Cheating..What Are Your Thoughts??

MJDoc12 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:15 PM

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my thoughts are this:

if i caught my FH cheating---i would be forced to castrate him and wear his balls around my neck on a chain.

oh and the wedding would be called off...i don't care how much $$ we lost. i'd rather lost thousands of dollars than lose my dignity.

neener1211 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:16 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

my thoughts are this:

if i caught my FH cheating---i would be forced to castrate him and wear his balls around my neck on a chain.

oh and the wedding would be called off...i don't care how much $$ we lost. i'd rather lost thousands of dollars than lose my dignity.

I agree!!!!!

Mandyin2007 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:23 PM

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I would leave him at the alter, I'd be evil about it. I don't condone cheating and neiterh does he.

brittny817 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:24 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

my thoughts are this:

if i caught my FH cheating---i would be forced to castrate him and wear his balls around my neck on a chain.

oh and the wedding would be called off...i don't care how much $$ we lost. i'd rather lost thousands of dollars than lose my dignity.

Well said !!!

PegaLega Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:36 PM

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Posted by werock0709

We had this question in Pre-cana. Both of us agreed. If we were unfaithful before or after, makes no difference. Our marriage would not be salvagable.

100% agree

mycrayon1 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:43 PM

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Posted by mrsh2b

Any relationship's foundation is trust. Once the foundation is destroyed, there's nothing left. I would leave b/c there would be no point in staying. Every time he left the house I'd be wondering what he was doing. I couldn't live like that.

Same here. Having been in a relationship where he cheated, I couldn't get out of it fast enough. Marriage with kids might slow down the process a little, only b/c it's a much tougher decision, but FH and I have discussed it and we both feel that if your going to cheat, then it's time to end the relationship b/c something is beyond wrong.

hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: Aug 11, 2006 12:45 PM

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what kind of cheating? was it kissing? sex?
IF IT WERE a kiss and it was b4 the marriage- the marriage would be questionable
if it were sex b4 the marriage, i dont think there will be a marriage

if it were after, i dont know. i think we would need a divorce- b/c if he cheats once, he'll cheat multiple times.

Love4Eva Posted: Aug 11, 2006 01:11 PM

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

I can't really say because unless you are actually IN that situation it is so hard to try and guesstimate how you would react. But I can say how I THINK I would react... I would leave FH/DH. For me, marriage is ALL about loyalty and trust. You are making a life-long commitment to that person so being with someone else is not even an option. I would never do that to Vinny and I know Vinny would never do that to me so if he did, I would feel like I didn't even know that person anymore-- therefore, I could not, in good faith, stay with him and try to work on something I feel is so broken that it cannot be fixed. It's hard though so I can't really say for sure-- no one can, until you are placed in that position.

this was very well stated .... it depends on MANY factors, but I know that FH would not tolerate chetaing at ALL and I am on the same page with him ... and like Britnny sd - I would think of what he was doing with someone else when me and him would be havong our intimate moments.

leshellem Posted: Aug 11, 2006 01:28 PM

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Posted by sugarkube4

I would totally call off the wedding.. and then I would ruin his life

Same here. If I was married w/o kids divorce, if kids, I think I would try to work it out for the sake of the kids and as soon as they are off to college, divorce his sorr a$$

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 01:44 PM

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Posted by brittny817

OK I know it's not a pretty topic but...

If FH cheated on you and you found out before the wedding would you call it off?

If he cheated after the wedding would you consider divorce?

Yes and Yes!

JazzyT Posted: Aug 11, 2006 01:51 PM

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Posted by STBMrsDaniRella

I can't really say because unless you are actually IN that situation it is so hard to try and guesstimate how you would react. But I can say how I THINK I would react... I would leave FH/DH. For me, marriage is ALL about loyalty and trust. You are making a life-long commitment to that person so being with someone else is not even an option. I would never do that to Vinny and I know Vinny would never do that to me so if he did, I would feel like I didn't even know that person anymore-- therefore, I could not, in good faith, stay with him and try to work on something I feel is so broken that it cannot be fixed. It's hard though so I can't really say for sure-- no one can, until you are placed in that position.

I agree...ideally I would like the strength to leave him

tonimike Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:01 PM

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Well I told FH that should he ever cheat on me he would only embarss himself, as I did a voodoo spell on his pee she & he can try all he wants , he will just have limp d!ck..

jenn122397 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:11 PM

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I would absolutely call the wedding off or get a divorce and then take him for everything he's got. In my opinion, there is no excuse for cheating, even if it is supposedly a 'one time deal' We have already had this discussion and agree with each other.

I always tell him that I would rather him tell me like you annoy me or I dont like having sex with you or whatever the problem was so we could TRY to fix it first.

brittny817 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:15 PM

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Posted by tonimike

Well I told FH that should he ever cheat on me he would only embarss himself, as I did a voodoo spell on his pee she & he can try all he wants , he will just have limp d!ck..

That's awesome Toni!! You need to share that spell with the group

iamvocal72 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:24 PM

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i have no idea what I would do....

I know that if I cheated he would leave in a heartbeat - no second chances - done

If he cheated on me? It would depend on SO MANY things - I can't just say I would leave and end things. People don't usually cheat just to cheat. Then again I know that I would lose my mind if he did.

I would cut him - no doubt!

bride2b24 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:24 PM

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Posted by werock0709

We had this question in Pre-cana. Both of us agreed. If we were unfaithful before or after, makes no difference. Our marriage would not be salvagable. [/QUOT

ditto.....i would forever be suspicious

tonimike Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:25 PM

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Posted by brittny817

Posted by tonimike

Well I told FH that should he ever cheat on me he would only embarss himself, as I did a voodoo spell on his pee she & he can try all he wants , he will just have limp d!ck..

That's awesome Toni!! You need to share that spell with the group

Ive told him numerous times, go ahead, just you TRY & cheat & see what happens..Ha Ha,, I thibk he actually belives that I casted some spell on him,, too funny,, He whatever works,, LOL

nycgirl79 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 02:45 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

my thoughts are this:

if i caught my FH cheating---i would be forced to castrate him and wear his balls around my neck on a chain.

oh and the wedding would be called off...i don't care how much $$ we lost. i'd rather lost thousands of dollars than lose my dignity.

I completely agree. I told fh very early on (the topic came up somehow) that I'd much rather he dump me on my a** than ever cheat on me. I've had a lot of friends who's bf's have cheated on them, and it's honestly one of the most disgusting and disrespectful things you can do to someone.

2Be1 Posted: Aug 11, 2006 03:13 PM

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Posted by kismet8601

Posted by werock0709

We had this question in Pre-cana. Both of us agreed. If we were unfaithful before or after, makes no difference. Our marriage would not be salvagable.

100% agree

Yep, cheating is our only grounds for divorce.