Depressed and need to vent

Okay so I apologize ahead of time for bringing everyone into my personal life but everytime I think about my wedding I am excited and cant wait, however on the other hand, I get really depressed.

You see, about a month ago out of NO WHERE (he wasnt even sick) my dad started feeling bad like he had acid reflux so he went to the doctor. Turns out they diagnosed him with Esophageal Cancer. I guess with this type of cancer it is usually not found until its too late and it spreads to other parts of the body. Turns out this is the case for my dad (he is stage 3 of 4). If you research the disease and this type of cancer the 5 year survival rate is really low (like 20%)!!! They are trying chemo now and they said if it doesnt work by February they will stop the chemo and just let him 'be comfortable'.

I have a lot of hope but my wedding is in June and I am afraid I will not be able to share this experience with him!! It ***** and theres nothing I can do to really make it better!! Sometimes life just deals you some bad hands I guess.

Okay sorry for the vent...pray for him though!!!

I'm so sorry about your Dad. You and your family are in my prayers.

Have you thought about moving up the ceremony, that way he can share the most important part with you?

So sorry you are going through this...

I am so sorry to hear this! I will pray that you are able to at least share this wonderful day with him! But remember if he isn't able, I'm sure the only way he would want you to be is HAPPY!

ETS: PLEASE DON'T APOLOGIZE!!! This is what we are all here for!

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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse

I'm so sorry about your Dad. You and your family are in my prayers.

Have you thought about moving up the ceremony, that way he can share the most important part with you?

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Unfortunately Im an accountant and from January through April they kick my butt with CRAZZY hours so I cant really take time off. Plus we just got engaged a month ago (right around when we found out) so Its hard to move it up cause we'd have no one attend since we just picked the date!! Also, my dad would hate it if we did that..he'd feel guilty and wouldnt want us to rush things just for him (since we dont have all our vendors booked yet ..i know we are behind!) and my dress wouldnt even be ready (not til May)

I'm so sorry!!!

i am truly sorry that this has happened. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers...

What about doing a simple ceremony before your wedding - sooner rather than later? This way - he gets to walk you down the aisle, in the very least at a Town Hall or something....then, God forbid something does happen....you were able to have that super special experience....and if he's okay by your actual wedding date - then you can make a huge show of it for a second time!!!!

i'm sorry if this upsets you - but i hope it helps....

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Posted by davenjess

i am truly sorry that this has happened. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts & prayers...

What about doing a simple ceremony before your wedding - sooner rather than later? This way - he gets to walk you down the aisle, in the very least at a Town Hall or something....then, God forbid something does happen....you were able to have that super special experience....and if he's okay by your actual wedding date - then you can make a huge show of it for a second time!!!!

i'm sorry if this upsets you - but i hope it helps....

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Yeah unfortunately he'd never let me do that!! He'd hate himself if I did that and I wouldn't want to upset him!! Plus I live in Pittsburgh and they live in New York and with my crazy work schedule (i have to work minimum 55 hour weeks and weekends) I wouldnt be able even to go home and he cant travel really :(

Oh my, I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

O no! I am SO very sorry about your father.....
You just have to pray and hope for the best...
Stay positive and hopefully that will help him stay positive... Thats the key to healing!
He will be in my prayers!!!!

So sorry you are going through this

you & your family are in my prayers

I am so sorry that your dad is sick. I truly hope the chemo works. That being said, the best piece of advice I can give to you is to move back home and spend time with your dad. Hopefully he will recover, but if you are having any doubts at all, I really don't think you should miss the opportunity to spend time with him. I know how crazy it is being an accountant during tax season, my dad's best friend was one. If financially you can survive leaving your job and looking for one in NY, I would do it. I'd imagine plenty of places need extra help this time of year. I also agree with the other ladies who suggested that you have a ceremony sooner, and then have the party as planned.
If it is what you truly want, I think your dad will come around. I know several people who had a private ceremony earlier than their reception.
I'm sorry if I said too much, I just really feel your pain, and I wish that I could have had extra time with my dad, or that he could have seen me get married. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

i am so sorry for you...prayers for your dad

So so sorry

So sorry. Prayers for you, your dad and your family.

I am so sorry but i must share a story with you
One of my closest friends' father was diagnosed with this cancer about 5 years ago

They did chemo and radiation
They said he would have a feeding tube and never eat again

he went through many treatments and was able to eat Thanksgiving dinner that same year (about 10 months after first diagnosed)

Don't give up hope

Im so sorry you are going through this. Please hold on to your faith! We will all pray for him.