Dais or sweetheart table

Original post by Maribelle7777

Jan 31, 2004 06:53 PM

FH says he told me he wanted a dais with all the wedding party sitting at it at the reception.

I said that since we are not doing an 'irish wedding' (where you eat first and then dance afterwards, it's what alot european countries/customs do) that maybe it would be better to have a sweetheart table (just the 2 of us) and we can break up the wedding party and have BM's and GM's sit with their significant others. He says that his friends won't care that they are not sitting with their significant others but because it's not just 'eat first' thing they are going to be separated from them longer for the evening.

I would like to get a sense of who did what. Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions but if he was in an American wedding and I was just the guest and there was a whole dais, I would be pissed off I had to sit on my own the whole night (unless I knew my table mates).

Thank you
Mary

Shea Posted: Feb 03, 2004 08:01 PM

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my fiance and i are sitting at a dais and the bridal party at the sweatheart table with their dates. what do u guys do if not everyone will fit at one table?

mich Posted: Feb 03, 2004 08:18 PM

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we're doing a sweetheart table- I want the bridal party to sit with their dates!

Moehick Posted: Feb 03, 2004 09:22 PM

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sweetheart table

Marcela1654 Posted: Feb 03, 2004 09:38 PM

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Sweetheart table although FH originally wanted to a dais. But I convinced him not to. I don't want my friends and his friends sitting away from their spouses, girl/boyfriends. So instead we're going to put our BP at the 2 closest tables to us w/their significant others

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Feb 03, 2004 10:15 PM

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We are doing the sweetheart table - BUT IF our BP keeps driving us insane they keep telling us WHO they will and WILL NOT walk, sit, dance with - THEY WILL be sitting at a dias! OR as FH puts it they will be sat alone in the corner until they can play fair

Jax430 Posted: Feb 03, 2004 10:28 PM

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We are doing a sweetheart table. I'm personally not a big fan of the dais. I want my bridal party to be able to sit with their significant others.

Smolokoff Posted: Feb 03, 2004 10:52 PM

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We haven't discussed it, but I know I prefer a sweetheart table. Someone once told us that we have the rest of our lives to eat alone, we should have a dais, but I don't know. One GM is FH's uncle. Does that mean he won't sit with any other family members? We have to think about it.

charlotte227 Posted: Feb 12, 2004 07:15 AM

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Sweetheart table I'm not sharing my boo with anyone and we like to tell to many dirty private jokes between each other we're kismet like that!

cluelessbride Posted: Feb 12, 2004 08:26 AM

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i'm having a cocktail reception, so it's little different, but we are sitting at a big table with our families. the bridal party is sitting with their significant others. we think we will hardly be at our table though, we'll be walking around.

PrincessRose Posted: Feb 12, 2004 10:47 AM

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I guess I'm the only one, but I'm somewhat put off by the sweetheart table. I want my bridesmaids there with me! I've been to a few weddings in the last year (was in 3) and there was one Sweetheart table, two dais, and one where there were two tables where the Bridal party sat. The last one was the most uncomfortable for me, firstly because the Bride and Groom were at the other Bridal party table (I felt like I was secondary to other BP members), and FH was at another table ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE HALL. He didn't have so much fun during dinner. But that won't be a concern for many women here, unless they're getting married at Tarrywile in Danbury.

I really like the Dais - I think it looks Grander. And the dates of the BP will know other people there, so I don't see it as a problem.

september2004 Posted: Feb 12, 2004 11:59 AM

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neither?

i don't want to split up my BP from their SO's and i'm not one to be the center of attention, so...i will most likely just have regular tables all around.

tourist Posted: Feb 12, 2004 12:23 PM

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that's what I want to do. I haven't checked with the hall though.

I have a small BP ( all cousins), so I'd like to sit at a table with them & their dates/spouses.

My friends did something like that. They had a regular table, with thier MOH & BM, and their siblings ( who eere also in the BP) and the spouses & dates.
They had 3 other bp members- 2 sat with their dates at our table (friends) and 1 friend of the family sat with her husband and her family.

akanini Posted: Feb 12, 2004 11:59 PM

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Princess, you're not the only one......My earlier post said I'll be doing dais. The hall I want to only did sweetheart so I didn't book with them. I want my BP with me, that's the purpose of having them there. I'm not worrying about THEIR dates. They won't die not being around them for a few hours PLEASE. Besides everyone in my BP is family so noone will feel left out.