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mybabylovesmoi Posted: Jul 12, 2010 03:55 PM

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Jsquared Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:01 PM

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Hell yes i would bring it up to her! Is it a personal friend of hers?
He can see all of your tagged pictures, wall-to wall conversations through her being friends with him!
He probably stopped reaching out to you because his curiousity was satisfied by creeping on her facebook!!
I would make her delete him right now. I am so not into sh*t like that! Youre friends should have loyalty to you, as you do to them . She should understand.

OK. Im being slightly dramatic but i hate ex bf drama !! I had so many close girlfriends who did things like this to me intentionally so I would just come clean about how you feel. be upfront.. if she is a true friend she will understand completely.

rendel Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:07 PM

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I think you should speak to her Anney, if she really doesn't speak to him then it shouldn't be a horrible thing to remove him.

JLWSJC Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:08 PM

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I would definitely bring it up to her, but not in an angry way. She might not realize after all this time how strongly you'd be reacting to this information. Talk to her. I fI were her, I'd have no problem removing him.

itbroi805 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:12 PM

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I would def bring it up! Tell her how you feel and if she's not even friends with him then it wont be a big deal.

MissingLI Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:18 PM

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Posted by JLWSJC

I would definitely bring it up to her, but not in an angry way. She might not realize after all this time how strongly you'd be reacting to this information. Talk to her. I fI were her, I'd have no problem removing him.

ITA. Definately speak with her and a heartfelt way about why you feel the way you do. She probably doesn't get it, especially if she's never been through that.

kedra5 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:23 PM

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Posted by MissingLI

Posted by JLWSJC

I would definitely bring it up to her, but not in an angry way. She might not realize after all this time how strongly you'd be reacting to this information. Talk to her. I fI were her, I'd have no problem removing him.

ITA. Definately speak with her and a heartfelt way about why you feel the way you do. She probably doesn't get it, especially if she's never been through that.

I agree with both of these girls. She may not even realize that shes still friends with him on FB if they have no communication. I'd def bring it up to her and just ask if she didnt mind deleting him...she should have no issues with it. Keep us updated!!!

Sorry you had to deal with this!!

aquag12283 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:28 PM

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I would bring it up to her especially since his behavior in the last few years could be enough to get a restraining order against him. I wouldn't definitely insist that she unfriend him ASAP!

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:32 PM

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should I call her or email I usually prefer email to phone so i can collect my thoughts since my words get all jumbled when I'm emotional about something.

JLWSJC Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:43 PM

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I think that depends on you and your MOH... you know you're more comfortable with email, but you're obviously worried about how she's going to react, so will she feel more attacked via email vs phone?

ETA, if it were me, I'd personally call, she the person could hear the worry and concern in my voice and not think I was mad at them. But that's how I and my friends are...

allornil Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:43 PM

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In this case, I'd call. I had a similar situation w my ex husband and my best friend. she said she knew she shouldn't have friended him but she was curious. Turns out she didn't know how to UNFRIEND him. we did it together.

Just explain how it makes you feel unsafe and that you;re not mad at her but it would make you feel better if she deleted him.

Chanwich Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:46 PM

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F YES talk to her! I'd say give her a call, my guess is that she totally doesn't realize that she is still friends with him, or something like that. If she is a true friend, then don't worry about calling and being a mess, she will understand! But you should definitely get it taken care of so you don't have to worry about this psycho anymore!

Notwedyet08 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 04:54 PM

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I think you should bring it up; especially from the way it sounds how he made you feel; and how you felt just learning he was mutual friends with her. He sounds very creepy; and i woudln't want him to have any access to me if i were you!

Danielle41209 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 05:03 PM

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Posted by Notwedyet08

I think you should bring it up; especially from the way it sounds how he made you feel; and how you felt just learning he was mutual friends with her. He sounds very creepy; and i woudln't want him to have any access to me if i were you!

ITA.

You don't want to spend your time worrying about what he could do to hurt you when you should be excited to be getting married to someone who treats you like gold! If she doesn't to un-friend him, see if she can block him from seeing anything on her profile page.

CrazyLove11 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 05:03 PM

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Posted by Jsquared

Hell yes i would bring it up to her! Is it a personal friend of hers?
He can see all of your tagged pictures, wall-to wall conversations through her being friends with him!
He probably stopped reaching out to you because his curiousity was satisfied by creeping on her facebook!!
I would make her delete him right now. I am so not into sh*t like that! Youre friends should have loyalty to you, as you do to them . She should understand.

OK. Im being slightly dramatic but i hate ex bf drama !! I had so many close girlfriends who did things like this to me intentionally so I would just come clean about how you feel. be upfront.. if she is a true friend she will understand completely.

AGREED!

DCgirl82 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 05:13 PM

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I would def bring it up to her. Explain to her that the reason you asked the BP to unfriend him is because you are really scared of him espec since he sounds like he stalks you. He doesnt need to have any access to pictures of you, your life or your wedding! Is it possible she forgot or doesnt know how to unfriend him on Facebook? How long ago did you ask them all to do that?

MrsDtoB Posted: Jul 12, 2010 05:14 PM

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I totally hear you, I would be so upset. If she is a good friend of yours, I would definitely call her up and speak to her about it. My ex fiance wasn't creepy, but once we broke up, I made all of my friends, family members, etc take him off as facebook friends, I didn't want him knowing anything. There should be no communication between him or your close friends.

DCgirl82 Posted: Jul 12, 2010 05:17 PM

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Posted by mybabylovesmoi

should I call her or email I usually prefer email to phone so i can collect my thoughts since my words get all jumbled when I'm emotional about something.

I would honestly call her and just explain in a very nice way that you were on FB and saw him come up under mutual friends of his. Tell her that you would really appreciate for her to unfriend delete or Block him so that he has no access to your pictures or anything u write to her. I would deff be careful not to write any wedding details on FB for now cause he is a creeper and might see the posts. We def dont want that!