Personally, I wouldn't go and just send a gift and explain to her the situation. That's a lot of travelling and money and as long as you're going to the wedding, i think that's what matters. I'm sure she'll understand. You have your own wedding to pay for.
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hmmmm I think since you will be traveling to FL for the wedding, I think it's understandable that you wouldn't be able to make it to the shower, but I would send a gift. I know if I was the bride in this situation I would completely understand if you couldn't make it out for both events and i would much rather have you attend the wedding than the shower.
chreesta
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If you can afford to take the time off and spend the money, then do.
If you can't, then don't--and don't feel bad.
She has to be understanding that it is expensive to travel, get a gift, etc.
You are going to the wedding which is the most important thing!
HTH
ETA: I would still send a gift!
AngnShaun
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not go... ive never heard of STD's for a shower..
ETA: I would send a gift though...
ColliMac23
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Just send a gift and tell her you wish you could make it
itbroi805
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I agree...I would explain that it's a lot, and just send the gift
HarrymetSally
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thanks for the advice girls. I am definitely sending a gift- I just really hope that she understands why I can't be there....
allornil
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I'm sure she'll understand. you're going back a month later for her wedding! definitely send her a gift with a really regretful note.
and I;d of course tell her now that you can't go so she'll know that you WANT to go but cant.
MrsTarricone2B
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I would never be able to afford all that! Your bf is getting married so I'm sure she knows how much money goes into a wedding - she should understand why you can't be there. If I were you I would send her a gift and a really nice card saying how much you wanted to be there and how hard you tried to figure out a way for it to work but in the end you just couldn't afford it.
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i sure hope she understands. my BF lives in VA and she can't make for for anything but the wedding. (and she is a brides maid)
i could never expect hero come to NY for all the pre-wedding events. I'm not even expecting a gift from her.
Im happy she will be standing with my for my wedding.
don't stress and yeah send a gift :)
mybabylovesmoi
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I just had to decline a wedding out of state and I was sick with guilt over it. I really wanted to go but after adding up the hotel, travel, gift, and dog boarding expenses, it just wasn't possible when another RH payment is due the monday following the wedding.
I wrote a long, from the heart, card and stuck a check in it. She was so gracious and understanding about it and really made me feel 100% better.
If she's a good friend and a decent person, she would understand that people can only stretch themselves so much.
