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Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Lydia Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:22 AM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:22 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

What's everyone planning on or hearing is standard for cash tips the day of the wedding? So far what I've heard is I should tip the following people, but not sure how much...

Photographer
DJ & MC
Matre'd
Bridal Attendant
Officiant (we are not getting married in a church, officiant coming to venue)

ldequatro Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:40 AM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:40 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

I just made all our envelopes last night (goodbye savings account)

Maitre De - $400 (3.50ish per person)
bridal attendant - 100
videographer - 100
photographer - 100
dj - 100
MC - 100
officiant - not tipping, he charges $500 for a half hour of a ceremony, i think that's enough.
flower delivery - 40

I think that's it.. we don't have a limo

Lydia Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:42 AM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:42 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Thanks!

ldequatro Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:45 AM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 10:45 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

oh I forgot photo booth attendants, $50 each

LydiaandPaul Posted: Sep 30, 2014 11:48 AM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 11:48 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

When I told my fiance about day of wedding tipping, he was like 'more money?' Poor guy is gonna start breaking into hives LOL

Lydia Posted: Sep 30, 2014 11:51 AM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 11:51 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

I actually haven't told my fiance yet about this 'minor detail' yet lol I'll wait until it's much closer before I scare him

ldequatro Posted: Sep 30, 2014 12:12 PM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 12:12 PM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

I'm the main bread winner, so I covered all the tips.. FH helps out when he can, but it's been pretty much just me and my dad and a generous check from FH's mother.. It's much scarier when you come home with a ton of 100 dollar bills and have to pretty much give it all away in one night lol

ndc923 Posted: Sep 30, 2014 12:14 PM+

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Posted: Sep 30, 2014 12:14 PM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Posted by LydiaandPaul

When I told my fiance about day of wedding tipping, he was like 'more money?' Poor guy is gonna start breaking into hives LOL

LOL!

ilovephotobooths Posted: Oct 01, 2014 04:56 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 04:56 PM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

When we were visiting the Fox Hollow, they told us $1200 for the Maitre D (which covers all gratuities for the staff) and $125 for the Bridal Attendant.

I had to pick my jaw up off the floor at work, the next day, when my colleague told me that we had to tip everyone else.

We booked a band. Do we have to tip the band too?

Thanks!

rcotter90 Posted: Oct 01, 2014 05:24 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 05:24 PM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Posted by ilovephotobooths

When we were visiting the Fox Hollow, they told us $1200 for the Maitre D (which covers all gratuities for the staff) and $125 for the Bridal Attendant.

I had to pick my jaw up off the floor at work, the next day, when my colleague told me that we had to tip everyone else.

We booked a band. Do we have to tip the band too?

Thanks!

n

$1200?!?! That's like my while tips budget! I was told $3-5pp. So I figured around $700 if I go with $3ish for 175 people. And yes, you should tip each band member.

haw4 Posted: Oct 01, 2014 06:58 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 06:58 PM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Maitre 'D :300-400
Waitstaff: 300-400 split up amongst them
Bridal Attendant: 100
Bartenders: 50 each
Flower delivery: not sure yet
Rabbi: she's charging a fortune so I'm not sure about that yet
DJ: 50-100
MC: He's an owner so we aren't tipping him
Photographer: 50-100 (we are only tipping 1 because the 2nd one is also an owner)
Videographer: 50-100

terrylovesroy Posted: Oct 01, 2014 07:15 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 07:15 PM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

im not setting any tips.. i will tip by SERVICE after the wedding with a nice card.

kellynicole91 Posted: Oct 01, 2014 07:48 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 07:48 PM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

I haven't even thought about this but I just booked a DOC and she said she will provide me with wedding tipping guidelines! THANK GOD! lol

ilovephotobooths Posted: Oct 01, 2014 09:25 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 09:25 PM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Posted by rcotter90

Posted by ilovephotobooths

When we were visiting the Fox Hollow, they told us $1200 for the Maitre D (which covers all gratuities for the staff) and $125 for the Bridal Attendant.

I had to pick my jaw up off the floor at work, the next day, when my colleague told me that we had to tip everyone else.

We booked a band. Do we have to tip the band too?

Thanks!
n

$1200?!?! That's like my while tips budget! I was told $3-5pp. So I figured around $700 if I go with $3ish for 175 people. And yes, you should tip each band member.

Well, we're having about 300 people, so $1200 is $4 per person.

Anyone have an idea on what is an appropriate tip for the band members?

katielynn Posted: Oct 01, 2014 10:58 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 10:58 PM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

This was from a previous post on LIW: I also read somewhere that you will need $1000 just for tips the day of.

Average
Matre De $3-5 pp
Bridal Attendant $100-$150
Altar Boys $10-$15pp
Organist $15-25pp
Singer $15-25pp
Violinist $15-25pp
Flower Delivery $10pp
Photographer $100-$150
Photographer Asst $50-$100
Videographer $100-$150
Limo town car 15-20% of bill
Limo Infiniti 15-20% of bill
Limo Rolls Royce 15-20% of bill
Limo Drop Off @ end night 15-20% of bill
Photobooth Attendant $50-$100
DJ & MC $75-100pp
Zap Photos $50-$100
Lighting Tech $20
DOC $100 each
Hair 20% final bill
Makeup 20% final bil

KSRUSSO15 Posted: Oct 01, 2014 11:39 PM+

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Posted: Oct 01, 2014 11:39 PM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

My fiancé is gonna have a cow when I get the courage to tell him about the tips

booie135 Posted: Oct 02, 2014 08:47 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2014 08:47 AM

Day of the wedding - Cash tips

I told my FH about the tips a few weeks ago, he flipped, then got over it and realized we'll have to tip obviously but we will tip what we can and with respect to services! I think its kind of crazy that there's a range for 'tipping,' you should tip based on service not based on 'standard practice.'

JessicaP07 Posted: Oct 02, 2014 08:53 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2014 08:53 AM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Posted by booie135

I told my FH about the tips a few weeks ago, he flipped, then got over it and realized we'll have to tip obviously but we will tip what we can and with respect to services! I think its kind of crazy that there's a range for 'tipping,' you should tip based on service not based on 'standard practice.'

I agree. We will tip what we can and based on service. A $1200 tip to me is insane. I don't feel tips should be expected or mandatory

Kimberley2015 Posted: Oct 02, 2014 09:48 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2014 09:48 AM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Posted by LydiaandPaul

When I told my fiance about day of wedding tipping, he was like 'more money?' Poor guy is gonna start breaking into hives LOL

Lmao!

dariamarie2 Posted: Oct 02, 2014 09:50 AM+

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Posted: Oct 02, 2014 09:50 AM

Re: Day of the wedding - Cash tips

Posted by ilovephotobooths

When we were visiting the Fox Hollow, they told us $1200 for the Maitre D (which covers all gratuities for the staff) and $125 for the Bridal Attendant.

I had to pick my jaw up off the floor at work, the next day, when my colleague told me that we had to tip everyone else.

We booked a band. Do we have to tip the band too?

Thanks!

I just met with Fox Hollow for my final meeting and they suggest a price and it was were no where near that number for the Maitre D