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soontobecruz Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:43 PM

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NYgirlinTX Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:45 PM

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O noooo... I hate people like that. I would just 'nicely' suggest a different color.

soontobecruz Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:47 PM

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Jna2010 Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:47 PM

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i honestly wouldnt even bring it up unless it becomes an issue,.... she what she says tomorrow about all the colors, if shes leaning towards pink then i would bring up the subject, dont worry!!!!

Im_My_Own_Princess Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:50 PM

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Posted by Jna2010

i honestly wouldnt even bring it up unless it becomes an issue,.... she what she says tomorrow about all the colors, if shes leaning towards pink then i would bring up the subject, dont worry!!!!

ita

NYgirlinTX Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:51 PM

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Well definatly wait till you guysg go BM Shopping, but if it comes down to her picking the same color, I would def. have to say something.

Tough tough tough position to be in... And if all else fails, i would just stop sharing your wedding ideas with her. So she can't copy you anymore.

Dawa Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:51 PM

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oh no....i would be feeling the same exact way! First off I wouldn't show her anything else you are doing for you wedding until the last possible moment...just say you want everyone to be surprised if she asks why she can't know things.
And about tomorrow, totally do your best to sway her to a different color. I'm sure you'll be able to give her hints in a nice way that pink is yours. As silly as this may sound, you have every right to fight for your wedding colors!! hahaha
Good luck tomorrow!

FutureCap Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:52 PM

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IF she picks the color then i would tell her that was the color you picked and hope she backs down. that stinks.... but I hope you are worrying for nothing, maybe she will surpise you!

soontobecruz Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:53 PM

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mariedsgn Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:54 PM

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I wouldn't bring it up, if she picks your color I would tell her that that is the color you picked, and then see what happens

GiannisWifey Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:55 PM

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i wouldn't mention anything just yet....wait and see how tomorrow goes and if it does come up that she wants to pick the same color or even somewhat similar shade, I would mention it and simply state that you ordered things that already revolve around the color and that you choose it a long time ago and would totally change it but its too late??

soontobecruz Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:56 PM

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I feel like I am over reacting I just know how she can be sometimes.

regy_k Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:56 PM

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Posted by Dawa

oh no....i would be feeling the same exact way! First off I wouldn't show her anything else you are doing for you wedding until the last possible moment...just say you want everyone to be surprised if she asks why she can't know things.
And about tomorrow, totally do your best to sway her to a different color. I'm sure you'll be able to give her hints in a nice way that pink is yours. As silly as this may sound, you have every right to fight for your wedding colors!! hahaha
Good luck tomorrow!

total ITA
and just b/c she is very hard to confront, doesnt mean u should.
that being said, wait till tomoro and see what she decides

little j Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:58 PM

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soontobecruz Posted: Oct 20, 2009 02:59 PM

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little j Posted: Oct 20, 2009 03:03 PM

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KerriJohnS Posted: Oct 20, 2009 03:05 PM

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Posted by Jna2010

i honestly wouldnt even bring it up unless it becomes an issue,.... she what she says tomorrow about all the colors, if shes leaning towards pink then i would bring up the subject, dont worry!!!!

ITA - I wouldn't say anything until she does. You don't know if she is definately going to pick pink. And you have a luxury of being there with her so you can stop her. Just say something along the lines of.... I think you should do something that's not pink so we have different looking weddings... being that the same people will be in and attending both weddings.... you want them to be different from one another. THen say... you already picked and paid for (blah blah) for your stuff so you cannot change it now.

If you REALLY want to though... you can have a serious talk with her about it. Just an honest conversation. I find it's best to be honest almost all of the time. Just say... coral is cool... but can we please try not to make it too pink of a coral?.... I want each of our weddings to stand out and look different being that they are so close together. She should understand. If she then says anything nasty, you can even politely inform her that you have been trying to accomidate her by not even getting married in your original month. That's a HUGE sacrafice in and of itself. Use the 'May Card' as a last resort if you need to back yourself up at all.