Could you beleive this

denised07 Posted: Jan 21, 2004 10:53 PM

Could you beleive this

My friend from college asked me if she could be in the bridal party I was not going to have her, but is that nervy. I feel bad because she has cancer and I would feel bad if I made her feel bad so I told her she could be in it. My fiance had a fit because he doe not like her at all before she got sick she was such a ***** What should I do Can I tell her now that I cant have her?

gertyrae Posted: Jan 21, 2004 10:56 PM

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Oh dear, I would hate to be in your situation. I think it would be really hard to uninvite her. I would love to have an easy answer, but I can't think of any.
Unless you told her that your FI is only having so many people and you want to keep the number the same, obviously she would take you over that number, that may be your only out.

AJsMommy122 Posted: Jan 21, 2004 10:58 PM

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I agree with above. You can say 'jane' asked if she could be in it and you said no and now everyone is upset that she asked and shes in it.. or you can say between the flowers and gifts and rehersal dinners and such you really cant afford it.. but would love for her to come dress shopping.. or i dunno something to make her invlolved ?!?!?

janet Posted: Jan 21, 2004 11:15 PM

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i don't know how bad this is but if you are going to use her cancer to have her in the bp i would really think about this before you make up you mind. if you really feel that way about her that she is a pain in the neck then don't do it. but if you want her then do it for you not for her. good luck and keep us posted

MrHostility Posted: Jan 21, 2004 11:22 PM

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Posted by denised07
before she got sick she was such a *****

Sometimes it takes unfortunate things to 'wake' people up to the way they were acting. If she has changed, and you were friends with her, why not throw her a bone? Maybe she thinks it would be her last chance to be in a wedding, who knows.

If you really still dislike her, tell her you already have everything setup, if you want to go the letdown easy route. Or let your FH tell her what he thinks of her.