I just got an e-mail from my MOH, it was a whole list of e-mails back and forth between her and my sister talking about the shoes they are going to wear, well let me just add some bleeps for you to read: MOH says: Okay, this what we are doing with the shoes. When our dresses come in, we are taking a piece of the fabric to a store that DYES shoes the color of the dress. We are NOT doing silver. If you can find DYABLE shoes that are open toed, then that's fine, but I doubt that you can. There will be NO spray painting of shoes. And if the shoes you have picked are not dyable, than you better try to take them back to get a refund. There will be NO compromise on the shoes. The other girls are perfectly happy with what we are going to do.
Now my question is this? What is up with this demanding she take back shoes BS? This is coming from the same girl who didn't even want to try on a dress about 6 weeks ago because she felt sorry for herself. I don't give a flying flip if she is my MOH...NO ONE talks to my family members that way, I don't care how much my sis and I fight!!!!
Sorry just had to get that out I am so mad right now.
bogiedmb41
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do you care that much about the shoes they are going to wear? because if you dont then tell your MOH to calm down and stop talking to your family that way. its disrespectful. maybe she still feels sorry for herself and is taking it out on your sis?
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I agree with bogie. She's acting worse than a bridezilla being so demanding. If you don't care what shoes they all wear, let your MOH know to take a chill pill. However, if you do want that 'uniform-look', then I still would talk to the MOH for coming out so snotty, but also nicely ask your sister (even apologize for MOH) to get the shoes everyone else will wear.
Good luck!
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Playing the devil's advocate here, but has your sister been giving everyone a hard time about OTHER things? Maybe your sister has somehow gotten on your MOH's last nerve? She could be the one who is being indecisive to a fault and mayb your MOH is speaking out of frustration and on behalf of the rest of the bridesmaids. For whatever reason, she sounds rude now and there is an obvious lack of communication. Time for an intervention! I think you need to hear both sides of the story and YOU make the final say in what color shoes the girls wear! Good luck! I know how you feel about Bridesmaids from HELL
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this isn't really what you are asking, but I thought I'd mention that all my BM had dye-able shoes and they were all open-toed. Very easy to find. Craft shoes in Commack.
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I know you don't want to hear this, but at least she's looking out for you!
I got walked ALL OVER by 2 of my BM's. And, the other BM's didn't really want to ever say anything to them.
So, after my rehearsal dinner, my maid of honor couldn't take the way that they had been treating me anymore and tried to HIT one of them...I had to hold her back and my DH had to CARRY HER AWAY. (She's my very best friend in the world, and this BM had been HORRIBLE to me throughout the ENTIRE engagement and started to yell at my maid of honor.)
On the DAY of the wedding, my matron of honor said a couple of things to keep them all calm.
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What right does she have to determine the shoes for YOUR wedding?
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had there been a previous issue about shoes? maybe she thought she was sticking up for you - but she went way over board.
What does she mean, she doubts your sister will find open toed dyable shoes? That's what my BMs are looking for- I have seen several on-line.
I can send you some links, if you want to piss her off.
Did your syster suggest spray painting? If not, that's kind of insulting that your MOH thought your sister was that cluless , but if she did, maybe that jsut set her off.
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I don't understand - shouldn't you decide about the shoes they wear - not your MOH? It sounds like there is some major problem between the 2 of them. Maybe you should habve them sit down and talk it out.
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Honesttyl, I don't think that sounds SO bad. It's incredibly hard being the MOH and I had to send out some pretty tough e-mails. It's really hard to get everyone together, and sometimes you have to have a firm hand. I'd just ask her about it. I mean, if these people wanted to spray paint their shoes or wear silver, then she really had to set them straight.
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OMG!!!! This is exactly what my MOH sounds like too...about everything!!!! 'This is my bouquet..' 'This si the dress I'll be wearing the the other BMs can wear this...' I can't wait til her wedding. She is going to be bridezilla on crack.
