So, my original plan was to have a friend of mine make my girls their DOJ. She was a fellow LIW bride and got married 10/07. I already knew that my MOH prob would never wear the jewelry after the wedding b/c she only wears gold and the jewelry would be crystal/silver. Now, another of my BMs saw a pic of what the jewelry would look like and told me honestly that SHE would never wear it again after the wedding, either! I am so frustrated! I mean, I really don't want to spend all that money to have them wear it once, you know? So now I think I am just saying they can all choose their own darn jewelry and I'll get them something else. GRR! It just pisses me off b/c who would tell someone what to give them as a gift??? I just think its ballsy.
Ok, I needed to vent - thank you, I am done now LOL!
MrsJ08
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For her just saying that, you should still give them the Jewelry...shes probably a blunt person, who didnt know any better...dont worry about it...the 2 weddings i have been in, the brides gave us jewelry. If its really bothering you, you can just ask if she has any suggestions...good luck!!
Annoulak
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how much were you planning to spend on the gift? maybe we can make some suggestions in that price range.
jeffamanda080808
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I'm am getting my BP their DOJ as a gift...if they like it great...if not, OH WELL!!! I'm also getting them a little something else which I know they will love. But honestly, if you want them all to match with jewlery give it to them as a gift. I think it's rude for your BP to make any comments to you. I was in a BP where I got the DOJ and personally I hated it, but I smiled and said thank you, wore it on the day for the bride and put it in my jewlery box in hopes I can wear it for Halloween one year!
RisiLeigh
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I just don't want to spend the money on that when I can spend it on something else they will all love (I am thinking of gift certificates to a spa or a massage). If they all already have jewelry they can wear then fine. It just annoyed me that she commented at all when I was getting her a gift, you know? Oh well - I am over it :) Thanks, girls!
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Aw I'm sorry that she said that. I guess she just wanted to be honest? I am getting jewlelry for two weddings that I am in and I think it is a good idea, then I don't have to worry about getting my own! I think a lot of times the brides expect the girls not to wear it again, so maybe that is why she commented. My friends told me I would probably never wear it again but I actually think I might lol.
jgl
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honestly i would apprectiate them being honest. i wouldnt want to spend all that money on jewelry to find out later that they never wore it again, didnt like it or etc... its not a gift if they will never use it
but i understand why you are upset
FutureMrsCarrieri
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Posted by jgl
honestly i would apprectiate them being honest. i wouldnt want to spend all that money on jewelry to find out later that they never wore it again, didnt like it or etc... its not a gift if they will never use it
but i understand why you are upset
ditto
Mici n KC
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It is rude for someone to say that. In all the weddings I have been in, all the gifts I received I have never used. I received jewelery and wore it for the wedding and that was it. It's not my taste. Think of it as a blessing in disguise. I am going to get my BMs all gifts that suit their personal styles. I want them to be able to use it again after the wedding.
MrsK2008
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Did she know you were intending to give that as a gift?
Knowing how they feel about it, maybe you should ask them to buy the DOJ and find something else? just a thought.
