Curly hair questions...

I hate my hair and havent stopped thinking about how Im going to wear if from the min I got engaged.
I have naturally very curly hair. Spiral curls. I blow my hairt straight and it comes out pretty darn good (I wear is both ways).
Anyway, I have a huge forehead and dont really care for my bangs to be pulled straight back. Here's the biggest issue, (Please dont laugh, its pretty serious), underneath I have this very frizzy coarse hair that doent do anything. it just stays there puffed out. I've gone to so many people and they just dont understand it...
Anyway, for people with curly hair, how are you or how did you wear your hair?
Any pics would help thanks