so im Jewish and fH is Catholic. We are having an interfaith ceremony, nothing too religious at all, more just spiritual and talking about what marriage means, God, etc. you get the idea.
but we are having elements of Jewish traditions that are symbolized by actual things that the guests will be able to physically see, (breaking of glass, maybe a ketubah- (like a Jewish marriage contract that you both sign...)
soooo im wondering besides the unity candle which will we have, what other physical items can be brought into our ceremony which are symbolic in the Catholic tradition or at least just in Christian tradition in general. especially since some of his family doesnt speak english, i think this is important since they will only be seeing whats happening rather than understanding in words, kwim really need help on this, pls!!! tia my loveys
Ivansgirl
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I'm sorry i really can't think of anything. The only visual thing is the unity candle.
Future Mrs H
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The unity candle is the only thing I can think of too. It maybe too religious but maybe you can play the Ave Maria
Lsorrent
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My priest mentioned something called 'Offering Flowers to Mary' where you basically bring up a floral arrangement to a statue of the Virgin Mary. We are considering doing this, since we aren't going to do a unity candle. By doing this you are showing 'appreciation for nurturing your relationship so far, and that as you lay them, you are asking Mary to help guide you in your marriage and as parents.'
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Posted by Lsorrent
My priest mentioned something called 'Offering Flowers to Mary' where you basically bring up a floral arrangement to a statue of the Virgin Mary. We are considering doing this, since we aren't going to do a unity candle. By doing this you are showing 'appreciation for nurturing your relationship so far, and that as you lay them, you are asking Mary to help guide you in your marriage and as parents.'
we are doing this as well as a unity candle
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thank you girls for responding, i know this is a hard one.
unfortunately as nice as it sounds about the Virgin Mary ceremony, this would be definate opposition of the Jewish faith. In Judaism and in a temple, there are no figurines, pictures, statues or anything like that. So that might not go over to well with my family.
Thank you girls though again.
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Ok this isn't a religios thign but atleast something for your non-english speaking guests to watch and enjoy. What about you and FH doing a presentation of flowers to eachother's mothers? He gives to your's and you give to his.
Future Mrs H
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How about a little twist on the flowers to the Virgin Mary. You can give flowers to each of your Mothers or Grandmothers.
bride2b57
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Is he an Italian Catholic? I am not sure how you are planning on carrying out your ceremony (catholic church, temple, outside?) Coming from an Italian Catholic family, there are no real objects/symbols that would be expected. The unity candle is often used but is not even expected. Its something a lot of churches will do upon request. When thinking of people that do not speak English, I would assume they may be looking for the communion (bread and wine), a few readings, and music. I don't know if this really helps lol. Oh and if they are REAL Italian lol, they may not be lost when the glass is broken. I have heard that this tradition is carried out in Italy also.
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I am Catholic and I don't really think of the unity candle as a 'Catholic thing.' I always thought it was a secular kind of thing brought in to the church by brides and grooms. It really has no religious significance. I liked the idea someone had to play the Ave Maria. It is such a gorgeous song, I am trying to figure out a place to have that.
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Were having it at a Unitarian Congregation- so basically we consider and refer to it as a chapel.
So we couldnt do communion because its not a priest marrying us and either way, i just recently found out that fh was never confirmed, lol, news to me.
Hes Puerto Rican Catholic.
Thank you thank you guys! now that i come to think of of it and you guys made me realize that what most of us think of as an American wedding ceremony, is based on the Catholic or Christian way. I guess the glass thing isnt even a big deal and shouldnt make his family feel like they are being left out. We are going to have the minister read from the old and new testament and i am doing programs specifically for the reason of explaining the Jewish and Catholic parts. I will also do Spanish programs....
i love you guys, do you all know thattttt seriously, i have no clue where i would be without you all
soontobecruz
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My cousin had an interfaith ceremony 4 years ago. it was a beautiful ceremony, I'll ask her things she did that I can't remember now. we talk often so I'll ask her for you next time she and I catch up.
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Have you thought about maybe doing part of your vows in spanish?
I am contemplating that because FH is Sicilian, I am half Italian, but I do not speak Italian, and I think it would mean alot to FH and his parents if I said part of my vows in Sicilian. Although I am a little hesitant to do it cause I am afraid I would butcher it!
little j
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who is marrying you?
when my folks got married they had a priest and a rabbi..they both spoke together and had their parts.
if you need more specific answers, i can ask my mom more about her ceremony
