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Well...as far as her walking down the aisle, she definitely doesn't need to walk down with FH's bro. I was in my ex boyfriend's sister's wedding and so was he but we didn't walk down together. If he is the BM then he should absolutely walk with the MOH and you can have her walk down first so that she's all the way at the end of the line and you don't have to look at her

Well first, i'm sorry you have to deal with this.

Next, if she is not the MOH then she is to walk with a GM. Just because their a couple doesn't mean they HAVE to be paired up. I had couples in my BP and they were not paired. We did it mostly by size order. Your MOHs should be with the BMs and the bridesmaids should be with the groomsmen. If she doesn't like it, then tell her to have a seat somewhere.

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Posted by Rosa29

To be really honest...if you don't want her in your bridal party, I don't think you should put her in. My FH brother is the best man in our wedding, but his wife isn't a BM. I just picked the girls I am close with and really want there. Why should you have to put her in the wedding, they are not engaged and even if they were it's your wedding.

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ITA.

Sorry if this sounds harsh but...You asked her to be in your bridal party, so now she's in. It's a lot of effort to cut her out of all your pics. If you don't want her in your pics, you shouldn't have asked her. I think it's just rude to exclude her or make her feel like she's not at the same level of importance as your other BMs. She may one day be your SIL...why burn this bridge now? And btw, if you crop her out of pics in your album, she'll see it. That's a pretty major bridge to burn.

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Posted by Rosa29

To be really honest...if you don't want her in your bridal party, I don't think you should put her in. My FH brother is the best man in our wedding, but his wife isn't a BM. I just picked the girls I am close with and really want there. Why should you have to put her in the wedding, they are not engaged and even if they were it's your wedding.

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Same here. Neither one of FBIL's wives are in the bridal party.

I didn't even ask my SIL to be a BM, even though FH asked my brother to be a GM. I was not going to include her as we are not close. To be honest, I tolerate her because of my brother, and my adorable neice.
Since she is in your party, see if she makes an effort, if she doesnt then so be it.
She definitely does not have to walk in with your FBIL.

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Posted by Rosa29

To be really honest...if you don't want her in your bridal party, I don't think you should put her in. My FH brother is the best man in our wedding, but his wife isn't a BM. I just picked the girls I am close with and really want there. Why should you have to put her in the wedding, they are not engaged and even if they were it's your wedding.

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i completly agree!! if i could get away with not inviting 2 of my fh's brother wives i would do it LOL

One of the reasons I opted to ONLY have a MOH was because of this situation. I knew if I didn't ask FSIL that there was going to be drama and I am not close with her so I didn't see why it should even be an issue. I ended up sidestepping around it, hahah.

In your situation since you already asked her you're kinda SOL, you can't unask her once you did and its not like you had a falling out. I'm sure if you feel you're not that close, she feels the same way.

So take whatever pics you want but don't make her feel bad that you made a poor decision (sorry but its true).