Cold Feet

Naaaa, not yet! I've still got 10 months

Actually.... Funny thing is that FH always teases me because i LITERALLY always have cold feet. even if i have like 2 pairs of socks on

ok, i know that doesnt answer your question though


I dont have cold feet about marrying Mike,,, but i'm definately getting nervous... But the only part that makes me nervous is that initial moment when the church doors open and i seen a million people (i know it wont be That many,, but it will feel like that).. staring at me. Once i get through that part though, i'll be fine

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Posted by DIJBH

Not about my darling FH but about other things like my dress!

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same here

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Posted by neeniebean86

Actually.... Funny thing is that FH always teases me because i LITERALLY always have cold feet. even if i have like 2 pairs of socks on

ok, i know that doesnt answer your question though


I dont have cold feet about marrying Mike,,, but i'm definately getting nervous... But the only part that makes me nervous is that initial moment when the church doors open and i seen a million people (i know it wont be That many,, but it will feel like that).. staring at me. Once i get through that part though, i'll be fine

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Totally with you on that on- I hate when people are looking at me. That's why I am having my dad AND mom walk me down the aisle so I can hide

Cold Feet, no. Sweat dripping, nauseous, feel like wanting to become an ostrich when people keep reminding me that its my day and everyone will be there to see me and about how long the church aisle is!!

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Posted by neeniebean86

But the only part that makes me nervous is that initial moment when the church doors open and i seen a million people (i know it wont be That many,, but it will feel like that).. staring at me. Once i get through that part though, i'll be fine

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Ditto

I'm only nervous about the way it will all come together. All my planning. All my little details. Will they be noticed?

I'm not nervous about marrying him though. Been waiting foor that all my life.

No way am I nervous about marrying FH. We lived parallel lives for so long before actually meeting each other... went to the same college, same dorm, knew so many people in common but yet never met, that I knos it is meant to be.

I am nervous about a few of the wedding guests. His Aunt Barbara is VERY socially inappropriate... starts conversations in the middle of a funeral service etc. MY nightmare is that while I'm walking down the aisle her arm will come out of nowhere, grab me and shout, 'Wow, I hope you didn't pay a lot for that dress' or something equally crazy. We think she was born with a low IQ but I hae a mentally retarded cousin and he is the picture of social etiquette compared to Aunt Barbara... UGH!

I get cold feet about the wedding all the time, but definitely not the marriage.

i've been with the man for 10 years - if i get cold feet now then i'm in trouble!!

Happy to report NO.
I have been looking forward to being his wife for 7 years.

im just worried about things that i want him to change WONT change after we get married. he knows i wont marry him if he doesnt change his ways on two situations... i just dont want to get hurt again and be MARRIED!!!
we had a really big 'talk' (and by talk i mean fight) about it last night. i think i got the message through. he almost started to cry and i knew then that i wanted to marry him.
i guess i just wanted to get EVERYTHING off my chest before i do!!!

hope thats not bad!

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Posted by lolita4life

im just worried about things that i want him to change WONT change after we get married. he knows i wont marry him if he doesnt change his ways on two situations... i just dont want to get hurt again and be MARRIED!!!
we had a really big 'talk' (and by talk i mean fight) about it last night. i think i got the message through. he almost started to cry and i knew then that i wanted to marry him.
i guess i just wanted to get EVERYTHING off my chest before i do!!!

hope thats not bad!

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I dont think its bad that you guys had a fight and you got everything off of your chest... its a normal thing in any healthy relationship.

BUT if the only way that you will be happy in your marriage is IF he Changes, then i think theres some more things that you need to work out either with him or with yourself. Marriage isnt a band aid, and if it was broken before, it will still be broken after. these are things that you need to Resolve... not force him to change. You dont marry someone to change them... you marry them because they ARE the person you want to be with.

I know its hard, Jes, but you need to resolve this asap. And, as much as *I* hate to admit it, it may be something that you have to compromise on. I know it $ucks, but itll make your life so much easier. FH's bachelor party was last month... he knows i have an issue with strippers, and it goes deep, like the thought of it seriously disgusts me. Anyway, everytime he goes to a bachelor party, i would be pi$$ed for even days afterwards. For his BP though, i knew they were gonna get strippers, and i wouldnt take that away from him- i wouldnt make him stay home from his friends BPs when they were there, so i definately wouldnt take this away from him- not that its my place to anyway, im not his mother. Anyway, it was still eating away at me, and i ended up spending the day with my Dad and we had a long talk. He asked.. 'Do you love him? Yes. Do you trust him? Yes Do you think he'd Ever do anything inappropriate? No. Then let it go. Trust me when i say it's not worth it. there's going to be things that each of you do that the other one isn't happy about, but you have to choose which ones to hold onto and which ones to let go of. If you dont let go, you can never move forward'

Seriously, my dad is the last one to give advice EVERRRR, and the last one to defend anyone thats Not his family (MY happiness is what comes 1st.. not an outsider, ya know?). So for him to say this meant more than i ever imagined... and ya know what? I let it go, and seriously, its been complete happiness since then. You really have to choose your battles, and figure out 1. is this one worth it and 2. will you still have a happy marriage IF he doesnt change?

its hard, b/c i dont know details, but i feel like so much in a relationship really comes down to this.

Good luck