Church Question

My FH is presbyterian but we are getting married in a Catholic church where I was baptized, confrimed etc.

If FH was baptized and confirmed but in a Presbyterian church is it still ok for us to get married in the catholic church?

We arent having a full mass bc he is presbyterian, but I thought all along his family became presbyterian after he was baptized and confrimed only to learn last night he was baptized and confrimed but in a presbyterian church.

Does it matter?? Help?

hmm....i would DEFINETLY call your church & ask..especially if you have a relationship with the person who will be marrying you. Some churches are much more strict with this than others & i'd hate for u to go by an answer we give you & then run into a problem! just call & ask...they'll tell you everything u need to know

Yes you can get married in a catholic church, mostly likely the wedding will be performed outside of the alter and not inside.


Also it doesn't matter where your baptized at, the catholic church will acknowledge any baptism no matter of religion

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Posted by lillprincess54

Yes you can get married in a catholic church, mostly likely the wedding will be performed outside of the alter and not inside.


Also it doesn't matter where your baptized at, the catholic church will acknowledge any baptism no matter of religion

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i am not catholic and got married in a catholic church. I was married inside the alter and not outside

Thanks again for all your help ladies!

You got me my answers quicker than my priest!

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Posted by mokie74m

I just went through this myself. My FH is Methodist and I am Catholic. The church told me that he is a Christian since he was baptized and that that is all you need to get married in a Catholic church. Just a little interesting note that I didn't know, the church told me that the only sacrament you both need for marriage is baptism, you don't need communion or confirmation. Hope that helped.

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that's great to know. i thought i was going to have to drag FH to confirmation classes!

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Posted by traci506

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Posted by mokie74m

I just went through this myself. My FH is Methodist and I am Catholic. The church told me that he is a Christian since he was baptized and that that is all you need to get married in a Catholic church. Just a little interesting note that I didn't know, the church told me that the only sacrament you both need for marriage is baptism, you don't need communion or confirmation. Hope that helped.

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that's great to know. i thought i was going to have to drag FH to confirmation classes!

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i think it might depend on the church bc i saw girls on here posting that they had to do this or their FH, not sure if it was by choice though maybe it was. I also personally know one girl and her Fh did this. Who knows maybe it was by choice

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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Posted by megsher

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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yeah every church is different bc we were able to have a mass if we wanted to. For me its the opposite dh is catholic and i am christian orthodox which is what your FH is, its called christian orthodox but the countries like to be their country's name in front of the orthodox although its the same lol. They said we could have mass but of course i just wouldn't be able to take communion but catholics would've been able to.

Each church is different -- why I don't know but they are. Call your church and met with them to discuss all of your options.

My FH was baptized baptist. Before we met with the priest FH decided he would do the RCIA program and become Catholic and we wanted a full mass. When we met with the priest (though he was happy that FH had made this decision) he said it was not necessary that as long as I signed an agreement that our children would be raised catholic we could have a mass. If we had decided on a ceremony only then it still would have been on the alter whether or not FH decided to become Catholic.

HTH

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by megsher

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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yeah every church is different bc we were able to have a mass if we wanted to. For me its the opposite dh is catholic and i am christian orthodox which is what your FH is, its called christian orthodox but the countries like to be their country's name in front of the orthodox although its the same lol. They said we could have mass but of course i just wouldn't be able to take communion but catholics would've been able to.

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See all churches are different. I have a friend who is orthodox and her DH catholic when they got married the catholic priest was allowed to say a blessing and they were both allowed to receive communion because it is the same religin -- orthodox is more strict. When she goes to Catholic Churches she can receive communion.

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by megsher

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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yeah every church is different bc we were able to have a mass if we wanted to. For me its the opposite dh is catholic and i am christian orthodox which is what your FH is, its called christian orthodox but the countries like to be their country's name in front of the orthodox although its the same lol. They said we could have mass but of course i just wouldn't be able to take communion but catholics would've been able to.

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See all churches are different. I have a friend who is orthodox and her DH catholic when they got married the catholic priest was allowed to say a blessing and they were both allowed to receive communion because it is the same religin -- orthodox is more strict. When she goes to Catholic Churches she can receive communion.

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that is interesting then, the reason why is bc dont catholics have to do confession before taking communion, not right before but sometime close to the time you take it. I know when i go with DH to church for easter, christmas eve and other occasions, when its time to go up for communion theres been times that somebody we were with, we go with a group of ppl, doesnt go up and they say 'i havent gone to confession in a long time so i shouldn't take it' and then others around us wont get up to take communion either. I didnt ask but i heard others saying this a couple of times. And in the orthodox religion well confession is a bit different, we do it in front of the priest you sit in front of him on the steps and its not something you do as often as catholics would do it. But this is the first time i heard of other religions taking communion in a catholic church.

yeah christian orthodox and catholic are both christian religions so yes they are similar in the fact that its part of christianity but its not the same religion there are quite a few differences. And theres a few things we believe in that catholics dont and vice versa

But yes, some rules differ from church to church

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by megsher

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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yeah every church is different bc we were able to have a mass if we wanted to. For me its the opposite dh is catholic and i am christian orthodox which is what your FH is, its called christian orthodox but the countries like to be their country's name in front of the orthodox although its the same lol. They said we could have mass but of course i just wouldn't be able to take communion but catholics would've been able to.

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See all churches are different. I have a friend who is orthodox and her DH catholic when they got married the catholic priest was allowed to say a blessing and they were both allowed to receive communion because it is the same religin -- orthodox is more strict. When she goes to Catholic Churches she can receive communion.

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that is interesting then, the reason why is bc dont catholics have to do confession before taking communion, not right before but sometime close to the time you take it. I know when i go with DH to church for easter, christmas eve and other occasions, when its time to go up for communion theres been times that somebody we were with, we go with a group of ppl, doesnt go up and they say 'i havent gone to confession in a long time so i shouldn't take it' and then others around us wont get up to take communion either. I didnt ask but i heard others saying this a couple of times. And in the orthodox religion well confession is a bit different, we do it in front of the priest you sit in front of him on the steps and its not something you do as often as catholics would do it. But this is the first time i heard of other religions taking communion in a catholic church.

yeah christian orthodox and catholic are both christian religions so yes they are similar in the fact that its part of christianity but its not the same religion there are quite a few differences. And theres a few things we believe in that catholics dont and vice versa

But yes, some rules differ from church to church

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yes technically as a catholic you are supposed to have gone to confession prior to communion especially if you haven't taken communion in a long time. I personally don't follow that rule and it seems to be something they have eased up on.

Who knows why some churches let you do somethings and some don't -- to me if it is the same religion (catholic, jewish, orthodox) then the rules should be universal to each place of worship. And I dont' mean the throwing of rose petals or aisle runners I mean yes you can have mass no you can't ... serious rules. I guess it is one of those that we will never have a straight answer to.

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by megsher

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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yeah every church is different bc we were able to have a mass if we wanted to. For me its the opposite dh is catholic and i am christian orthodox which is what your FH is, its called christian orthodox but the countries like to be their country's name in front of the orthodox although its the same lol. They said we could have mass but of course i just wouldn't be able to take communion but catholics would've been able to.

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See all churches are different. I have a friend who is orthodox and her DH catholic when they got married the catholic priest was allowed to say a blessing and they were both allowed to receive communion because it is the same religin -- orthodox is more strict. When she goes to Catholic Churches she can receive communion.

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that is interesting then, the reason why is bc dont catholics have to do confession before taking communion, not right before but sometime close to the time you take it. I know when i go with DH to church for easter, christmas eve and other occasions, when its time to go up for communion theres been times that somebody we were with, we go with a group of ppl, doesnt go up and they say 'i havent gone to confession in a long time so i shouldn't take it' and then others around us wont get up to take communion either. I didnt ask but i heard others saying this a couple of times. And in the orthodox religion well confession is a bit different, we do it in front of the priest you sit in front of him on the steps and its not something you do as often as catholics would do it. But this is the first time i heard of other religions taking communion in a catholic church.

yeah christian orthodox and catholic are both christian religions so yes they are similar in the fact that its part of christianity but its not the same religion there are quite a few differences. And theres a few things we believe in that catholics dont and vice versa

But yes, some rules differ from church to church

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yes technically as a catholic you are supposed to have gone to confession prior to communion especially if you haven't taken communion in a long time. I personally don't follow that rule and it seems to be something they have eased up on.

Who knows why some churches let you do somethings and some don't -- to me if it is the same religion (catholic, jewish, orthodox) then the rules should be universal to each place of worship. And I dont' mean the throwing of rose petals or aisle runners I mean yes you can have mass no you can't ... serious rules. I guess it is one of those that we will never have a straight answer to.

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yeah i also see alot of ppl taking it regardless.

Yeah its weird to do different rules bc it just confuses people. Then i feel bad bc you have someone who will ask a question and one person will give an answer BUT based on their church and not realize its different rules sometimes, and then that person will go on thinking they cant do a certain thing that they might've wanted to do.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by anneandchris

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by megsher

Hi,
I'm Catholic, FH is Greek orthodox. Each church is different, but I was told I had to be confirmed, he had to be baptized. We couldn't have a full mass though, only ceremony. Which is fine b/c his family won't take communion out of their own church.
HTH

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yeah every church is different bc we were able to have a mass if we wanted to. For me its the opposite dh is catholic and i am christian orthodox which is what your FH is, its called christian orthodox but the countries like to be their country's name in front of the orthodox although its the same lol. They said we could have mass but of course i just wouldn't be able to take communion but catholics would've been able to.

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See all churches are different. I have a friend who is orthodox and her DH catholic when they got married the catholic priest was allowed to say a blessing and they were both allowed to receive communion because it is the same religin -- orthodox is more strict. When she goes to Catholic Churches she can receive communion.

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that is interesting then, the reason why is bc dont catholics have to do confession before taking communion, not right before but sometime close to the time you take it. I know when i go with DH to church for easter, christmas eve and other occasions, when its time to go up for communion theres been times that somebody we were with, we go with a group of ppl, doesnt go up and they say 'i havent gone to confession in a long time so i shouldn't take it' and then others around us wont get up to take communion either. I didnt ask but i heard others saying this a couple of times. And in the orthodox religion well confession is a bit different, we do it in front of the priest you sit in front of him on the steps and its not something you do as often as catholics would do it. But this is the first time i heard of other religions taking communion in a catholic church.

yeah christian orthodox and catholic are both christian religions so yes they are similar in the fact that its part of christianity but its not the same religion there are quite a few differences. And theres a few things we believe in that catholics dont and vice versa

But yes, some rules differ from church to church

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yes technically as a catholic you are supposed to have gone to confession prior to communion especially if you haven't taken communion in a long time. I personally don't follow that rule and it seems to be something they have eased up on.

Who knows why some churches let you do somethings and some don't -- to me if it is the same religion (catholic, jewish, orthodox) then the rules should be universal to each place of worship. And I dont' mean the throwing of rose petals or aisle runners I mean yes you can have mass no you can't ... serious rules. I guess it is one of those that we will never have a straight answer to.

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yeah i also see alot of ppl taking it regardless.

Yeah its weird to do different rules bc it just confuses people. Then i feel bad bc you have someone who will ask a question and one person will give an answer BUT based on their church and not realize its different rules sometimes, and then that person will go on thinking they cant do a certain thing that they might've wanted to do.

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That is why I always advise people to call their church first.

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Posted by Cpt2007

Yes, you can be married in a Catholic Church, but you would not have a full Nuptial Mass. Just a ceremony.

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not true, you can still have a mass you just cant take communion. Some churches wont allow you to have mass but there are many churches who will still allow you to have a full mass regardless if one is not catholic. I am not catholic and i was given the option of doing a mass, i couldnt take communion thats all

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Cpt2007

Yes, you can be married in a Catholic Church, but you would not have a full Nuptial Mass. Just a ceremony.

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not true, you can still have a mass you just cant take communion. Some churches wont allow you to have mass but there are many churches who will still allow you to have a full mass regardless if one is not catholic. I am not catholic and i was given the option of doing a mass, i couldnt take communion thats all

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different in your church then! those were the rules in mine.

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Posted by Cpt2007

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Cpt2007

Yes, you can be married in a Catholic Church, but you would not have a full Nuptial Mass. Just a ceremony.

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not true, you can still have a mass you just cant take communion. Some churches wont allow you to have mass but there are many churches who will still allow you to have a full mass regardless if one is not catholic. I am not catholic and i was given the option of doing a mass, i couldnt take communion thats all

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different in your church then! those were the rules in mine.

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i know exactly, thats why i said some churches dont allow you to have a full mass but there are churches who do allow it. This was reposted by OP on 09 boards and someone else mentioned not doing the full mass but me and another girl who is in same situation as me with not being catholic also said she is able to have a mass if she wants to.

When it comes to a few things, some church allow things that others don't