Depressed about my Shower

I'm helping my mom organize my shower, and the women invited were supposed to call to rsvp by last week. Well we sent out 85 invitations, and I figured maybe 50-60 people would come. Well, so far we only got 30 yes, 29 no, and 26 still haven't rsvp'd at all. Some of the people who aren't coming I'm really upset about, some people had the LAMEST excuses... like my friend I've known since we were 5, isn't coming because she'll have to 'study for a midterm' (who has midterms at the end of April??)... so she can't take a break and come for a few hours?? Come on. A lot of my close family members also rsvp'd no, and a bunch of people my mom hasn't heard from at all. If it's this hard to get people to call for the shower, I can only imagine how many people won't rsvp for the wedding. Barely anyone will show up. It just makes me feel like nobody cares or wants to be there.. am I being a baby about this? I know I should be happy I'm getting married and all that, Sorry to complain I'm just depressed about it

You're not being a baby, I kinda am afraid alot of people won't come to my shower either. There are a bunch of babies due around the time it would have to be. I promised myself that I would not be upset though, no matter how many people didn't come, even if I am upset. I will just act like I am sooooo happy, and not take it personally, because I don't wanna look back years from now and remember feeling sad for my shower. I guess if there aren't as many people as you wanted there, you should still be happy, because the people who are there for your special day want to see you happy! And they might sense if you are upset, and that will make them feel bad. It'll still be your special day!

I know how you feel, you're not being a baby. If it makes you feel any better, only 3 people are coming to mine from FH's side, his mom didn't even invite people because she viewed it as a 'hassle' and 'financial burden' she didn't want to put her friends through.

Think of it this way, 30 people is still a nice size for a party, and this is all about you and FH getting MARRIED anyways.

does that help? I have to keep reminding myself that this is all about us getting together and then the stress seems more bearable.

I just wanted to give you more huggies!

Thanks ladies!!! Looking at it that way from your perspective, I actually feel better!!! You're right, it'll be great no matter what

dont worry the ppl that didnt respond are just dopes and are stuck in their own world. you'll have plenty of ppl there and you'll have a great time - i promise!!!!

I know how you feel. My mom invited like 70 people to mine, and I think I had like 34 or something. And there were only 7 people from FH's side (his mothers), and his dad's side from Staten Island didn't come. They didn't even rsvp by the deadline, FH had to call all them to find out! And they didn't even send a card or gift till like 2 weeks after the fact, when FH's dad told his sisters how disappointed he was they didn't come.
It ***** especially when you always do and do for others, and don't get anything nice in return.
I'm sorry..but it will be nice and the people who are there, are their bc they love you tons!

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Posted by LaurenF

you learn about a lot of people that you may have always thought were better friends. that really s*cks- i'm sorry.

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i couldnt have said it better myself. Through out this entire process i have been learning who really is my friend and who isnt

don't worry...i felt the same...we had about 60 people and only 35 showed up. a few never RSVPed and some of the people who didnt come i was upset about..

but after its all said and done...you wont even worry about it

what's important are those people who do attend. and also most of them will come to the wedding and that's probably when you want them to come the most

i was in the same boat..but i was so thrilled with my shower...

you are not alone. I think we all kinda have that same worry..'how many people will or wont show up' My first set of invites are due in by April 14th. I thought for sure that more people would have responded already but didnt. I so want to call them and say...DAM i put the stamp on all you have to do is write your name and put in mailbox!!!

I think this is all a part of planning

It's okay! Youre not being a baby. Im sorry its not panning out the way you were hoping. Dont let it get you too down, youll have a ball at your shower!!! Enjoy the ppl who do come.

Dont worry, the number of people isnt going to make your shower great! Its that you are surrounded by people you love and love you back> I opted for a smaller shower just b/c thats what I wanted.
It will be a great day anyway!!!

I would feel upset if that happened to me!

Sorry!

Thanks for the support everyone!! I feel a lot better now. I'm just not going to let it bother me!!