Come in here and slap some sense into me... (long)
Original post by JimmysBride
So... one of my BMs calls me the other day regarding Bachelorette party stuff and asks for FH's number to give to her live-in boyfriend (not a GM) supposedly so that HE can discuss bachelor party plans with him.
Well turns out her BF (let's call him Mike) really wanted to ask FH for help in getting her an ENGAGEMENT RING!!! Now, he's been talking engagement since Nov and it hasn't happened yet so we had pretty much given up on him.
Now, the reason I need to be slapped: I am THRILLED that my cousin (BM) will be getting engaged soon and I am VERY happy for her. BUT -- I don't like the idea that Mike wants MY FH to help him get the ring and GET IT FROM THE SAME PLACE he bought mine! I don't know why.... I just didn't like the idea of her ring coming from the same exact place as mine. FH didn't get my ring from a common place and LOVES telling the story of what he went though to get my ring. It's his story, ya know? He's very 'proud' of it so as you can imagine he isn't exactly thrilled about this either.
Why can't Mike just do his OWN homework and find her ring on his own, ya know??? I know, I'm being silly. Of course, FH is going to help him and point him to where he got my ring... I'm just not thrilled about it.... is that so wrong? If so... please proceed to slap the sense back into me...
Spot12905
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SLAP
Dont even worry about that you have better things on your mind. You may tell your FH to send him to a different place to buy a ring.
LoriH
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Slap!
But from your post I think your initial reaction is normal. FI spent a ton of time finding the right place to get your ring and it kinda feels like this guy is cheating by getting away this easy.. Especially since you had given up hope that he would ever ask her.
I think this feeling would have passed in a few days even without everyone telling you to be flattered about it instead.
AJsMommy122
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as much as id love to slap you around a little.. I just cant It is kind of silly... but I would feel exactly the same. Esp. if my fh had a story behind the whole thing... one min. they are stealing your ring story... and the second she copies everything else you do for your wedding.
jvs77
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I think I would only be upset if he chose the same exact ring as you. (But, of course, it could never be 'exactly' the same b/c no two diamonds are alike.) I wouldn't be bothered at all that he's going to the same store. If it's a great store, then, why shouldn't he go there?
LIJuneBride
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I think you've been slapped enough but I agree with the others.
B2BMay04
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My God woman, don't you have enough to worry about. As stated many ways above, take a step back, look at the situation ofr what it is. Your FI has a great story that makes someone want and trust his advice. Flattering that he thinks your ring is so awesome to ask. Of course he won't pick the same ring. Who would want that
