It's her fault for staying with him. I would not waste my time for 10 yrs. And he shouldnt be mad at your FH anyway.....he obviously doesnt want to marry her. I say enjoy your day and your whole planning process. Don't feel guilty for being happy and starting a life with FH.
Posted by BernandRob
I say just act like you normally do when you see her. If she brings it up you talk about it. I mean I think that your fh cousin needs to either get the girl a ring or let go if he is not interested in marrying her. It's not your fault he hasn't made the move like your FMIL said, enjoy people oooh and aaahing over you and FH, but of course like you said don't rub it in her face.
That sure is a difficult situation. But if she is your friend, she'll be happy for you no matter what since she should realize it isn't your fault that she isn't engaged. I guess i'd try to avoid the topic with them for a little while, but you deserve to be happy. If they dont understand, it's their problem.
OK, here goes. It wasn't 10 years, but FH and I will have been together for almost 6 1/2 by the time we get married. I have been that girl, waiting for a ring when it seemed like everyone else was getting one. (he finished college, got his MBA and we bought a house together in the meantime.) Having said that, all those close to me and getting engaged during that time were wonderful. They were excited, and happy, and I was happy for them. They included me in their plans, and I WANTED to be included. They also were sensitive, and were able to hold a conversation that included topics other than their wedding. Now that I've gone on and on, it just really comes down to being yourself, and being sure not to take on any of the responsibility of your FH's cousin. It is HIS issue. Not yours. Enjoy your time, you deserve every sweet and wonderful moment of it!
you can act as happy as you want!!!! i wouldnt get stressed over it....im sure no matter what she is going to be upset and a little envious......enjoy your moment!
He's mad at your FH for giving you the ring? He needs to sh!t or get off the pot! Your FH should tell him that. He's got no right to be mad..he should feel incredibly bad for not proposing to her or cutting her loose if he has no intention of marrying her.
Posted by kat107
OK, here goes. It wasn't 10 years, but FH and I will have been together for almost 6 1/2 by the time we get married. I have been that girl, waiting for a ring when it seemed like everyone else was getting one. (he finished college, got his MBA and we bought a house together in the meantime.) Having said that, all those close to me and getting engaged during that time were wonderful. They were excited, and happy, and I was happy for them. They included me in their plans, and I WANTED to be included. They also were sensitive, and were able to hold a conversation that included topics other than their wedding. Now that I've gone on and on, it just really comes down to being yourself, and being sure not to take on any of the responsibility of your FH's cousin. It is HIS issue. Not yours. Enjoy your time, you deserve every sweet and wonderful moment of it!
I AM GOING TO GO TO THIS PARTY AND ACT LIKE I NORMALLY WOULD AND IF IM TALKING ABOUT WEDDING PLANS WITH OTHER FAMILY MEMEBERS I WILL FEEL HER OUT AND SEE HOW SHE ACTS.... BUT HONESTLY< IM SURE THE FAMILY WILL FEEL BAD AND NOT MAKE A BIG DEAL AND ASK TO MANY QUESTIONS ABOUT IT BECAUSE SHE WILL BE THERE... BUT.. YES IM SO HAPPY AND I CANT HIDE IT.. HIS COUSIN NEEDS TO GET OVER IT ... AND MY FH TELLS ME HE DOESNT CARE HE IS 100% HAPPY !!
Act as you normally would around her, let her bring it up, that way you can show it off and not hurt her feelings or make her think you are bragging.
its ur time to shine and its not ur fault or ur fiance's fault that this guy has not popped the question.. enjoy every minute of it and if conversations about ur wedding come up and then just let it come up dont try to hush the conversation...
