Dates for guests

jullei Posted: Apr 14, 2009 10:50 PM

Dates for guests

What's everyone's plus one rule? Are you guys giving everyone in the bridal party a date even if they are not in serious relationships?

help!

soontobemrsag Posted: Apr 14, 2009 10:52 PM

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its funny i was talking to FH about this - i am not doing that if they are above like 25 & in a serious realtionship then absolutely plus 1 but my future brother in law whos 35 is not getting a plus one. I dont want a stranger (or a booty call LOL) at my wedding!

GT143EA Posted: Apr 14, 2009 10:55 PM

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Yes everyone in the bridal party got invited with a guest.

Sweeteey51 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 10:59 PM

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we gave the ones in bridal party a guest that is in a serious relationship or married or doesnt know anyone else at the wedding.

jullei Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:01 PM

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I completely forgot to add 'and guest' on the invitations that went out to the single ppl in our bridal party. The one thing I'm not worried abt is ppl not knowing ppl because all our friends know each other. But now I'm wondering if those in the bridal party will be pissed that they weren't given a date on the invitation? thoughts?

meara Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:01 PM

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I'm not . it was only an issue for one person my MOH and there was just no reason for her to bring a guest. . she isn't dating anyone and would just be a friend so. . . we only invited people in rel with guests. .

eta. . and she really didn't care. . I would have for her of course b/c she's my MOH but she wasnt interested b/c she wanted to be there for me and knew a bunch of people anyway

meara Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:03 PM

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Posted by jullei

I completely forgot to add 'and guest' on the invitations that went out to the single ppl in our bridal party. The one thing I'm not worried abt is ppl not knowing ppl because all our friends know each other. But now I'm wondering if those in the bridal party will be pissed that they weren't given a date on the invitation? thoughts?

I don't think they will but you can always ask them if you intended to

mlcvln129 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:05 PM

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Every bridal party member got invited with a guest, whether they take it or not. Any cousins over 21 in serious relationships got a guest as well--something that I forgot to indicate on the envelopes (since we didn't use inner envelopes due to the pocketfolds)--and we've had a few phone calls clarifying this. Also, any single guest in a serious relationship got a +1 as well.

Nina1010 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:50 PM

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Everyone is invited with a guest. Pretty much we are going to know 99.9% of the ppl there...so I am not really worried. Besides...only a few ppl are single...and I don't want to discriminate.... I remember how it was when I didn't get the plus 1.

Espo22 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:54 PM

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well we invited everyone with and guest if they were single but let me say that most of the single people we know came alone. I think only 1 single person brought someone and everyone else came alone, most knew others there. I knew most would do this too bc i know they usually do come alone to events.

Sweeteey51 Posted: Apr 14, 2009 11:54 PM

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Actually your bridal party is supposed to get guests, but if your way over (like I am) i only gave it to those bridal party members it was necessary for.

FutureMrsG Posted: Apr 15, 2009 12:34 AM

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I am only inviting people with guests if they are engaged, married or in a serious relationship. It is too $$$ to invite everyone with a +1.

Celeste617 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 01:59 AM

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We were only doing invites with a guest if they had significant others. I spoke to one of my BMs about this because I didn't want her to just FIND someone to bring. I can't stand that Joe Schmo guest that some people will schlep to a wedding because they HAD to find a guest.

MrsCtobe Posted: Apr 15, 2009 07:01 AM

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I gave everyone a plus one. I hate going places alone so I like to be invited with a guest.

HotAir Posted: Apr 15, 2009 07:12 AM

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We are inviting everyone with a guest. I've seen people get hurt feelings when they have been invited to weddings alone so I didn't want to do that.

springsandra Posted: Apr 15, 2009 07:31 AM

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The people whose guests I knew (like live-ins), I put their names on the invitations. The people who are single and not with anyone now that they plan to be with in 3 months, I didn't write anything. I've been talking to the friends I see and telling them that if they want to bring someone just to let me know who it is in advance (well in advance).

Oddly, the bridal party is single, or the spouses are away right now (my FSIL's husband is in Afghanistan with the army and unfortunately his leave got pushed from July to September so he won't be there, and my FH's best friend's wife is due 6 weeks after the wedding so his wife won't be there) -- my two best friends are both totally single, but get along with each other so they'll just pair up if need be.

alli3131 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 07:41 AM

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I invited everyone with a guest. I don't think its my place to decide if some else's relationship is 'serious'. Many of the people we invited with a guest are coming alone anyway but I wanted them to make that decision not me.

kgicrls Posted: Apr 15, 2009 07:49 AM

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I only invited people in serious relationships with a guest. Only people in the bridal party in relationships were invited with guests as well. I can't afford to pay for people I don't know. I have a feeling my guests will bring someone I don't know and I don't want that.