the drama again. He would probably prefer me to put it off longer.... like til forever...Do you think so? I think maybe he's grown up by now... I don't need or even want a reply. I just want to sorta clear my conscience.
