Deleted cause my fh saw it and now is very mad at me making me very upset and causing me more stress while I am in so much pain
vicky1125
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Re: I needed to vent I am so stressed and upset. Sorry it is long
& here i thought i was the only one. first i'd like to say good luck with your teeth. hope you feel better.
as far as your FH not putting your first, been there. i'm the president of that club. my wedding was supposed to be in september of 2008 & because FH's sister can't make it i had to move it to June 2009. but that's after months of fighting & arguing & almost telling him where he & his family can stick it. his mother cause that whole argument. she said she wouldn't come to the wedding unless his sister was there. she always choses his sister over him & he just sits there and takes it. yet he does more for his family then his sister will ever do in her whole life. he would tell them they're wrong about the wedding & then in private tell me to move it. i ended up giving in, for now. i will have my revenge when the time comes. like his mom wants to help with the wedding plans but i'm not letting her do anything. i told her i've taken care of everything already. & i'm also helping make plans for his sister's baby shower but that's for political reasons. so that later on when they try to interfer again i can say f you, i helped with the baby shower.
his family is his family & you cant change them. i did tell him that if he doesnt put me first then i wont put him first. he will get the same respect from me that i get from him. try not to stress it. i'm sure he cares but this is also taking a toll on him.
NickandTara426
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Re: I needed to vent I am so stressed and upset. Sorry it is long
Aww I'm sorry you're going through this. I think you should sit down and tell him how you feel and be open and honest with him. You two are family you will always be there for one another, you have to stick together, support one another. Also, let him know that it bothers you that when he says one thing infront of fmil or fsil and then another thing infront of you when it's just the two of you. I hope everything works out, feel better! HTH!
ELluvsMB
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Re: I needed to vent I am so stressed and upset. Sorry it is long
I feel like a lot of couples fight around the time they are planning their wedding. I haven't started too much planning yet but we've had some bad moments especially when FMIL got involved. I was really lucky that he decided to stand up to her in the end. The whole process is extremely trying and stressful on relationships. I think if you stick it out and try to put things into perspective you will be fine. I mean the real reason to have a wedding is to be with the person you love for the rest of your life....not to make everyone happy. I really feel like weddings these days are so out of control. Sometimes I find the need to pull myself back to reality and realize what I am doing all of this for. Good luck with everything and I hope it works out!
flairforfashion
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My advice? ALWAYS MAKE THE BEST OF IT. There are times that I just at my FMIL because she says the most stupidest things and does things that I find ridiculous. I also don't get FH's sister sometimes. BUT, I always come out as the nice one. They have nothing bad to say about me because I am sweet as pie and make conversation and include them in everything. When it comes to your future husband's family, you always have to make an effort. I know you said you have but you have to continue with it no mtter what. Keep trying. Don't let anyone get to you.
