ummm... I am sorry to say I really disagree with you here. Having a baby is HUGE... I do not think anyone needs to 'plan' it around your wedding. People should not have to double check to make sure having a baby fits with someone else's event. You should really just let it go and be happy for her. Everything will workout... I don't see how this would 'ruin' your day. Worst case scenario she might not be a bridesmaid if she is to far along. There are soooooo many worse things out in this world. This is not something that would upset me.
Also I don't think I would care at all about wether she stayed at the same place I booked for a honeymoon
I totally agree with AugustFeather. This is a happy occasion...you're going to have a nephew/niece! Of course, your wedding is top priority to you and FH right now but it doesn't mean that it is to everyone else around you. Sorry, but I think you should really let it go...if it comes out that you are that pissed about this it's going to reflect poorly on you.
Totally agreed. You can't expect people to put off trying for a CHILD. I think that's selfish.
I agree. One of my bm's is trying to conceive and quite frankly I would be THRILLED if they told me tomorrow that she was pregnant - and my wedding is 6 1/2 months away. Having a baby is a HUGE deal and would being a bm any day of the week.
Like I said earlier my Sister would have been 6 moths and I was EXSTATIC! Unfortunatly she lost the baby last night and my whole family is distrot. **And she is my Maid of Honor
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Posted by ColliMac23
My sister ordered hers and became pregnnt, unfortunatly we found out last night she lost the baby But she can always order a bigger size if need be
I'm so sorry for your sister's loss
I went to a wedding where one of the bridesmaids (bride's FSIL) was 9mos preggers... they had EMS people on call in case she went into labor! She ended up having the baby 2 days after the wedding, and the bride couldn't have been happier for her. Also, the pics were adorable.
I didn't get to read the original post before it was deleted, but from the responses I can say I agree that I'd be upset if someone had to miss the wedding, especially if they were close enough to me that they were a BM. But as far as taking someone out of the wedding b/c they are pregnant, I feel that's bad karma. What if you told them they couldn't be a BM anymore then (God forbid) they lost the baby? Or say a BM puts on 50lbs b/c of stress, etc. Are they out too b/c of how the pics will look?
JMO, nothing personal toward anyone who feels differently.
ETA: Whether we were trying or not, I would hope that if I were in a bridal party, the bride would not kick me out for becoming pregnant. It would feel like they're implying it's something to be ashamed of. Again, JMO.
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The only thing I'd be worried/upset about is them missing the wedding, If she would be 9 months around the time of the wedding, I'd worry she'd be in labor and they would miss the wedding or not be able to make it if they had a newborn
thats the only thing I'd be upset about...The whole prego girl in a BM dress would be the last of my worries and I actually think its kinda cute
You can't tell people how to live their lives and especially not when or how to have a baby, it sucks yes, but it is what it is...and shes not even prego yet so don't stress yourself out
I just dont understand why she would want to put herself in that position to possibly not be able to attend your wedding?
let it go...move on..it may not even happen
Couldn't have said this better myself!!!
I didn't see the original post of this but get the idea from the posts. Having a baby is a very big thing for some couples its even bigger if its hard for them to conceive. I don't find anything wrong with it. Just the only fact of her being 9months, but she'd have to be pregnant right now to be that at your wedding. I wouldn't stress it! But really in the end a baby is a beautiful thing not something to be hating on bc of someone being too big & pregnant to be a BM!!
